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to think I can get by without childcare in August because work is quiet?

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isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 15:44

Every August, work slows down massively. It has always been this way. There is barely anything coming in, hardly any meetings or deadlines, and most of my team is off. My manager and her manager are both away for the whole of August, so it is very unlikely anything urgent will come up.

I have primary school-aged kids and I am thinking I might skip childcare this year. I usually only have about one to two hours of work a day in August, and some days there is literally nothing to do at all. Anything that does come up, I can usually fit around the kids early in the morning or after they have gone to bed. I have proper annual leave booked for September when they are back at school, so I will get a proper break then.

Has anyone else done this? Just managed without childcare when work was super quiet?

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Ewock · 26/07/2025 11:10

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 10:25

Yes we chat on WhatsApp. We go out for lunch and are friends as well. Is that something so preposterous?

Honestly I wouldn't bother replying to people. They live in a tiny world where they can not comprehend that other people's jobs may not run like theirs and that everyone should parent like they do.

The only thing I would have said, is something you've already done, check with your manager to ensure you're covered.
I'm a teacher and the amount of people that dislike me because I now dont have a lot to do over summer, its taken me years to get to this point and hu dress of hours work in the last half term to ensure I have everything ready for Sept. They don't see the hours I worked in June and July to be able to spend most of summer with my kids

Like you I also take some time just for me, I go away with friends every year and it does me the world of good.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 26/07/2025 11:06

ThisOpalNewt · 26/07/2025 10:46

MN is well known for being shitty about people WFH and assume every job is, or should be, a clock-in and clock-out one where everyone is paid for their time/ labour and not for their skills or expertise.

It is quite old-fashioned and I get it, people are envious. But envy is fine so long as it isn't a crab-bucket mentality.

And lots of posters seem to have difficulties not realising that not everyone has the same sort of job as them.

Exactly - these threads always go the same way and it's so predictable.

Katherine9 · 26/07/2025 11:05

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 26/07/2025 10:05

I worked in an edtech company, and it was largely dead throughout the summer holidays. 8 weeks of quiet time.

I absolutely encourage my staff to do long breaks, get house stuff sorted etc during the summer! The first six weeks and last six weeks of the school year were usually chocka, we did a bit of give and take, and always wanted one member of staff on the inbox, but otherwise it was literally 1% of normal volume traffic.

And did these staff get paid for taking this quiet time?

Crunchymum · 26/07/2025 10:49

A classic case of just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.

I'd be absolutely livid if it ever came to light a colleague had been behaving in this way. It's not jealousy, I just can't abide piss taking.

You can't have your kids at home for the 6 weeks holiday (and take them out everyday etc) and then book annual leave for yourself. You may 'get away with it' or you manager may unofficially tell you it's okay but morally and ethically I think it's wrong.

There's plenty I could get away with as I WFH, but I don't as it's just not fair.

It's different if your childcare let you down or there were other extenuating circumstances but to plan this and then take your leave as soon as the kids go back doesn't sit right with me at all. It's taking liberties.

People like you will ruin WFH for everybody

Ddakji · 26/07/2025 10:47

Charmofgoldfinch · 26/07/2025 10:40

you’ve posted on a public forum for opinions from others. I’ve replied with how it would be viewed from my workplace (who are actually a fab employer with very good flexible working policies and support for parents) and how your colleagues may perceive it. If your managers have approved your set up then I don’t know why you posted on here for advice to be honest - crack on and have a good summer!

and if you want to see the ‘other side’ of your arrangement then look at the trending thread set up by a user who is frustrated by someone looking after their kids on work time and how it impacted their outputs…
with regards to healthy and safety - I’m not saying that you replying to emails whilst looking after your children would result in harm to your customer - it’s more if you are popping out and are in a car accident on work time, or you or your kids had an accident whilst you were juggling work and childcare at the same time, your work would be under obligation to investigate that (and maybe even report major injuries) as they have a duty to keep you safe whilst on work time if you are supposed to be working…

She said she posted to get opinions and on the back of those opinions asked her manager who has approved it. So that’s why she posted. Of course the thread has moved in a lot but people are still telling her that her manager won’t like it!

And that other thread isn’t relevant because that was about much younger children, babies and toddlers. Not an 8 and 10 year old.

ThisOpalNewt · 26/07/2025 10:46

MN is well known for being shitty about people WFH and assume every job is, or should be, a clock-in and clock-out one where everyone is paid for their time/ labour and not for their skills or expertise.

