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to think I can get by without childcare in August because work is quiet?

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isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 15:44

Every August, work slows down massively. It has always been this way. There is barely anything coming in, hardly any meetings or deadlines, and most of my team is off. My manager and her manager are both away for the whole of August, so it is very unlikely anything urgent will come up.

I have primary school-aged kids and I am thinking I might skip childcare this year. I usually only have about one to two hours of work a day in August, and some days there is literally nothing to do at all. Anything that does come up, I can usually fit around the kids early in the morning or after they have gone to bed. I have proper annual leave booked for September when they are back at school, so I will get a proper break then.

Has anyone else done this? Just managed without childcare when work was super quiet?

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isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 16:53

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 26/07/2025 15:49

Unless you're her manager, then whether she could or should be "using her time differently" is absolutely none of your business.

I wouldn't share my industry either if I was the OP, it would just invite a whole load more bitching from people who think they know the ins and outs of everyone's job.

Exactly this. Thank you.

The way people jump to conclusions and twist things has made it really clear that no matter what I said, someone would have a problem with it. Everyone thinks they’re an expert on everyone else’s job even when they have no idea how things actually work behind the scenes.

I’m glad someone gets it.

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isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 16:51

BlankBlankBlank14 · 26/07/2025 15:44

After you’ve had a rest before during the summer holiday, whilst your DH takes them away.

Abd a month off paid, just you know looking after yore DC, why would you need a rest from that? It’s just parenting.

I do not need to justify to you how I use my annual leave.

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isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 16:48

Hertsmum78 · 26/07/2025 15:40

I've been away from this thread for about 24 hours - has OP given us any insight into what she does yet/what her industry is?

To all those people saying 'not all businesses are the same, maybe it's fine in OP's industry and this is what is expected'.... yes maybe it is, but until she tells us the bare minimum about what kind of work she does, it's extremely hard to judge whether she could or should be using her time differently.

It is not for random strangers on the internet to judge whether I am using my time appropriately. That is for my manager to decide and they already have. I have been open with them, they know exactly what the workload is like at this time of year and they are completely fine with how I am managing it.

I do not need to share the details of my role to justify a working pattern that has already been approved by the people who actually matter.

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tumblingdowntherabbithole · 26/07/2025 15:53

Ddakji · 26/07/2025 15:50

I’m finding the number of women clearly unhappy about a woman making work work for her, with a flexible, understanding manager, and who takes care of herself while not neglecting her children or her job a pretty unpleasant read.

Jealously and envy are always ugly.

It's so depressing, isn't it?

We have a woman with a job she enjoys, flexibility, a great manager, the ability to save money on childcare and who takes annual leave to spend time by herself, and she's slammed. Sounds like the fucking dream to me.

Ddakji · 26/07/2025 15:50

I’m finding the number of women clearly unhappy about a woman making work work for her, with a flexible, understanding manager, and who takes care of herself while not neglecting her children or her job a pretty unpleasant read.

Jealously and envy are always ugly.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 26/07/2025 15:49

Hertsmum78 · 26/07/2025 15:40

I've been away from this thread for about 24 hours - has OP given us any insight into what she does yet/what her industry is?

To all those people saying 'not all businesses are the same, maybe it's fine in OP's industry and this is what is expected'.... yes maybe it is, but until she tells us the bare minimum about what kind of work she does, it's extremely hard to judge whether she could or should be using her time differently.

Unless you're her manager, then whether she could or should be "using her time differently" is absolutely none of your business.

I wouldn't share my industry either if I was the OP, it would just invite a whole load more bitching from people who think they know the ins and outs of everyone's job.

BlankBlankBlank14 · 26/07/2025 15:44

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 13:28

Yes, wild concept — taking time off for myself.

Imagine wanting a bit of rest after summer. Madness.

After you’ve had a rest before during the summer holiday, whilst your DH takes them away.

Abd a month off paid, just you know looking after yore DC, why would you need a rest from that? It’s just parenting.

Hertsmum78 · 26/07/2025 15:40

I've been away from this thread for about 24 hours - has OP given us any insight into what she does yet/what her industry is?

To all those people saying 'not all businesses are the same, maybe it's fine in OP's industry and this is what is expected'.... yes maybe it is, but until she tells us the bare minimum about what kind of work she does, it's extremely hard to judge whether she could or should be using her time differently.

Sundaybananas · 26/07/2025 15:18

Confabulations · 26/07/2025 15:11

That is not how redundancies work. You make a role redundant, not pick the person you think is slacking off. That would be a performance management issue, not a reason for redundancy.

Carry on trying to put the fear onto OP though.

Well, not quite.

You make a role redundant by looking at whether that role is needed in your new Op Model. One of the criteria for deciding whether it is needed is likely to be demand/productivity.

Equally, if that role translates to a position with several incumbents, productivity of the incumbents might well pop up in the selection criteria for redundancies.

However, OP has already explained that she is confident that there are unlikely to be redundancies and that she wouldn’t be likely to be at risk.

angela1952 · 26/07/2025 15:14

Confabulations · 26/07/2025 15:11

That is not how redundancies work. You make a role redundant, not pick the person you think is slacking off. That would be a performance management issue, not a reason for redundancy.

