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Do teachers expect individual gifts?

27 replies

RCJJ · 24/07/2025 14:01

Last day of school today for my twins. A few weeks ago one of the mums organised a whip round for end of term vouchers for all the teachers (two teachers, two TAs and the Head) - she got tonnes of contributions and they’ve all got a hefty M&S voucher and some chocs with a card signed from all the Mums etc. I sent over my £20 to be a part of that and thought ‘job done’!

This morning at drop off all the kids are walking in with gift bags! Crocheted flowers, key rings, chocolates just all sorts, loads of bouquets. I felt bloody awful.

Would teachers still have expected this individually even with the vouchers? Should I grab something before 3:30??

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SconeWithTheWind · 24/07/2025 14:09

Oh crikey no! I don't expect ANY gifts at all and feel quite uncomfortable if it's something big that lots of people have had to contribute a chunk of money too. As cliched as it will sound - the things I still have (and still treasure) are the kids' pictures, drawings and hand-written notes or cards. I appreciate everything, but those are the best!

ridl14 · 24/07/2025 14:03

Omg definitely not! I teach secondary not primary but as a teacher and a parent, no way!

Very unlikely they would even notice and definitely not hold it against you