It is quite old-fashioned and I get it, people are envious. But envy is fine so long as it isn't a crab-bucket mentality.

And lots of posters seem to have difficulties not realising that not everyone has the same sort of job as them.

Charmofgoldfinch · 26/07/2025 10:40

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 08:33

I’m not at your workplace. I’m at mine, and my manager has said it’s fine. I’ve been honest about my setup, and nothing is being hidden or done behind anyone’s back. I’m working less because hardly anything coming in, and when there is work, I do it.

I don’t need to feel guilty when I can manage a couple of hours of light work around my kids during a quiet period.

As for health and safety. Let's be serious. I’m not doing surgery while juggling school runs. I’m answering the odd email and tying up a few loose ends. No one’s in danger, and nothing is being compromised.

If my colleagues are taking leave or using childcare, that’s their choice based on their role, workload and personal setup. Mine is different. I’m not offloading work onto anyone else and nothing is being dropped. I am doing my job.

you’ve posted on a public forum for opinions from others. I’ve replied with how it would be viewed from my workplace (who are actually a fab employer with very good flexible working policies and support for parents) and how your colleagues may perceive it. If your managers have approved your set up then I don’t know why you posted on here for advice to be honest - crack on and have a good summer!

and if you want to see the ‘other side’ of your arrangement then look at the trending thread set up by a user who is frustrated by someone looking after their kids on work time and how it impacted their outputs…
with regards to healthy and safety - I’m not saying that you replying to emails whilst looking after your children would result in harm to your customer - it’s more if you are popping out and are in a car accident on work time, or you or your kids had an accident whilst you were juggling work and childcare at the same time, your work would be under obligation to investigate that (and maybe even report major injuries) as they have a duty to keep you safe whilst on work time if you are supposed to be working…

Bellyblueboy · 26/07/2025 10:40

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I think so. Recently registered user. Claims to be in a senior position but no work, no professional development to catch up on etc etc. Can’t take decisions for herself.

very angry if people question her. Wasn’t able to talk to her boss until she wanted to prove people wrong. Etc etc.

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Bellyblueboy · 26/07/2025 10:35

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 09:59

Try reading the thread. Only takes a minute to scan all OP's posts. Manager has it is ok.

😂 aren’t you a delight.

I was entering into a conversation.

you felt you needed to come on to the internet to ask a very specific question about your employer and if you could get away with not working for a month.

apparently you can. I was simply commenting that no one here knows so why ask us???

ThisOpalNewt · 26/07/2025 10:32

Ddakji · 26/07/2025 10:07

Retail? Are January sales no longer a thing?

Not really.

Sales start on black Friday.

The last few years I've noticed most stores have reduced their Xmas stock early in December and in many stores, there's no Xmas stuff other than food left as they're putting out the January clutter-busting/fitness stuff.

Same as most stores currently have their autumn/Halloween stuff out right now in July and by the time the end of September comes around, you'll find a small amount of reduced Halloween stuff in the back as every store is putting the Xmas stuff at the front.

Same as you get Easter Eggs just after Xmas and discounted Easter Eggs the couple of weeks before Easter because the stores have moved on to summer stuff.

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 10:25

Katherine9 · 26/07/2025 10:22

And you got a reply on a Friday evening? Sure you did!!!!

Yes we chat on WhatsApp. We go out for lunch and are friends as well. Is that something so preposterous?

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Katherine9 · 26/07/2025 10:22

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 10:00

Really?

It was on hearing everyone's opinions who said I should check with my manager that I went ahead and checked.

And you got a reply on a Friday evening? Sure you did!!!!

Katherine9 · 26/07/2025 10:20

Glowingup · 24/07/2025 21:47

People are presumably jealous because a) OP probably earns more than them b) doesn’t have to be chained to her laptop all day with a boss breathing down her neck c) is saving hundreds in childcare. Thats why all the sneery comments about being a shit worker and shit parent.

Or maybe they’re expressing concerns that this sort of behaviour is considered acceptable in public sector employment!

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 26/07/2025 10:18

Ddakji · 26/07/2025 10:14

Thanks! When I worked in retail it was in the city of London (ie the financial district) so school holidays weren’t really that relevant and our January sale lasted throughout January.

This is a gazillion years ago though.