Carry on trying to put the fear onto OP though.

So if there are several people doing the same job one of their roles will be redundant. You choose between them if you want to lose one role.

Confabulations · 26/07/2025 15:11

angela1952 · 26/07/2025 13:31

I have read all the updates, including the fact that you've told your manager which doesn't change my point.

If there are redundancies they may prefer to keep the person who doesn't have their children at home all day in the holidays. And the person who takes their annual leave at slacker times of the year.

Many people don't know that redundancies are in the pipeline, this is normal in most companies and organisations. It may or may not be your manager that would make the redundancy decisions, more likely to be a professional HR person who specialises in this field. Just because your organisation is doing well it doesn't mean that re-structuring won't happen, indeed the most successful organisations keep a watching brief on their structures and don't rest on their laurels. Neither do the best employees.

That is not how redundancies work. You make a role redundant, not pick the person you think is slacking off. That would be a performance management issue, not a reason for redundancy.

Carry on trying to put the fear onto OP though.

bellamorgan · 26/07/2025 14:16

We also have zero contact with the client. We just get the job info, the only contact is the boss.

If boss says no work it’s no work. We have nothing else to do.

bellamorgan · 26/07/2025 14:15

How my weeks been every day.

Message boss. Any work today?
boss, Nope enjoy your day, you know what it’s like this time of year.

In fact my boss will be in America as of Monday for four weeks he is so sure of it being dead. Twiddling his thumbs by a pool.

Regarding my contract it states I will be given exact jobs and can even reject them if I deem them not appropriate.

I will basically live on retainer in down times to fix fuck ups. Our clients want everything tip top 0% failure for times like August and Christmas so work triple in the lead up to have back ups of back ups in place. If something falls between the gaps and a oh shit comes though there are four of us, but only one of us will have that particular job still leaving three sitting on our thumbs. So we just make sure between ourselves not all of us are on holiday at once.

Come September will we start preparing for new to be ready for keys dates again. Mandy will have job one, I’ll have job two, Kerry job three and Amanda job four. When I’ve finished my job I’ll be on job five and so on. We don’t share.

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 14:11

FatCatSkinnyRat · 24/07/2025 18:25

Because she's lazy and work shy, saving up leave until work picks up again and she doesn't have to talk to her kids.

That is a nasty, lazy take from someone who clearly has no idea what they are talking about.

The comment about not wanting to talk to my kids? That says more about you than it does about me.

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birdling · 26/07/2025 14:05

FatCatSkinnyRat · 24/07/2025 18:25

Because she's lazy and work shy, saving up leave until work picks up again and she doesn't have to talk to her kids.

Or maybe it's because two of her managers are already off and she wasn't allowed to be as well?

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 14:04

angela1952 · 26/07/2025 13:31

I have read all the updates, including the fact that you've told your manager which doesn't change my point.

If there are redundancies they may prefer to keep the person who doesn't have their children at home all day in the holidays. And the person who takes their annual leave at slacker times of the year.

Many people don't know that redundancies are in the pipeline, this is normal in most companies and organisations. It may or may not be your manager that would make the redundancy decisions, more likely to be a professional HR person who specialises in this field. Just because your organisation is doing well it doesn't mean that re-structuring won't happen, indeed the most successful organisations keep a watching brief on their structures and don't rest on their laurels. Neither do the best employees.

You are making a lot of assumptions about how my organisation operates and how decisions are made. Yes, I have told my manager, and yes, they are fine with it because they understand the nature of the work and how quiet this period is. That absolutely does matter.

My work across the rest of the year is consistent, productive, and reliable. That is what people are assessed on, not whether their kids were at home in August when nothing was going on.

Who said I am resting on my laurels? I have won several exceptional performance awards and have a proven track record. I consistently deliver and I am trusted by my team and leadership.

Give it up with the scaremongering. You are spinning hypotheticals that simply do not apply to my situation

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tumblingdowntherabbithole · 26/07/2025 13:58

usernamealreadytaken · 26/07/2025 13:45

Why aren’t you taking a/l in August to look after DC, instead of “getting a proper break” when they go back to school?

Because she doesn't need to.

I wouldn't waste my annual leave either.

Newsenmum · 26/07/2025 13:51

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 25/07/2025 15:08

RTFT. The boss has said it's absolutely fine.

Id still like to know the job and industry

usernamealreadytaken · 26/07/2025 13:45

isitPeri1 · 24/07/2025 15:44

Every August, work slows down massively. It has always been this way. There is barely anything coming in, hardly any meetings or deadlines, and most of my team is off. My manager and her manager are both away for the whole of August, so it is very unlikely anything urgent will come up.

I have primary school-aged kids and I am thinking I might skip childcare this year. I usually only have about one to two hours of work a day in August, and some days there is literally nothing to do at all. Anything that does come up, I can usually fit around the kids early in the morning or after they have gone to bed. I have proper annual leave booked for September when they are back at school, so I will get a proper break then.

