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NaiveDuck · 26/07/2025 06:08

MuckFusk · 26/07/2025 04:19

I'm so sorry you and your child went through that and that you had to deal with that poster's ridiculous comments.
I'm thinking that one is not the brightest of bulbs. Watching a lot of true crime doesn't make you an expert on anything.

I'm not saying I'm an expert. You, and that poster, misunderstand me.

I am saying that the VICTIMS FAMILIES have gone on camera and SAID that they feel closure.

Are you saying they're lying?

Well, are you?

NaiveDuck · 26/07/2025 06:06

PyongyangKipperbang · 25/07/2025 22:42

Been thinking about this and you have no experience at all apart from "follow[ing] true crime and the DP in America" and yet you have the temerity to tell me, who has guided her own child through the horrific murder of their best friend, that you know better?! The victims father and I are in touch with each other, my child is in touch regularly with the victims mother.

I am genuinely not sure whether to laugh at your arrogance or cry at your insinuations that I know less that you because of what you saw on the telly.

The victim I have referenced has a memorial at the National Arobretum. I am very VERY pissed off at you suggesting I dont know what I am talking about.

Oh because you know one person, you think you know better than the familIES (plural) in America and THEIR OWN TESTIMONY?? Talk about arrogance! These people have said ON CAMERA that they've had closure.

And you are calling them LIARS.

Think about that for a moment.

ohnotthisagain2025 · 26/07/2025 05:50

Yep. The person who did this is not human. Not everyone in a human suit is actually human, if you are capable of doing this you lose all your rights, including the right to life. I'd be personally ok with being the one to pull the switch on him and any others who do similar. We need them out of the gene pool, they create utter misery and their vicious brutality ripples outward making the world a far, far worse place, which in turns has repercussions for future generations.

They cost normal people millions each year to keep them alive for no reason, and nobody should ever have to deal with them in any way.

They are a cancer. Kill them.

UnderCoverB0ss · 26/07/2025 05:44

NaiveDuck · 25/07/2025 15:47

It is permanent if the person is locked up for their whole life. What else would you call that, other than permanent?

I think for the cases where there is zero doubt the person did it, like in this case, the DP is warranted.

Perhaps those who expect the state to feed, house, clothe, medical care etc the person for life should pay for it? Do a poll, those who are against the death penalty (for cases like this) should have to pay tax in order to fund the inmates care. It shouldn't be put on those who don't want to pay for that person for life.

Thin end of a wedge there. What if someone kills another person in a collision? No question who was driving? A 22 year old has recently collided with and killed the driver of a mobility scooter that was on the wrong side of the road, does the 22 year old face death? What about the people that saw the woman on the wrong carriageway and did nothing? Are they culpable? What if she wasn’t 22 and was a 79 year old who shouldn’t really be driving because of cataracts? How do you choose who warrants death and who doesn’t? It’s a slippery slope.

ilovesooty · 26/07/2025 05:13

wombat1a · 26/07/2025 04:55

Not if the sentence was carried out within hours as it is in other countries.

Which countries carry out executions without the right to appeal?

wombat1a · 26/07/2025 04:55

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 24/07/2025 23:00

It costs more to keep someone on death row until they are killed rather than in prison their whole life

It doesn't act ad a deterrent in any way

The wrong people get killed

It won't bring people they've murdered back

Not if the sentence was carried out within hours as it is in other countries.

MuckFusk · 26/07/2025 04:19

PyongyangKipperbang · 25/07/2025 22:42

Been thinking about this and you have no experience at all apart from "follow[ing] true crime and the DP in America" and yet you have the temerity to tell me, who has guided her own child through the horrific murder of their best friend, that you know better?! The victims father and I are in touch with each other, my child is in touch regularly with the victims mother.

I am genuinely not sure whether to laugh at your arrogance or cry at your insinuations that I know less that you because of what you saw on the telly.

The victim I have referenced has a memorial at the National Arobretum. I am very VERY pissed off at you suggesting I dont know what I am talking about.

I'm so sorry you and your child went through that and that you had to deal with that poster's ridiculous comments.
I'm thinking that one is not the brightest of bulbs. Watching a lot of true crime doesn't make you an expert on anything.

MuckFusk · 26/07/2025 04:06

naturalcrackle111 · 25/07/2025 17:46

I don’t understand either. And not one person here has answered why the ones caught red handed can’t be executed, they keep coming back to “they could be innocent” 🤦🏻‍♀️ and “we live in a civilised country” yeah right cause we do. With its two tier system 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'll answer it. In effect that would be giving the smarter criminals who were clever enough to not get caught red handed a benefit that was not available to the stupid ones who were caught red handed. So they would, in essence, be killed for their stupidity. Can you live with giving the smarter ones special breaks they don't deserve?

MuckFusk · 26/07/2025 03:57

Thatsalineallright · 25/07/2025 20:02

Which brings up an interesting point. On a thread about euthanasia I was arguing that it could be misused to pressure vulnerable people into dying against their will.

Several posters said that even if that happened, it would be worth it to give all the other people the freedom from pain and end to their suffering.

I think the death penalty could be misused and lead to innocent people dying. I wonder if the posters who argued in favour of euthanasia would apply the same logic to the death penalty. Would they say the benefits to the many outweigh the risk to the few?

