To give up my bedroom for my adult children?

Sounds like a good plan.

An idea that may work as a divider is a barn door. (You can get overlapping ones) It would be less permanent than an a stud wall and more sturdy than bookshelves or a divider.

https://www.ahousewebuilt.com/barn-doors/

Someone upthread asked if you could put in a stud wall between the “new bedroom” and the living room.
That would be a good solution and give everyone a better living space.
A wall bed sounds great. I have seen really nice ones at the Ideal Homes Show (Ireland).

I think you have to do what you can manage. I would see if I could use storage in DD room for things you don’t use much. I would also look at going into the office as much as possible to get out of the house. Otherwise you will exist in quite a small space day & night.

Sounds perfect

Have to say when I first read the heading I thought ‘no way’ too but once you explained it all it sounds rather lovely! In time if it all works out you can put a permanent wall up but for now this would really work.

Using units would also give better sound proofing than a screen

Oh, sure, and in this case her oldest may well be living at home for a while.

But personally I’m going to be up for not letting DD feel too comfortable at home once she’s done with uni or whatever, so she can crack on with being somewhere else 🤣.

How bad they think it is. It sounds fine to me.

Do whatever works for you and fuck anyone who has an opinion on how bad it is.

Tbh I'd just tell everyone that the living-room is now your bedroom and the communal space is the kitchen. Can you fit a table and chairs in the kitchen?

They can come in to watch TV and lounge on the sofa if invited but otherwise it's your space. In exchange, they each get a bedroom undisturbed by the rest of the household.

Sounds a really sensible idea and if it works really well you could maybe later on put up a more semi permanent solution

I think teens spend a lot of time in their rooms anyway.

The two that are studying need to be able to hole up behind closed doors, as does the one who games!

Sound like the best (only?) solution Op.

My parents slept in the living room for 3 years when I was growing up, two bed house and I was 9 brother was 15 so we really needed a bedroom each. My mum has since said that although not ideal it was fine and she didn’t regret it.
Don what’s best for your family and don’t listen to anyone else. You sound like a lovely thoughtful mum.

You’d be better off building a stud wall. It’s an expense but will create the extra bedroom and not be so temporary

Please don't feel you have to respond to dimwits who look down their noses. You are doing a sterling job of juggling life to get the best outcome at present.
You sound similar to my mum. My brother has difficulties (suspected autism but not diagnosed) and he stayed with my mum until she passed when we were 32 and 25 (me being the eldest).
I am proud to say he has coped with independent living far better thab any of us could have imagined. So there is hope your son could too.
These situations don't last forever but you sound like you're making the best of it.

Sounds like a great idea to me OP. What a lovely caring mum you are to be doing this. If you’ve got a big enough living room and ideas to separate a bit more I think it sounds perfect. Ignore what everyone else says x

YABU - not to include a diagram.

but I think you’ve thought of a good plan that works for your family.
Try it and the worse case scenario is you change it back to how it was before.

Yeah I see what you mean but at least this way OP can wfh in peace and get her downstairs living space to herself more and clean & tidy how she likes it 🤷‍♀️

It's the best of two not very good options....which is the story of my life!! I'm about to move to a two bed bungalow with two autistic DSs (eldest currently lives with his dad but I know he will want to move in with me) and I am planning to put a day bed in the conservatory and use that as my bedroom. At one point I was using one room as a living room, bedroom and massage treatment room so sleeping in the conservatory is not a big deal. I wouldn't want a bed downstairs though...they have some really nice rattan day beds in John Lewis.

Don't listen to other people's opinions...you have to do what works for you. Some people are so unimaginative that they can't imagine using a room for anything but its intended use. A lot of people aren't constantly placed in these difficult situations so they can't understand.

Well - you’d hope so. I do think that when parents subjugate themselves and make their home a bit too nice and cosy for their adult offspring, those offspring are less likely to bugger off and set up home for themselves.

Sounds fantastic, our living room/dining room is a huge space that just gets more and more junk added to it. My DP needs a space that is his fir doing his photography stuff. It has just given me an idea on how we could do that for him. Thank you x

What if you pump in your sleep? Won’t you stink the living room out? I suppose with a dividing wall it should be ok though. I’d hate it personally

My friend has just done this in her living room to give her 2 young adult kids a bigger bedroom each & box room is now her walk-in wardrobe/dressing room. She loves it. It sounds like a good idea OP and won't be forever.

Go for it. Sounds like a good plan

I seldom comment on posts, but cannot keep quiet here..... I think what you are planning / doing is admirable and to hell with what anyone else thinks. You sound like an absolutely brilliant mum, finding a solution that works for your family - you do you and bollocks to the naysayers.
Good luck with it all.