Dads partner leaving him homeless after her death.

He didn’t get a free ride. Have you read all the posts by OP?

It's very uncomfortable reading people calling a woman who has a 50/50 chance of dying in the next few days a cow, bitch or worse.
Good for her for protecting her children from the wants of a feckless man who didn't give a shit about his own family. Maybe facing the probability of her death she has had time to reflect.

The whole thread is about people expecting money (or houses)! Why is it only my take that is "suspicious"? Good grief.

OK - I understand that - but do we know how much care she's needed? And for how long? And what sort of assets she has beyond the house? OP said she's in a wheelchair but that can mean a spectrum of care needs, not necessarily needing full-time care. And she has children. They may have stepped in if the dad wasn't around. Was he making sure he was around by retiring, or did he do this out of love and commitment?

I just think there are way too many unknowns to say pretty much anything as certainly as that.

I've met several older people who have been in this situation and made incorrect assumptions about their partner taking care of them. It's generally women that end up in this situation for various reasons. There are also masses of threads on MS about similar situations, where female partners had made naive assumptions that their partner would take care of them. It's not just believable but factual.
Your take, on the other hand, is the product of a strangely suspicious mind, probably motivated far more by just £££ than most others.

We have no idea the level of care he has provider or for how long. "Step mum" has been unwell for a few years, and he retired at some point in that time to provide some sort of care. People are assuming years of full time intimate care for some reason, but we don't actually know.

And had she not been there he would have had to pay money on rent!

this is a man who seems to have no assets either none from the 40 years or so before he met her and he got together with a woman who was asset rich

I'd ring her back and ask her straight up if your Dad will be given a year to grieve and find somewhere else to live or must he move out immediately. Then I'd tell him what she says.

He's been her carer.

If he'd not been available then she would have needed to spend a lot more on a lot of other things, which would burn down her assets and equity.

Had he not been there the inheritance wouldn't be there. @RedToothBrush where are you getting that from? It doesn't seem to be the case at all.

Maybe he is a good live-in carer or maybe he isn't.
Maybe she has been vulnerable and not in a position to tell him not to give up work on her account, but he went ahead and did it anyway.
Maybe nobody has looked into what a carer costs because he got in there first.
Maybe he did work around the house or maybe that's him talking.
Maybe she's exploited him. Maybe he's exploited her.

One thing's for sure, there is not enough to go on on this thread, so anyone asserting anything is just waffling, really.

A second thing: she has protected her assets, good for her. If the question is how does the OP deal with it, and as pp have said, it's not really for her to do anything!

If the question is: my largely neglectful father has somehow - inadvertently? - got me involved in a situation that's nothing to do with me, how do I handle the aftermath of something I cannot control? Then I would suggest talking to him and making it plain that he is an adult with options and you will not be housing him.

And go where? Where would he go because he has no money etc

He is a man in his 60s who had options this is entirely of his own making. I assume he thought his free ride would last but it hasnt

they both got something out of the transaction but it probably does end with her death

And this is where he should walk out on her and leave her to stew.

Honestly, she's been his carer. That has spared her children the effort and saved her money.

Had he not been there the inheritance wouldn't be there.

If she thinks that little of him and is only concerned about money for her kids right now, she doesn't love him at all.

It'd be easy enough to write a clause giving him rights to the property but in the kids ownership.

She's greedy and selfish. And I'd be telling her that. You don't want the money. You want your dad to be respected. She doesn't respect him.

She got waaaaayyyyyy more than a contribution to bills. She got a live in carer. Thats not a cocklodger.

"A woman's place is in the wrong".

Exactly! When women post here wondering if they should leave a lifelong interest in their house to their partner they are warned against it: it means your children will be liable for maintenance of a property that they can’t use / the partner might trash it / etc
And even when women talk about moving in with a partner: ringfence the property for your children, don’t ask the partner to contribute or he could have a claim, etc.

