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To think any man who participates in Bonnie Blue’s stunts should be publicly identifiable?

143 replies

ThisVividFinch · 24/07/2025 22:38

I’m talking about things like the “1000 men in 12 hours” she declared - if a man chooses to take part in something like that, I think he should have to show his face and name. Transparency, right?

You want to line up for it? Fine. But own it. Be publicly accountable for the behaviour you’re willing to engage in.

I wouldn’t want anyone in my life or circle - friend, partner, colleague, who saw that and thought “yeah, I’m in.” So crack on if that’s your vibe but women should at least have access to the list.

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Shadowpalkia · 26/07/2025 06:54

AnnetteFlix · 26/07/2025 06:52

Why are you calling prostitution "sex work"?

Because sex workers want us to? Remember these people aren't evil and bad. We should respect their wishes. Prostitute is a derogatory term used to insult.

Eyesopenwideawake · 26/07/2025 06:53

All of you saying the penises involved are "diseased" – you do know how they became that way, don't you?

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 26/07/2025 06:52

Publicly accountable ? Much as I believe the whole thing to be abhorrent I do think people are free to do as they please so long as it isn’t criminal.

AnnetteFlix · 26/07/2025 06:52

pinkfondu · 24/07/2025 22:52

Why are you focused on one of the few sex workers who is making significant money. Surely the woman in your neighbourhood having to do sex work is a real crime

Why are you calling prostitution "sex work"?

Shadowpalkia · 26/07/2025 06:49

I think it is just because nobody sensible would agree with publicly outing people doing something totally legal to shame and harass them.

LlynTegid · 26/07/2025 06:46

ohnotthisagain2025 · 25/07/2025 21:59

I assume, always, and most sincerely, that anybody who is opposed to men who abuse prostitutes showing their faces are either a) men who abuse prostitutes or b) women who tolerate this from their husbands. I am absolutely serious, and this is not a troll of any kind. So if you start shrieking at me because I point out that these men are unutterable scum, the lowest filth imaginable, I am going to assume that is your reason for doing so.

I do feel pity for the b) group, but won't allow you to pretend those sort of men are normal or should be protected, even though I do pity your position.

I agree that they should not be anonymous.

The second group of women who in some way tolerate this I can only think of one reason that is understandable, that is if they don't want sex and it avoids being pestered by their husband (or worse) for it. Though better that they had the courage to leave such a man.

MotherPuppr · 26/07/2025 06:42

Yes whenever people say “consenting adults, doing nothing wrong, mind your own business” I think - well that’s not right is it? If they’re doing nothing wrong and it’s all good naughty fun why the anonymity?

perhaps because it’s grim, and the dirty bastards know it?

ohnotthisagain2025 · 26/07/2025 02:51

ohnotthisagain2025 · 25/07/2025 22:06

The OP said faces. I said faces. Did anybody say they wanted to see these grotesque men's diseased penises?

So yeah, you are 100 percent correct that it would be great if these grotesquely depraved perverted men could be identified, every woman who comes in contact with them absolutely has a moral and ethical right to know these men are diseased filth.

But, again if she actually made that part of the criteria she'd be stuck with junkies, alcoholics and criminals because even the degraded perverts who take part in the prostitute's line ups know that the majority of people would shun them if they knew who they were. They walk among us, unfortunately.

Shadowpalkia · 26/07/2025 02:15

I can understand the urge to want to be able to identify people who do things you find harmful or wrong, but it isn't practical on any level.

I'll be honest and say I smoke weed. There is a legal establishment near me where one can go and purchase and smoke weed Amsterdam style. There are people around here who were very much against this place existing because they believe cannabis is terrible for society. They'd love to be able to identify the people who use this establishment publicly so their jobs could be potentially be at risk for using cannabis as the laws around it are sort of grey and unclear. Or so people alienate and avoid them.

A lot of people might argue that weed isn't as morally corrupt as whatever Bonnie Blue and the men involved have going on, but that's just a subjective point of view. Some people will genuinely believe that both things are as awful as each other and everyone involved should be held accountable in public.

It is a slippery slope if we encourage that to happen to people participating in legal activities.

steff13 · 26/07/2025 02:03

I don't want to see any part of them. Or any part of her really.

ohnotthisagain2025 · 25/07/2025 22:06

LabubuMyArse · 25/07/2025 22:04

Faces or just the fucky bits?