This was clothing retail in a touristy area, so January was always one of our quietest times of year. Lots of people would take annual leave, or do half days etc. We even changed our hours sometimes to close early as we were actually losing money just by having the doors open.

Ddakji · 26/07/2025 10:14

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 26/07/2025 10:11

I used to work in retail - our sales started Boxing Day and we were busy until maybe January 2nd or 3rd - but as soon as schools went back, trade died off completely and the rest of the month (plus at least half of February) was absolutely dead as anything.

We had days where we'd maybe put 8-9 sales through the till, if that.

Thanks! When I worked in retail it was in the city of London (ie the financial district) so school holidays weren’t really that relevant and our January sale lasted throughout January.

This is a gazillion years ago though.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 26/07/2025 10:11

Ddakji · 26/07/2025 10:07

Retail? Are January sales no longer a thing?

I used to work in retail - our sales started Boxing Day and we were busy until maybe January 2nd or 3rd - but as soon as schools went back, trade died off completely and the rest of the month (plus at least half of February) was absolutely dead as anything.

We had days where we'd maybe put 8-9 sales through the till, if that.

Confabulations · 26/07/2025 10:07

Katherine9 · 26/07/2025 09:10

But accurate. The OP requested perspectives having provided minimal information and then became highly defensive when people explained their legitimate concerns based on their own experiences.

It isn't accurate at all. Higher level jobs are frequently the ones with more flexibility in them compared to the rigidity of many minimum wage roles. I can do very similar to OP and am far from being in an entry level role. I am one of the 'mythical' 100k fully WFH employees who is able to flex my job to fit my life instead of life flexing round my work. I work extremely hard when I need to, I am efficient and organized as I go. I am not going to start creating 'busy work' like filing emails or any of the other stupid suggestions made on this thread in order to fill the quieter times.

I don't see OP being defensive. I see her being extremely patient in the face of some deeply unpleasant comments about her, her life:work balance, her parenting etc.

Ddakji · 26/07/2025 10:07

ThisOpalNewt · 26/07/2025 09:59

Anything to do with hospitality, alcohol sales, retail, removals among others have quiet Januarys.

It's why a lot of companies in those sectors have their 'Xmas do' in January because it's quieter and so are the hotels/restaurants they book.

Retail? Are January sales no longer a thing?

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 26/07/2025 10:05

Ddakji · 24/07/2025 17:28

Do you know well in advance what days will have little or no work?

I’m most intrigued as to what it is you do! 🤣

I worked in an edtech company, and it was largely dead throughout the summer holidays. 8 weeks of quiet time.

I absolutely encourage my staff to do long breaks, get house stuff sorted etc during the summer! The first six weeks and last six weeks of the school year were usually chocka, we did a bit of give and take, and always wanted one member of staff on the inbox, but otherwise it was literally 1% of normal volume traffic.

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 10:02

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/07/2025 09:22

This

Are mums not allowed to take time off work for themselves? Are you from the 1950s?

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isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 10:00

taxguru · 26/07/2025 09:15

It's clear the OP is only interested in hearing from people who agree with her, so not really sure why she bothered posting?? Sounds more of a stealth boast than actually asking for advice/opinions.

Really?

It was on hearing everyone's opinions who said I should check with my manager that I went ahead and checked.

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ThisOpalNewt · 26/07/2025 09:59

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/07/2025 09:46

I get August due to people going away

but jan as well ?

Anything to do with hospitality, alcohol sales, retail, removals among others have quiet Januarys.

It's why a lot of companies in those sectors have their 'Xmas do' in January because it's quieter and so are the hotels/restaurants they book.

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 09:59

Bellyblueboy · 26/07/2025 09:05

It is a risk - only you know how much of a risk.

Are you likely to have to attend an in person meeting at short notice? A conference call?

I have heard of people being g disciplined for not being contactable and present during their core hours. Contactable doesn’t mean checking emails occasionally, it means being available to jump into meetings, take long calls etc.

but no one here knows what your employer’s tolerances are and how they would react if they found out you were on a day trip to the zoo when you should have been working.

I assume you are in the private sector?

Try reading the thread. Only takes a minute to scan all OP's posts. Manager has it is ok.

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Letskeepcalm · 26/07/2025 09:58

Katherine9 · 26/07/2025 09:10

But accurate. The OP requested perspectives having provided minimal information and then became highly defensive when people explained their legitimate concerns based on their own experiences.

Exactly