Here we have a woman who did everything MN-style: she payed the mortgage and house maintenance, only asking for a bills contribution. She didn’t re-marry. She is not giving a lifelong interest. But of course, now she is the villain!

Q: where is all OP’s dad money? Surly only having to contribute to bills and holidays should have left him loaded. Where is the money from his house sale?
Q: why is he painted as a poor victim when he is the type of man who can’t even be bothered to maintain a relationship with his own daughter and grandchildren?
Q: since when did he care for her and is he a sole carer or does she also have professionals coming in? Who knows, maybe all he does is cook her meals and a bit of gardening. Or maybe he does everything. We don’t know, but for some reason most posters have decided he is a poor overworked (abused even!) man, who is being used by his evil partner.

Or under the heading of reaping what you sow, OP could just leave it.

I highly doubt if the situations were reversed that her F would be spending much time concerning himself with OPs housing arrangements.

Her F can just adult up when he has to, no need for OP to get involved.

If he has paid anything towards the upkeep or house improvements then he can put a claim on the house to be reimbursed before they can sell it.

If your dad paid for new windows or anything like that then he should ask for the money back especially as her children will benefit from his investment. Go & see a solicitor, I wouldn't let this one lie quietly like they want it to.

https://england.shelter.org.uk/professional_resources/legal/relationship_breakdown/housing_rights_of_cohabiting_sole_homeowners/preventing_sale_or_disposal_if_one_partner_is_the_sole_owner

not your circus. Not your monkeys.

Why on earth don't you talk to your dad about it? Ask him if he has any savings and what his plan is, given that he has no share in the house and will be forced to leave when she dies?

You've painted her as the villain, and admittedly she is being very harsh, but he is a grown man and he has a responsibility to consider his own financial and housing security.

If he doesn't have any savings and can't afford to buy, he will have to rent and may need to claim benefits (assuming he has a low income, given that he gave up working to be her carer and cashed in a pension early).

He should apply for social housing now, it can take a while to get on the housing register, so even if he doesn't need something right away, he will have got on the list, at least, and won't have to do it when she dies.

Oh and you shouldn't feel any obligation to house him, btw. He's made no effort with you. I wouldn't hesitate to point that out. You reap what you sow.

No more bonkers that you for some reason thinking a grown man of retirement age has neither thought about or discussed wills and finances before. It's just not believable.

Totally agree. The above take is just bonkers.

We do seem to have been reading a different thread.
The OP says that the partner told him about the will 'a few weeks ago'. The fact that the SM mentioned that the OP's dad doesn't contribute to upkeep, etc does not mean that he knew he would be homeless on her death. In fact, it's clear that he was unaware because she had never done him the basic courtesy of mentioning it until the time when she thought her death might be imminent. That's an awful thing to do to a long term partner.
Her comment about not thinking he could maintain the house sounds as if she is making excuses for herself because she has behaved badly. It flies in the face of the fact that he has been keeping the house for her, providing his DIY expertise, etc doesn't it.

@dementedmummy i am not incorrect: you are. The rights arising under the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependants) Act are not related to cohabitation status. They arise where the claimant has a reasonable expectation that the deceased, who was financially supporting them immediately prior to their death, would provide for them on their death. In this case, the free accommodation is part of that. However, it is incorrect to state that English law provides “statutory cohabitation rights for tenants”.

If you’d read my previous posts you would have seen that I have already commented on the dad’s potential claim under the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependants) Act.

There is far too little information here to fully understand the situation. Maybe the father has always been clear about the legal and financial implications. Maybe he is the type to keep his "head in the sand" so the step mother is just checking the daughter knows the situation. Maybe there is some leeway given in how long he could stay after her death. Maybe she's just being melodramatic / is absolutely terrified about the operation and wants to make sure the daughter will be able to support her father either emotionally, practically or financially when actually she's very likely to survive it. Since she mentions him possibly living 20 years longer, I assume they are only in their 60s, whereas most people seem to imagine a frail and helpless man unable to advocate for himself.