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To think any man who participates in Bonnie Blue’s stunts should be publicly identifiable?

143 replies

ThisVividFinch · 24/07/2025 22:38

I’m talking about things like the “1000 men in 12 hours” she declared - if a man chooses to take part in something like that, I think he should have to show his face and name. Transparency, right?

You want to line up for it? Fine. But own it. Be publicly accountable for the behaviour you’re willing to engage in.

I wouldn’t want anyone in my life or circle - friend, partner, colleague, who saw that and thought “yeah, I’m in.” So crack on if that’s your vibe but women should at least have access to the list.

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UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 25/07/2025 14:37

EmeraldShamrock000 · 25/07/2025 14:19

She sells her body for money, she is not a porn star, at best she'd be described as a webcam girl, otherwise known as on screen prostitution.
You're correct it is not illegal.
I've no interest in who these men are.
Her and their actions undermine cases like Gisèle Pelicot. Feeding these men's weird mentality I mean if Bonny enjoyed it, other women will too.

Edited

Gisele was drugged
Bonnie makes her decisions

They are not comparable

clearveil · 25/07/2025 14:36

I read an article a while ago that pointed out that in many pro or amateur porn videos online that often the women's face, body and identifying markers would be clearly and consistently visible while the man's face and identifying features would often be blurred out. This was considered problematic because the man was not taking the same personal risks as the woman in the footage and it raised all kinds of questions about coercion, grooming, trafficking and exploitation either within relationships or as part of organised crime. The platforms and (the mostly male) users did not typically care about this as they were not there to look at or profit off of the male but the woman.

Dweetfidilove · 25/07/2025 14:27

Ideally there'd be a list, but putting the faces of those slimy buggers into the public domain will likely have a terrible impact on their children. I'm absolutely sure a large portion of her clientele will be men with families 😥.

If you want it public to warn women off them - that'd probably be largely unsuccessful. There are many desperate women who would make it Bonnie's fault for tempting the poor wee men, in order to start or continue a relationship with the scummy buggers.

ConfusedSloth · 25/07/2025 14:23

TheaBrandt1 · 24/07/2025 22:42

Why are the men anonymous but the woman isn’t? Can anyone explain that?

Several of the men have chosen to speak about it publicly. She has chosen to be publicly named. No one has been named against their will, no one has been forced into anonymity.

She chose to name herself in order to make money and clout from the stunt. Some men have done the same.

There's no difference from an anonymity perspective.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 25/07/2025 14:19

AutumnFoxe · 25/07/2025 13:41

Shes a porn star not a prostitute. And they haven't done anything illegal so why would they be publicly named?

She set this up for her own gain, she is earning from it, its her career not theirs thats why she is named and they arent.

She sells her body for money, she is not a porn star, at best she'd be described as a webcam girl, otherwise known as on screen prostitution.
You're correct it is not illegal.
I've no interest in who these men are.
Her and their actions undermine cases like Gisèle Pelicot. Feeding these men's weird mentality I mean if Bonny enjoyed it, other women will too.

AutumnFoxe · 25/07/2025 13:41

Shes a porn star not a prostitute. And they haven't done anything illegal so why would they be publicly named?

She set this up for her own gain, she is earning from it, its her career not theirs thats why she is named and they arent.

Maryberrysaga · 25/07/2025 08:26

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 25/07/2025 08:10

The thing I find most chilling is the fact that there is no way of telling if your brother, boyfriend, husband, friend, son is one who would be up for taking part.

They walk among us, presenting as perfectly normal, upstanding men.

Agreed! Can you imagine finding out your DH was one of the “men” who’d participated? Makes me feel sick!
It also demonstrates, very clearly, the difference between men and women when it comes to sex. If this had been a male prostitute there is absolutely no chance that more than 1000 women would have lined up for a 30 second shag. Wearing balaclavas??? Revolting.

PollyBell · 25/07/2025 08:15

Why? The woman arw making their own choices same as the men, maybe women should think more in general before sleeping with someone instead of being desperate for attention? How many red flags do women deliberately ignore or justify?

But i prasume what content the woman puts out is her own so she would have control over what is shown?

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 25/07/2025 08:10

The thing I find most chilling is the fact that there is no way of telling if your brother, boyfriend, husband, friend, son is one who would be up for taking part.

They walk among us, presenting as perfectly normal, upstanding men.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 25/07/2025 07:59

ohnotthisagain2025 · 25/07/2025 02:32

Don't be silly, it's been really easy to find out the harrowing details by just reading bits of news here and there and articles that quote what the prostitute herself has said. She hasn't gained a single cent from me, and never will, and nobody on mumsnet is going to click on a prostitute's site or watched filmed prostitution because of a post like this. The details are easy to find while completely avoiding the woman herself or anyone promoting prostitution and the only people who are interacting with prostitutes, clicking on their sites, giving them any sort of traffic are the depraved freaks who enjoy this sort of thing.