The OP said faces. I said faces. Did anybody say they wanted to see these grotesque men's diseased penises?

Maryberrysaga · 25/07/2025 22:05

LabubuMyArse · 25/07/2025 22:04

Faces or just the fucky bits?

Fucky…..or yucky? Any man who has been there, is absolutely yucky.

LabubuMyArse · 25/07/2025 22:04

Faces or just the fucky bits?

cyvguhb · 25/07/2025 22:03

LabubuMyArse · 25/07/2025 14:45

It's worth considering that since this woman is so lacking in moral fibre that it is not outwith the bounds of possibility that she's been videoing all the action anyway and that will be where her real paycheck lies. I hope she has been.

We know it was all filmed, there's never been any secret about that and some of the men have publicly discussed the experience.

ohnotthisagain2025 · 25/07/2025 21:59

I assume, always, and most sincerely, that anybody who is opposed to men who abuse prostitutes showing their faces are either a) men who abuse prostitutes or b) women who tolerate this from their husbands. I am absolutely serious, and this is not a troll of any kind. So if you start shrieking at me because I point out that these men are unutterable scum, the lowest filth imaginable, I am going to assume that is your reason for doing so.

I do feel pity for the b) group, but won't allow you to pretend those sort of men are normal or should be protected, even though I do pity your position.

ohnotthisagain2025 · 25/07/2025 21:56

ioveelephants · 25/07/2025 04:14

What a weird post 😂 you’re the one that sounds a little unhinged.

Oh wait, are you that woman who was on here a few weeks ago, going mad because her husband uses prostitutes and somebody had published a picture of his face going in to a brothel? Or do you just sympathise with her?

ohnotthisagain2025 · 25/07/2025 21:54

Ilovelifeverymuch · 25/07/2025 02:56

Hahaha ok 😆 😂 😆 start the campaign to make sure they show their faces 😂 😆 I'll join you in front of Downing Street tomorrow.

I am sorry your husband uses prostitutes. Truly. That must be a terrible burden.

knor · 25/07/2025 19:00

I think BB is very problematic but lots of what she says/does is definitely to gain headlines/attention from the public.
although I don’t agree with what she does, I don’t think the men should have to show their faces.
if it’s because you think lots are cheating (which they probably are) they’d cheat anyway.
im not sure what i think (if anything) should be done about the bb situation

cramptramp · 25/07/2025 18:44

AutumnFoxe · 25/07/2025 13:41

Shes a porn star not a prostitute. And they haven't done anything illegal so why would they be publicly named?

She set this up for her own gain, she is earning from it, its her career not theirs thats why she is named and they arent.

She has sex for money. She’s a prostitute.

muddymommy · 25/07/2025 18:38

If she's not doing anything illegal then it's really nobody's business.
Why would you need to see their faces? They are consenting adults and hopefully all have mental capacity to make the choice to do this.
It's not something I'd choose to do myself, mainly because I'm old and menopausal and don't like people in small groups, let alone a thousand of them but if she wants to do it then it's up to her and the men involved . She's going to have to live with any consequences and the impact it could have on her family.
So many people worried that their husband could be in the line of guys?? Wow, major trust issues!!
As for work colleagues? Again, it's none of your business what a work mate does in their private life unless it is illegal or putting themselves or others at serious risk of harm.

cramptramp · 25/07/2025 17:53

TheaBrandt1 · 24/07/2025 22:42

Why are the men anonymous but the woman isn’t? Can anyone explain that?

They want to be anonymous and she doesn’t.

DiscoBob · 25/07/2025 15:38

I think she's kind of backed into a corner now with trying to shock. Apparently she couldn't even release and make money from that stunt as the consent forms were not valid for a site other than OF who banned her for using amateurs.

It's grim and weird she chose to do this obviously, and I think she will end up pimping out other people soon.

The thing in the Times interview where she volunteered that she seems happy to lick strange people's piles is just ridiculously gross.

Eyesopenwideawake · 25/07/2025 14:47

TheaBrandt1 · 24/07/2025 22:42

Why are the men anonymous but the woman isn’t? Can anyone explain that?

Um - 'cos she was doing it for publicity? Did you really need someone to explain that to you??

LabubuMyArse · 25/07/2025 14:45

It's worth considering that since this woman is so lacking in moral fibre that it is not outwith the bounds of possibility that she's been videoing all the action anyway and that will be where her real paycheck lies. I hope she has been.

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