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Unisex toilets in new office - dread going into work

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SocialMol · 24/07/2025 20:32

The company I work for moved to a new office a few weeks ago. It is brand new and shared 50/50 with another company. We have our own side of the floor, key card protected so completely separate.

However, the toilets are in the middle of the block so are shared with the other company. These are unisex - several cubicles with shared area for sinks/dryers etc.

The other company is a sales one (they run a call centre there) and the demographic of their workforce is mainly young men in their 20’s.

There have been several instances of inappropriate comments made to staff in the toilets. Crass stuff like ‘give that cubicle 5 minutes’ to cruder comments directed at or about women - the men will often be talking about their own colleagues in a derogatory way in front of us.

The final straw for me was this afternoon when I walked out of a cubicle and a spotty young lad said he will ‘join me next time’ 😷

Our company are aware of our concerns but said there’s nothing they can do, as the toilets are designed to be ‘inclusive’ and similar to the other modern office blocks they viewed.

I don’t really know what I’m looking for by posting this to be honest, just wanted to know if anyone else finds this sort of set up completely ridiculous?

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madeupnameagain · 03/08/2025 10:34

@MNdrama

I don’t understand your point.

Are you confused with terminology. Trans women are biological men right? They should petition for their own spaces if they don’t want to use correct sex facilities. Transmen are biological women and welcome in the Ladies.

GreyCarpet · 03/08/2025 09:35

MNdrama · 03/08/2025 00:22

Do you really not see the irony of / hypocrisy in supporting OP, but then saying trans women should just use male bathrooms?

TW are male.

GreyCarpet · 03/08/2025 09:33

How is a 'charity' that only fights for biological women's rights not anti trans?

'Charity' is a legal and financial status. It's doesn't mean they support anyone who wants to be supported by them.

GCAcademic · 03/08/2025 09:21

MNdrama · 03/08/2025 00:22

Do you really not see the irony of / hypocrisy in supporting OP, but then saying trans women should just use male bathrooms?

OP is a woman. Trans women are men. Its pretty straightforward unless you are either stupid or malign.

5128gap · 03/08/2025 09:15

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:35

How is a 'charity' that only fights for biological women's rights not anti trans?

The same way the cats protection league isn't anti badger. Having a charitable aim targetted to one group says nothing about the charity's views on any other group, as other groups are irrelevant to the charity. A charity for biological women isn't anti trans, unless it makes a point of excluding transmen simply because they're trans.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 03/08/2025 08:34

Anyway, this is a pointless derail. “Trans women” aren’t the only male people to invade women’s privacy, other men do it too in mixed sex spaces which give them that opportunity, and this is about that scenario, and illustrates why single sex toilets are the preferred option for most women and girls.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 03/08/2025 08:29

MNdrama · 03/08/2025 00:22

Do you really not see the irony of / hypocrisy in supporting OP, but then saying trans women should just use male bathrooms?

Not really. You’ll have to explain it, as “trans women” are male 🤷‍♀️

AnSolas · 03/08/2025 07:39

MNdrama · 03/08/2025 00:22

Do you really not see the irony of / hypocrisy in supporting OP, but then saying trans women should just use male bathrooms?

🤳
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And you MRAing when a woman is being sexually harrassed in her work place.

👁👁

BellissimoGecko · 03/08/2025 07:01

MNdrama · 03/08/2025 00:22

Do you really not see the irony of / hypocrisy in supporting OP, but then saying trans women should just use male bathrooms?

No.

99bottlesofkombucha · 03/08/2025 02:57

MNdrama · 03/08/2025 00:22

Do you really not see the irony of / hypocrisy in supporting OP, but then saying trans women should just use male bathrooms?

I don’t get your point- this comment seems entirely consistent to me?

ParmaVioletTea · 03/08/2025 02:41

Transwomen are men and should use the facilities according to their sex. How is that hypocritical?

MNdrama · 03/08/2025 00:22

BellissimoGecko · 02/08/2025 17:00

You are right - the rights that trans women want conflict with women’s rights.

And I will always stand up for women’s rights. 💪 I’m so glad that the SC has clarified the meaning of the EA2010.