Saying it could be misused is a far cry from saying it is being misused, whereas we know for a fact that innocent people have been put to death.
There should obviously be strict safeguards in place for assisted death to avoid coercion.

MuckFusk · 26/07/2025 03:54

CurlewKate · 25/07/2025 20:00

Is nobody interested in the impact of society of judicial killing, and the issue of the employment of executioners?

I am. Very much so.

MuckFusk · 26/07/2025 03:52

If the death penalty actually was proven to be a deterrent (spoiler- it hasn't been) and there was no possibility of false convictions in death penalty cases, you might have somewhat of a point. But even then, you have the reality that it has a brutalizing effect on society when the state can commit murder.

Internaut · 26/07/2025 01:16

Zov · 25/07/2025 22:43

Not when it's a murderous psychopath who has killed people - especially children.

It is still wrong. We have to draw a line in the sand. We cannot have a society where we say that killing people is the most serious offence there is, but which itself cold bloodedly kills people by appointment.

Buxusmortus · 26/07/2025 01:00

ZamaZama · 25/07/2025 21:53

And I’ve heard and read that it doesn’t always provide closure. Common sense alone ought to suggest it’s highly improbable all victims’ families feel the same.

Correct. An in law of my family had the appalling experience of their beloved parent being brutally murdered ( UK) and years later has had to bear the fact that the murderers have been released. Not once have they ever wished that the murderers had been or deserved to be executed, in fact they are very much against capital punishment.

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 25/07/2025 23:57

no me either

ilovesooty · 25/07/2025 23:56

Allisnotlost1 · 25/07/2025 23:49

I’m afraid I just can’t take you seriously.

You're not on your own there.

Allisnotlost1 · 25/07/2025 23:49

OonaStubbs · 25/07/2025 23:44

How would it cost more? Just change it so if someone is convicted of murder, they are hung, there and then. It will save all the costs of having them in jail for many years. Plus if the law is retroactively applied we can execute all those currently in jail for murder. It is literally a win/win situation.

I’m afraid I just can’t take you seriously.

OonaStubbs · 25/07/2025 23:44

Allisnotlost1 · 25/07/2025 23:36

What a bizarre take.

I’ll make it simple for you. The government has finite resources, the country is in the shit. We need to invest in children and take care of old people, not squander billions on expanding the criminal justice system to accommodate the death penalty.

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How would it cost more? Just change it so if someone is convicted of murder, they are hung, there and then. It will save all the costs of having them in jail for many years. Plus if the law is retroactively applied we can execute all those currently in jail for murder. It is literally a win/win situation.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 25/07/2025 23:37

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 24/07/2025 22:49

YABU to use anything you read in the Daily Heil as the basis for forming a black and white opinion about a really complex issue.

This.

Allisnotlost1 · 25/07/2025 23:36

Glitchymn1 · 25/07/2025 18:28

You think social services could’ve helped Fred West?

What a bizarre take.

I’ll make it simple for you. The government has finite resources, the country is in the shit. We need to invest in children and take care of old people, not squander billions on expanding the criminal justice system to accommodate the death penalty.

daddysgirlnot · 25/07/2025 23:19

YABU
’It was Christie Wot did it’.

Allisnotlost1 · 25/07/2025 23:18

MorningLarkEchoes · 25/07/2025 19:52

I’m half-inclined to agree with you OP. However, I only think it should be used where there can be absolutely no doubt as to the guilt of the perpetrator e.g. in cases of mass murder in a public place where there are multiple witnesses to the crime, such as the Southport incident, or where the murder is caught on video.

So if someone murders multiple people but does a good job hiding the evidence, or doesn’t bother filming it, they get a different punishment?

Allisnotlost1 · 25/07/2025 23:14

Puzzledandpissedoff · 25/07/2025 18:40

If someone was serving a true whole life sentence and would never be released then I'd suggest education's less of a priority since they'd never be in a position to put it to much use

Social care's a bit more complex and it depends on what's meant by the term, but for me it certainly wouldn't include such things as counsellors or any social facility beyond the very simplest

As PPs have mentioned there are worse things than a quick death, and I'd be entirely comfortable with the very worst offfenders experiencing them

I’m talking about education and social care for the general population.

CurlewKate · 25/07/2025 23:05

Zov · 25/07/2025 22:43

Not when it's a murderous psychopath who has killed people - especially children.

This is an irreconcilable difference. Killing people is wrong. It’s damaging to society to have people whose job it is to kill people.

LBFseBrom · 25/07/2025 22:50

I am, and have always been, against the death penalty. I accept that means sometimes there will be people who have committed such a heinous crime that you cannot bear thinking about the horrific details, alongside some sad cases of inadequate people who may stand a chance of being rehabilitated.

We have to accept that if there is no death penalty, it's the same for all murderers.

There is capital punishment in some states of America and it is no deterrent, murders still happen all the time.

We have to keep on trying to make society better, even a little progress is worthwhile. We have come a long way and still have a way to go, no doubt always will, human nature being what it is.

Zov · 25/07/2025 22:43

SuburbanSprawl · 25/07/2025 21:28

And not one person here has answered why the ones caught red handed can’t be executed.

Because killing people is wrong.

Not when it's a murderous psychopath who has killed people - especially children.