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Dr called me rude then got offended when I called him rude back

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amilea · 23/07/2025 19:33

I had a telephone call with a consultant today and he said i interrupted and Overspoke him and he called me rude this is something I struggle with especially with phone conversations as how do you know when the person has finished talking but i accept this is rude so didnt argue it or say anything back. When he had definitely finished talking I said can I speak now please and then within my first sentence he interrupted me so I said you're being rude im talking and my god he went off like a bottle of pop and how insulting it is that I called him rude and how he cant continue being my dr if I think he's rude. At this point im crying and he said I dont want you to get upset but im not going to help you if you insult me. It ended with him referring me to someone else. But why does he think its ok to call me rude but its not ok for me to call him rude, I said the exact thing to him as what he said to me. But just because he's a dr its ok for him to say whatever he wants and not for me.
Aibu to think that where all human and just because he's a dr it doesnt make what I said worse.

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sandyhappypeople · 23/07/2025 19:51

OP, you sound like you were combative during the whole conversation, to say I said "can I speak now please?" when someone has finished talking IS rude, not to mention passive aggressive.

You accept you were rude by interrupting him and talking over him, why are you so angry with doctors? are you not getting somewhere with an issue you are having?

What were you saying when he interrupted you? were you talking about your issues or were you complaining about the conversation?

amilea · 23/07/2025 19:48

saltinesandcoffeecups · 23/07/2025 19:45

two ‘rudes’ don’t make a polite

🤣 Love this!

@amilea maybe I’m having trouble visualizing this and happy to be told I’m being stupid, but how many times did you interrupt him?

Im not sure i absolutely put my hands up to doing this i find it so hard on the phone to tell when someone's finished and he was talking alot I had stuff to say to.

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HurrayDuvet · 23/07/2025 19:47

As a doctor, I would never talk like this to a patient. I might think it, but I would not get into an interaction like that. It sounds incredibly unprofessional, the whole conversation.

MyUmberSeal · 23/07/2025 19:47

The way the NHS is at the moment, I’d let a consultant call me scuzzy cunt and I’d still nod and say thank you very much.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 23/07/2025 19:45

R0ckandHardPlace · 23/07/2025 19:38

He does sound rude but two ‘rudes’ don’t make a polite. Unfortunately sometimes you just have to keep your mouth shut and play the game. You’ll probably have to wait months now for an appointment with another consultant.

two ‘rudes’ don’t make a polite

🤣 Love this!

@amilea maybe I’m having trouble visualizing this and happy to be told I’m being stupid, but how many times did you interrupt him?

CaptainFuture · 23/07/2025 19:44

It all sounds very dramatic and intense. Is this usual for the interactions you have?

amilea · 23/07/2025 19:42

R0ckandHardPlace · 23/07/2025 19:38

He does sound rude but two ‘rudes’ don’t make a polite. Unfortunately sometimes you just have to keep your mouth shut and play the game. You’ll probably have to wait months now for an appointment with another consultant.

I know i should of kept my mouth shut and its me iv ruined it for in the long run but im so sick and tired of drs egos they seem to think they can do and say whatever they want and nobody will say anything back because they are drs and then when you do they cant handle it

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Justagirl95 · 23/07/2025 19:40

Mhm

R0ckandHardPlace · 23/07/2025 19:38

He does sound rude but two ‘rudes’ don’t make a polite. Unfortunately sometimes you just have to keep your mouth shut and play the game. You’ll probably have to wait months now for an appointment with another consultant.