Women need their own loos, refuges and sports. Trans women will be perfectly safe in the men’s loos, competing against men, and in refuges for men. 👍🏼

Do you really not see the irony of / hypocrisy in supporting OP, but then saying trans women should just use male bathrooms?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/08/2025 20:03

My advice - make a complaint in writing to HR and insist on a response in writing. I imagine that will be a bit of a shot across the bows. And contact ACAS. The employer can’t fob you off, they are responsible for your wellbeing at work and this is a situation they’ve created by renting this unsuitable space.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/08/2025 19:59

GCAcademic · 02/08/2025 16:28

Thank you for acknowledging that trans rights are in conflict with the rights of female people, aka biological women. Not many TRAs are willing to admit that.

I should have read the posts before I replied - snap!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 02/08/2025 19:58

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:35

How is a 'charity' that only fights for biological women's rights not anti trans?

It seems that you do realise that “biological women’s” (women, they don’t come in two sexes, they’re all female) rights don’t align with “trans rights” - tut tut. Best report for reeducation.

TeenToTwenties · 02/08/2025 18:07

OP. Make up some, male, female and unisex signs. Go in early and badge the doors. You may find the problem is then solved.

ParmaVioletTea · 02/08/2025 18:04

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:35

How is a 'charity' that only fights for biological women's rights not anti trans?

Oh don’t be so silly. So apply your reasoning to any other charity:

The British Heart Foundation is clearly anti-stroke victim

The RSPB is clear anti-horses.

Your point is anti-woman. But I expect that’s precisely your attitude.

BellissimoGecko · 02/08/2025 17:02

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:47

Well done for finally showing your true colours. Like I said, anti trans. Have fun being so bigoted 🙂👍

I AM very happy for trans people to live their lives happily and without fear of bullying, harassment, etc., just as the EA2010 intends.

But trans women are men, and we must not pretend that is not so. 👍🏼

BellissimoGecko · 02/08/2025 17:00

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:47

Well done for finally showing your true colours. Like I said, anti trans. Have fun being so bigoted 🙂👍

You are right - the rights that trans women want conflict with women’s rights.

And I will always stand up for women’s rights. 💪 I’m so glad that the SC has clarified the meaning of the EA2010.

Women need their own loos, refuges and sports. Trans women will be perfectly safe in the men’s loos, competing against men, and in refuges for men. 👍🏼

madeupnameagain · 02/08/2025 16:58

Under the 1992 Workplace Regulations, most workplaces must provide single-sex toilets for their employees, as well as changing rooms and washing facilities where required. While toilets can be single-user fully enclosed rooms, the most common approach in larger workplaces is two or more cubicles inside an enclosed room, with handwashing facilities in a shared area, all behind a door marked either Male or Female. There will often be a unisex single-user accessible toilet as well.

madeupnameagain · 02/08/2025 16:55

LoserWinner · 24/07/2025 20:45

Oh, for goodness’ sake! I assume you are a grown woman? Just deal with it. Tell the oikish twerps to show a bit of respect and get on with your life. The human race somehow managed to survive when whole streets shared outdoor loos. I’m sure sharing cubicle toilets in a modern building won’t kill anyone.

WTF have I just read.

Deal with it?

Are you actually for real?

AnSolas · 02/08/2025 16:29

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:39

When did I ever mention men's rights? When did I suggest she wasn't being sexually harassed by the cis men in the other office?

You sole contribution in that post was MRAing.

"And you MRAing when a woman is being sexually harrassed in her work place."

GCAcademic · 02/08/2025 16:28

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:47

Well done for finally showing your true colours. Like I said, anti trans. Have fun being so bigoted 🙂👍

Thank you for acknowledging that trans rights are in conflict with the rights of female people, aka biological women. Not many TRAs are willing to admit that.

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:47

BellissimoGecko · 27/07/2025 12:13

Quite.

Women have human rights too. I’m so glad that Sex Matters and For Women Scotland are standing up for us. And I don’t care if this upsets some men. It’s time for sanity to return.

trans women are men.

Well done for finally showing your true colours. Like I said, anti trans. Have fun being so bigoted 🙂👍

MNdrama · 02/08/2025 15:45

BellissimoGecko · 27/07/2025 09:20

Why do you think women’s rights are ‘anti trans’?

I don't, but you seem to have missed the word biological there. Nice attempt at a strawman, better luck next time

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