It's not me being 'silly'. You obviously don't understand how social media works.

sammylady37 · 25/07/2025 07:24

I wouldn’t want anyone in my life or circle - friend, partner, colleague, who saw that and thought “yeah, I’m in.” So crack on if that’s your vibe but women should at least have access to the list

Eh? And what’s your plan for when you get ‘access to the list’ and find a colleague on it? Are you going to change jobs? Or are you going to turn vigilante and try hunt/shame him out of a job? What if the boss says they don’t care what he does in his private life as long as it’s not illegal? What then? If you go to change jobs, are you going to demand a list of all employees before you commit to a new job? What about new hires? Do you think you should have a say in potential new employees coming in?

LoudSnoringDog · 25/07/2025 07:00

The men lining up look like they absolutely stink to high heaven too. Crusty, filthy socks, grubby finger nails. Ugh

Kimmeridge · 25/07/2025 06:37

Yabberwok · 25/07/2025 05:58

That's because it didn't happen. Sorry I'm male and I know we can be absolutely despicable. However, I could believe she could find 10 or 20 men to participate.... but no way would 980 others be involved in something so explorative or both her and them.
Sadly I think she has experienced trauma in her life and has some kind of mental illness. The publicity she has generated for her only fans account is the reason she has come out with such a story

Sadly it did happen. It was documented online at the time and they showed the queue of men waiting their turn.

RowanRed90 · 25/07/2025 06:36

Strongly disagree.

And I don't like these stunts one bit.

What is the thinking? To shame men into not doing it?

The same arguments could be applied to anonymous posts on Mumsnet surely.

Sh291 · 25/07/2025 06:34

Marble10 · 24/07/2025 22:46

It’s hard to believe there is 1000 men who willingly participate.
But I don’t think they should be publicly acknowledged. People get up to a lot of weird things which aren’t public information. Just because someone disagrees with someone’s morals, doesn’t make it illegal/wrong

You find it hard to believe that she found 1000 men who will willingly participate? Sorry is that a joke?😂

Sundaymorningcalla · 25/07/2025 06:31

ohnotthisagain2025 · 24/07/2025 22:46

If they choose to abuse a prostitute on video, we definitely need to see their faces, at the very least their wives and girlfriends need to have the chance to find out. They don't think there's anything wrong with abusing prostitutes, so they will have no problem being identified. Right?

A prostitute accepts payment in return for sex.

She's an adult performer not a prostitute - but definition.

SatsumaDog · 25/07/2025 06:06

I don’t know about making them publicly identifiable, but I would be devastated to find out any family or friends were involved. These stunts are vile and it’s obvious she has some serious mental health issues.

Yabberwok · 25/07/2025 05:58

That's because it didn't happen. Sorry I'm male and I know we can be absolutely despicable. However, I could believe she could find 10 or 20 men to participate.... but no way would 980 others be involved in something so explorative or both her and them.
Sadly I think she has experienced trauma in her life and has some kind of mental illness. The publicity she has generated for her only fans account is the reason she has come out with such a story

ioveelephants · 25/07/2025 04:14

ohnotthisagain2025 · 25/07/2025 02:46

Oh, wait, I get it. Your husband uses prostitutes and you are one of those who hate prostitutes but let the men off the hook.

Ok, understood.

I personally find her putrid and disgusting beyond all words, and the men equally so. But you crack on.

What a weird post 😂 you’re the one that sounds a little unhinged.

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 25/07/2025 03:58

TheaBrandt1 · 24/07/2025 22:42

Why are the men anonymous but the woman isn’t? Can anyone explain that?

Probably because her sole purpose for these stunts are financial gain?

Itsyouitsyouitsallforyou · 25/07/2025 03:47

TheaBrandt1 · 24/07/2025 22:42

Why are the men anonymous but the woman isn’t? Can anyone explain that?

It's really not very difficult - she is monetising this truly repugnant behaviour (of everyone).

dottiedodah · 25/07/2025 03:25

I think the whole thing is some dreadful publicity stunt.her parents approve apparently and are even on the payroll ! The point is that the whole sorry event would probably not happen if men were exposed. She is saying sex is no big deal so come and shag me! I can't decide if she has MH issues or just wants money and notoriety.She has a 200 grand sport car out of it .

GarlicMetre · 25/07/2025 03:11

SaintGermain · 25/07/2025 00:29

Yes. The should all be tattooed on their foreheads with the number they were given in the queue and a picture of a crab.

😂 The picture of a crab got me.

SouthernNights59 · 25/07/2025 03:08

Kimmeridge · 24/07/2025 22:51

Because shes proudly advertising the event to gain publicity. Its not a case of her being identified because shes female

Exactly this. It's her choice, no-one is naming her behind her back.

Vanlifedreamingmum · 25/07/2025 02:58

I 10000000% agree with this. It made me sick reading about it and snap I wouldn’t want someone like that in my life either. Very sad that it even happened tbh. I can’t imagine how awful she felt after and theg all should be disgusted with themselves i’m not sure they would though. :(

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