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Is it unreasonable to not eat/drink something when you said you didn’t want it?

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IfIDoThis · 23/07/2025 15:30

If you were out and whoever you were with asked if you wanted another drink or a slice of cake or something and you said no, would you still eat/drink it if they ignored you and got you one anyway?

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SouthLondonMum22 · 23/07/2025 16:39

LaLaLandDreams · 23/07/2025 16:36

Jeez. Can’t people do something nice without a hidden motive of being controlling!?

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It isn't nice if someone says they don't want it and you ignore them.

Arlanymor · 23/07/2025 16:37

Oh g'wan, g'wan, g'wan, g'wan - have a nice cup of tea...

But no, if I've said no then I mean it. It would be weird if I had to eat/drink something against my wishes to keep the peace.

That said... I'm not sure it applies to wine...

Icanttakethisanymore · 23/07/2025 16:37

Surely you know you don't have to eat or drink something you expressly said you didn't want? How is this even a question?

LaLaLandDreams · 23/07/2025 16:36

SoManyTshirts · 23/07/2025 15:46

No, I wouldn’t - I’d see it as controlling behaviour, trying to override my wishes. I don’t eat or drink random stuff that’s bought for me without asking unless I actually want it, either. Some excuse if I wasn’t there to ask, but still.

Shots often fall into the latter category.

Jeez. Can’t people do something nice without a hidden motive of being controlling!?

Darlingk · 23/07/2025 16:35

Definitely no obligation to eat it. OTOH if you see it and decide you do fancy it after all, go for your life.

JaneGrint · 23/07/2025 16:34

I wouldn’t feel any obligation to eat / drink something that someone had bought me if I’d already told them that I didn’t want it.

It’s on them if they’re not happy about the waste of food / drink in that scenario.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 23/07/2025 16:33

I see you’ve been to visit my mum.

CrayonRaymond · 23/07/2025 16:32

No I wouldn’t because I think it’s rude and disrespectful to ignore someone’s “no”

Cherrysoup · 23/07/2025 15:55

Absolutely no. I’m not going to change my mind just because someone ignored my wishes.

SoManyTshirts · 23/07/2025 15:46

No, I wouldn’t - I’d see it as controlling behaviour, trying to override my wishes. I don’t eat or drink random stuff that’s bought for me without asking unless I actually want it, either. Some excuse if I wasn’t there to ask, but still.

Shots often fall into the latter category.

FionnulaTheCooler · 23/07/2025 15:34

If it was something like a cup of tea I'd probably drink it just to keep the peace. If it was a cake I'd ask for a takeaway box and offer it to them to take home for later.

HoneyHoneyHowYouThrillMe · 23/07/2025 15:33

Eh. Depends! I might have a cheeky extra one if the mood struck me.

But I'd feel absolutely no obligation to do so.

WhereIsMyJumper · 23/07/2025 15:33

Were you visiting Craggy Island?

Bikergran · 23/07/2025 15:32

"Oh sorry, you can't have heard me. No thank you."

Masonjarcandle · 23/07/2025 15:31

No of course not. Why would you?