Has anyone else done this? Just managed without childcare when work was super quiet?

Why aren’t you taking a/l in August to look after DC, instead of “getting a proper break” when they go back to school?

Dutchhouse14 · 26/07/2025 13:37

I think it's a bit cheeky as why not just take leave in August to ring fence spending time with your kids?
If your manager is OK with it then it's no one else's business but I think for most people if they are employed full time they are actually expected to work7-8 hours a day not 2 hours a day and be out at the park, zoo etc
Tbh I'm a bit jealous!!!

angela1952 · 26/07/2025 13:31

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 12:32

You clearly haven’t read the full thread or the updates. My manager is now fully aware of the setup and has no issue with it. It’s not about trying to get away with anything. It’s been discussed, agreed, and it works because August is genuinely a quiet time for everyone.

As for my children, they are not sitting around bored. They are being taken out, they have plans, and I’m fitting in the small amount of work I have around that. I’m not leaving them to entertain themselves all day while I stare at a laptop. This has all been carefully thought through.

Also, there are no redundancies in the pipeline and the organisation is doing very well indeed. If that changes one day, decisions will be made based on performance, reliability, and actual contribution not on whether someone admitted their kids were home during a slow period. I’m trusted, I do my job, and this arrangement is working just fine for everyone involved.

I have read all the updates, including the fact that you've told your manager which doesn't change my point.

If there are redundancies they may prefer to keep the person who doesn't have their children at home all day in the holidays. And the person who takes their annual leave at slacker times of the year.

Many people don't know that redundancies are in the pipeline, this is normal in most companies and organisations. It may or may not be your manager that would make the redundancy decisions, more likely to be a professional HR person who specialises in this field. Just because your organisation is doing well it doesn't mean that re-structuring won't happen, indeed the most successful organisations keep a watching brief on their structures and don't rest on their laurels. Neither do the best employees.

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 13:28

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/07/2025 13:23

Pmsl

you won’t take holiday for your kids but then once back at school want to take a week off

just seems strange

Yes, wild concept — taking time off for myself.

Imagine wanting a bit of rest after summer. Madness.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 26/07/2025 13:23

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 10:02

Are mums not allowed to take time off work for themselves? Are you from the 1950s?

Pmsl

you won’t take holiday for your kids but then once back at school want to take a week off

just seems strange

isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 13:15

Sundaybananas · 26/07/2025 13:07

I haven’t seen one other poster say that they only have a few minutes per day to do for a month so could spend all day every day out with their kids. The one example that comes anywhere close is the barrister’s clerk. Or possibly the teacher, but that’s quite different to what you have outlined.

I have seen plenty (like me) saying yes sure, plenty of industries have quiet times and I might only work 20ish hours per week in August compared to 50+ in busy periods.

So I guess I’d add:

(c) you are quite aggressive to any poster who challenges your own perspective. (Typical AIBU thread to be fair).

And (d) some people might be a little sceptical of the veracity of some of your later updates.

I did not say other posters only had a few minutes of work per day. What I said was that plenty of people on this thread have confirmed August is quiet for them too, which supports the point I was making about it being a wider pattern across different industries.

My situation happens to be that August is very quiet. I am not claiming that is the same for everyone, but it is the reality in my role and my team, and my manager is fully aware of that.

As for being aggressive, I have responded directly when people have made assumptions or thrown out moral judgments. This is a typical AIBU thread where people challenge hard. That is part of how these threads usually go.

Just because my situation is a bit different does not make it untrue.

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isitPeri1 · 26/07/2025 13:09

Passportparanoia · 26/07/2025 13:05

Op I have said before that I am ok with this if your business is, but you have to remember that when you started this thread you were planning on doing this without saying anything. You said “I am not planning to mention it to anyone” and “They are unlikely to find out”. The fact that you booked your leave for September and were only now considering whether this is ok a few days before August, makes it seem like you had already decided to do it. You even mentioned in a post it’s too late to book clubs. So whilst you are now in a position where it’s all ok please don’t forget that impression that was originally given, and can be seen by anyone who reads all your posts. You are now emphasising how it’s an accepted way of working, and how you are not hiding anything, but that’s only because so many people suggested you spoke to your manager. It feels a little like you are lucky it’s all worked out. But that’s definitely a situation that you might as well make the most of. I hope you have an enjoyable August. It’s nice you have a job that allows it, and I am jealous you get to do it.

Yes, I completely accept that. You are right. When I first posted, I had not spoken to my manager yet and I was planning to just manage things quietly because it has been so quiet in previous years. But I took on board the advice people gave and I did the right thing by checking in properly. My manager was absolutely fine with it and now it is agreed and transparent.

I have not forgotten how I phrased it at the start. I was testing the water and I can see how it gave a different impression. But I have taken responsibility, I followed the advice, and everything is now above board. I do feel lucky that I work in a job and team where there is that level of trust and understanding, and I absolutely will make the most of it.

Thank you for your honesty and I appreciate you coming back and being fair in your reply.

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