Am I being unreasonable asking my husband to not go away for 2 weeks after just having a baby?

Oh no, much better to let his own wife and family down then…

Only two weeks? That's a really long time for OP to cope on her own with four children, including a brand new baby. He is being really unreasonable and uncaring. OP and his children should be his first priority.

Mine did? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Two weeks?? Is he walking there?

He doesn’t need two weeks.
But you also can deal with 4 kids for a couple of weeks.
God would expect him to prioritise his wife and children at this time, I have no doubt about this. Is it because of the money?

if I ever to act like a single parent, my first action will be to divorce my husband. That would apply here.

I like the telling the church idea and calling the priest, as well as tell him god would turn his back on a man who acted like him.

Do they now. Are you imagining I’ve never met a real baby?

So basically other than a short religious time the rest is a holiday for him. Well no matter what Bible he picks up they all say about family and how he should act and it's not being done here as head of his household. If it was 2-3 days I probably wouldn't have had a problem with it having 4 myself between 3-5 however we also have a great extended nearby family should I need a little help. Recently had 3 weeks alone due to his mum dying of cancer and I was happy for him to be with her that time, he did same for me when my adored grandad passed earlier in year so ye some circumstances a partner needs time for something important and others like a holiday alone I wouldn't be happy about at all.

A 2 week old just sleeps, in saying that mum will be exhausted so if he's going to go it woukd be good if some family or friends can come and help out

Apart from the fact that you clearly haven’t actually read what she’s put, why should she have to cope like a single parent whilst the father of her four children swans off on holiday? FYI the children will not be at school.

It's two weeks, and you already have three children, some of which will be in school. You'll be fine, how do you think single parents cope 🙄

How old is the baby and are you up and about? This wouldn’t bother me particularly though we don’t holiday separately. Newborns are fairly easy if you don’t need to go anywhere.

Are you serious? I mean god yes, totally right, everyone knows minutes after they are born babies can dress themselves, they take themselves to the toilet, it’s taller than they are standing (which they can’t do) but they’ll work it out, then they roll into the kitchen, roll up a ladder and make themselves a bottle before doing a huge jump into their own bed, where they stay all night, that’s just how newborns are. Easy and super low maintenance.

This is not unreasonable of you, but very unreasonable of him. Even if he had booked it months ago, the situation has changed, as in you BOTH have a new baby to look after. He can always go another time. Unless he was going for someone who was ill, but surely someone else could go instead.

I was raised as a Catholic, though I stopped believing a long time ago. Most members of my family are still practising Catholics. However, I don't believe any of them would go to Lourdes, or anywhere else, in OP's circumstances - they would certainly prioritise their families instead, especially with young children, and most especially with a newborn.

Incidentally, around 25 years ago I accompanied my Catholic mother to Lourdes when the person originally supposed to take her fell ill. We were part of a church group and, as I recall, the trip covered 4 or 5 days. So I'm rather surprised that OP's husband is going for a fortnight.

Ask the priest if he'll set up a support group for you whilst your husband is away. Start asking for help within the church community , underline it's because your DH is going to be at Lourdes show him up to the people he's trying to impress

Definitely speak to the priest about this and everyone else who is going and the members of the church he/you attend and ask them all to convince him not to go.

What a selfish man and a disappointment of a father and husband.

OP I am enraged on your behalf.

Unloving and wholly selfish behaviour.

That's what I was going to suggest.. Ring up the priest and ask him to read the riot act. Ask him who is organising the trip and ring them.

Or failing that ask if knows any kind parishioners who would be able to come over and give you a hand.

But I don't think the whole two weeks is at Lourdes.

It sounds like you don't have children yourself.

Definitely tell the parish priest about this, as well as the organisers of the trip. If they have any decency, they will tell him he can't come on the trip.
Please don't hesitate to do this.

Tell us about any time in the last 10 years when he has looked after the kids by himself for 2 weeks….

Then tell us about a time when you think he is likely to do it in the next 10 years….

Oh hush.

Well, she can tell him but if he's a religious fanatic having mental health issues, she can't physically stop him.

Rational people don't walk out on a freshly postpartum partner with 3 other kids at home and no family support for a trip.

I think your both unreasonable this should have been sorted out well before now there's no excuse for it. He's a twat if he goes now.