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to think I can get by without childcare in August because work is quiet?

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isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 15:44

Every August, work slows down massively. It has always been this way. There is barely anything coming in, hardly any meetings or deadlines, and most of my team is off. My manager and her manager are both away for the whole of August, so it is very unlikely anything urgent will come up.

I have primary school-aged kids and I am thinking I might skip childcare this year. I usually only have about one to two hours of work a day in August, and some days there is literally nothing to do at all. Anything that does come up, I can usually fit around the kids early in the morning or after they have gone to bed. I have proper annual leave booked for September when they are back at school, so I will get a proper break then.

Has anyone else done this? Just managed without childcare when work was super quiet?

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Hertsmum78 · 24/07/2025 18:03

@tumblingdowntherabbithole If she really does have the kind of job where this is fully accepted, she can be honest with her boss about it and get permission.

Otherwise it is just skiving.

AvidJadeShaker · 24/07/2025 18:03

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:49

Well in my experience of looking after children, I have been lucky if I was able to drink a hot cup of tea!

What were they up to at that age that meant you couldn’t finish a cup of tea?

Ruggerlass · 24/07/2025 18:02

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 17:36

They are unlikely to find out. Both my manager and her manager will be abroad. Most of the other team are off in August too. I tend to work flexibly around one of my DC who has a lot of medical appointments and they always said it is fine as long as the work gets done. It does get done.

If they are as flexible as you say then there is no reason why you can’t be honest with them and tell them what your plans are rather than be sneaky about it?

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 18:02

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:59

And she is caring for her children during those less busy times when she is not on annual leave

And? It's not like they're toddlers - they're 8 and 10, old enough to amuse themselves while she works.

Not everyone has jobs where they have to be switched on for 8 hours straight. Lots of us can dip in and out of work, take time off as/when we need it and do other things at the same time as doing our jobs.

Lots of bitter people on here Grin

BlankBlankBlank14 · 24/07/2025 18:01

Nope I think you’re being unfair to both children and work.

Also shocked at your taking annual leave in September, do you never holiday with your children?

Hertsmum78 · 24/07/2025 18:00

I agree with those who have said you need to get your boss's explicit permission for this. Otherwise you are blatantly skiving when you are contracted to work.

Am also intrigued to know what industry you work in where they can find literally nothing useful for you to do within your paid hours.

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 18:00

BCBird · 24/07/2025 17:59

Having them.at home with you is one thing, but taking them out and about when u being paid to work is not good. This is the sort of infringement that costs people the privilege of being able to wrh

Spot on

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:59

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 17:56

But not everyone works in your industry Confused

OP clearly has a job where some months are busy and others are dead.

And she is caring for her children during those less busy times when she is not on annual leave

BCBird · 24/07/2025 17:59

Having them.at home with you is one thing, but taking them out and about when u being paid to work is not good. This is the sort of infringement that costs people the privilege of being able to wrh

BitOutOfPractice · 24/07/2025 17:59

What I think is odd is that you’re booking leave for when the kids are at school so you can have “a break”. And yet you’re taking the whole of August off to the the kids out and about. You’re taking the piss op.

autienotnaughty · 24/07/2025 17:58

My son is ten and can be left with dh for a few hours. It does end up being screen heavy though so I wouldn’t do it every day.
it’s a risk for 6 whole weeks but if you think you can make it work why not.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 24/07/2025 17:58

DaisyChain505 · 24/07/2025 16:20

It’s all great in theory but it makes for a pretty boring summer for them just staying in the house day after day.

can you not meet half way and book 1/2 days a week or clubs or make sure they’re doing activities and getting out.

Agreed... this might work for half term week, but six weeks? I'd be booking a few days off over that period so that you can have a Big Day Out with them... and relax from thinking about work all the time.. It will break things up from being stuck at home and make things a bit more fun for all of you. I guess you will have the weekends too.

All depends on work flow.. but if its quiet and you think you can make it work...
I'd have a back up plan tho if things are likely to blow up... could you have a babysitter lined up ?

Catingle · 24/07/2025 17:58

Mine are the same ages and since last year I have started sometimes WFH with them at home (and I do have a full day of work to do). They get on well and are good at entertaining each other so basically I just sort them out lunch at lunchtime and will typically spend a few minutes checking in on them in the middle of the morning and in the middle of the afternoon. If anything I am more productive as I work the time I’d be ferrying them to and from clubs.

