Fed up of my cousins comments about benefits and UC

Look at the ages quoted. They’re boomers. The generation who had it all.

OP is not whining about it.
She posted on here asking how she can stop her cousin making shitty comments about it.

Believe me, those of us on UC just want to get on with our lives and not have other people bringing it up.

It is a choice though. You would get help with childcare costs which would cover 85% of the total you pay. Your choosing to work part time and blaming it on not having help

Very many claimants of UC are hardworking taxpayers. Or did you not realise that in lots of cases benefit claimants are also paying tax ?

'A bit silly' is quite the understatement!

Perhaps people shouldn’t have kids they can’t afford with feckless, irresponsible men…

100% with you. So do I and Im happy it supports people who need it. I hope it will be there for me if god forbid I end up in a situation where I need support.

Or child benefit that I’m sure the cousin is receiving….
So the ‘I’m not getting any help unlike these scroungers’ doesn’t even work.

But the maintenance is payable for the children, so why would it be a disincentive ?

A single mum working full time would get a lot of their childcare paid for by UC

This. And if you are on UC, you thank the support system and accept that you are living off hardworking taxpayers. Don't be unreasonable and whine about it.

Ignore the nasty comments OP. I pay loads more tax than £400 and Im happy to do so. Not everyone is lucky enough to be in high paying employment and looking after kids whilst working full time in low paid jobs is almost impossible. I gladly pay a bit more tax so that people leas fortunate can get support when they need it. Doesn’t sound like you’re abusing the system to me. Well done on making it work for your family. Don’t listen to your friend xx

Ignore the nasty comments OP. I pay loads more tax than £400 and Im happy to do so. Not everyone is lucky enough to be in high paying employment and looking after kids whilst working full time in low paid jobs is almost impossible. I gladly pay a bit more tax so that people leas fortunate can get support when they need it. Doesn’t sound like you’re abusing the system to me. Well done on making it work for your family. Don’t listen to your friend xx

You either want to maintain a certain lifestyle, or neither of you made provisions for retirement. In either case, you are both choosing to work. You are making it sound you are being forced to work to fund OP's UC.

You wont get a medal for being a martyr, and no one on their death bed has uttered that they wished they worked more.

You haven't explained anything.

Agree with this. Im lucky and enjoy my quality of life, good luck & prosperity to those who need a helping hand 🤷‍♀️

And right next door to the jobs, they're handing out easy access childcare that's open 24/7 and always has spaces. As for sacrifices, no one needs three meals a day or light and heating, walking is free so no need for a car or a travel pass, and water falls out of the sky when it rains so why pay for utilities?

OP I hope your circumstances change as your children get older and that you can either develop your job into a better paying one, or have the opportunity to get a better job.
I also hope that at some point some governments agree to a system whereby some bloke who dodges his parental responsibilities by going overseas can still get pursued to pay a legal requirement.

I hope you're doing that because you enjoy your jobs and not because you made no provisions for retirement.

I wouldn't want to be working at 72, except I wanted to continue doing something or for a worthy cause.

I have worked both full time as a single parent and part time as a single parent. I worked full time at minimum wage, I paid tax but not a lot. During that time, claiming childcare for two children, I received more in ‘tax payers’ money, than I did part time due to the childcare costs.
Working part time, I still pay a little tax but not a lot, and I now don’t have to claim back any child costs.
So, working full time I put a tiny amount into the system but took out a lot more. Working part time, I put in a tiny amount and take out less.

Oh yeh I hear they’re giving away high paid jobs at the minute

Please don't take this personally. You are doing your best. Just tell your cousin that everyone has their own personal situation, that we are all doing our best to get buy, and there is no one size fits all. Keep repeating it till she gets the message. Like that you take ownership of your feelings and put boundaries in place.

I agree it's ludicrous. I read once about somebody getting £4k a month maintenance but it was disregarded and she still claimed benefit. Utter madness.

Well I agree with her mainly

uc shouldn’t provide a lifestyle choice eg we all know people who work pt then top up. This should not be the case . If propld can afford to work pt great but if you need top ups then you should be working full time, there are also people who live on benefits fir decades, this should nt be allpwed

and of course in your case op your child’s dad should be paying maintenance - and this should be easier to get and collect even when a dad tries to duck the system

I don't see how I can explain it to you any more clearly. You either have difficulty with reading comprehension or are being deliberately obtuse, I'm not engaging any further on the posts quoted. I said what I said and if you don't get it then that's on you.