However I don’t think it is fair on them just to be at home all day every day.

So for a typical week in the summer I might do 1-2 days at home, 2-3 days in a holiday club and take one day of leave to take them out somewhere.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/07/2025 17:58

So when you’re supposed to be working, you actually won’t be, you’ll be looking after your kids?

Or else you’ll have the kids being bored around the house whilst you work?

Then, when the kids are back at school and work starts up again, you’ll take time off to have a “proper break”?

To me it sounds like you’ll either be short changing your kids or your work here, so that you basically get double time off. Why doesn’t your work just close in August if there’s “nothing to do”?

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:56

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 17:50

I can easily manage several cups of tea with an 8 and 10 year old!

Great to hear. Not sure what industry you are in but I am clearly in the wrong one. Enjoy your summer holidays

Whaleandsnail6 · 24/07/2025 17:56

I actually think you are taking the piss, especially with your comment of " I will get more of a break (if take annual leave )when the kids are back at school "

I think you should mention it to your employer. If they are as flexible as you say they are, and it genuinely is as quiet as you say, then why not mention it? If its cos you think they will have a problem, there is your answer.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/07/2025 17:56

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:46

Because you are engaged in cc whilst contracting to work.
Answering emails on the phone whilst out with the kids?
I'm not being sarcastic when I say this doesn't constitute paid work.
Are you on contracted hours?
My views on wfh are greatly influenced by my experiences of people who I have met wfh.
In my industry, the work is never done. It's rolling 24/7/365 & you work contracted hours irrespective of how busy /not so busy you are

But not everyone works in your industry Confused

OP clearly has a job where some months are busy and others are dead.

MellowPinkDeer · 24/07/2025 17:55

Is it your company policy to allow people to not work whilst they are being paid to do so? Do you have some kind of contract which just allows you to do nothing all day? If so, cool. If not then You’re really taking the piss and are part of the problem which causes people to believe that those who wfh do nothing all day.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 24/07/2025 17:55

I would probably do the same in your shoes. They’re old enough to keep themselves occupied. From your description you can be timely and responsive when needed and will make sure the work gets done.

Sundaybananas · 24/07/2025 17:54

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 24/07/2025 17:53

If that's true then tell your boss you're planning to be with the kids during Auguat but will answer emails on your phone. Get their agreement in writing so it can't come back on you.

Exactly!

And this way you don’t have to worry about losing your job when they find out.

Ruggerlass · 24/07/2025 17:54

Sundaybananas · 24/07/2025 17:45

I think you’d be completely taking the piss.

If you honestly don’t think there is anything wrong with it then have conversation upfront with your boss and get it agreed, don’t go sneaking around.

I was just about to say the same thing.,

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 24/07/2025 17:53

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 17:49

Does it make a difference where I answer emails?

My workplace isn't archaic. As long as the job gets done to a high standard that is what matters. I consistently hit all my targets on time.

Yes I am contracted hours. I work in a different industry to you where the work is virtually non existent in some months like January and August.

If that's true then tell your boss you're planning to be with the kids during Auguat but will answer emails on your phone. Get their agreement in writing so it can't come back on you.

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 17:50

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:49

Well in my experience of looking after children, I have been lucky if I was able to drink a hot cup of tea!

I can easily manage several cups of tea with an 8 and 10 year old!

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isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 17:49

Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:46

Because you are engaged in cc whilst contracting to work.
Answering emails on the phone whilst out with the kids?
I'm not being sarcastic when I say this doesn't constitute paid work.
Are you on contracted hours?
My views on wfh are greatly influenced by my experiences of people who I have met wfh.
In my industry, the work is never done. It's rolling 24/7/365 & you work contracted hours irrespective of how busy /not so busy you are

Does it make a difference where I answer emails?

My workplace isn't archaic. As long as the job gets done to a high standard that is what matters. I consistently hit all my targets on time.

Yes I am contracted hours. I work in a different industry to you where the work is virtually non existent in some months like January and August.

OP posts:
Praying4Peace · 24/07/2025 17:49

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 17:41

Yes. I can do both

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Well in my experience of looking after children, I have been lucky if I was able to drink a hot cup of tea!