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Everyday carry : do you go light or are you a pack rat?

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partyetiquette · 23/07/2025 15:07

Lighthearted but out with a friend today. She arrives with a tiny crossbody phone case type bag. I arrive with my giant tote the size of a beach bag. I've always wanted to be a small handbag type but I like stuff.
Going round Tescos and I suddenly need to brush my teeth? No probs! Got my travel toothpaste and foldable toothbrush with me! My book (in case I get somewhere early and want to read) book boring? No worries, I've got a magazine as well. And my diary, and my notebook, oh and a scarf in case I get cold. And a mini stapler (never know when you need to staple something small while out and about)
Are you a pack rat or do you have a tiny handbag?
If you are a reformed pack rat- how did you do it? I'm sure my shoulders would thank me!

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DappledThings · 23/07/2025 16:20

I've never taken toothpaste or deodorant out with me unless I was having an actual overnight stay somewhere. Why would you suddenly need to brush your teeth during the day?

I only ever have a small crossbody bag. Book, phone, keys, purse, headphones. Sorted.

partyetiquette · 23/07/2025 16:15

It is bulky definitely and I think I'd like to go lighter. But I hate reading on phone and note taking too. I may need to brush teeth if going to a meeting or out after work (and deodrant, perfume, mini make up kit)

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LurkThenPost · 23/07/2025 16:13

partyetiquette · 23/07/2025 16:08

I think it's a hangover from city living/ commuting. Out all day and not home til late at night

Oh, why do you need to brush your teeth during the day? I take notes all on my phone using the notes app.

LurkThenPost · 23/07/2025 16:12

partyetiquette · 23/07/2025 16:08

I think it's a hangover from city living/ commuting. Out all day and not home til late at night

Don't you find it bulky to carry all that? You can read books on your phone. Play games on your phone. I just can't be bothered to have all that weight with me to carry all day!

partyetiquette · 23/07/2025 16:08

I think it's a hangover from city living/ commuting. Out all day and not home til late at night

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Pinkfluffypencilcase · 23/07/2025 16:01

I used to carry everything. Spare tights. Mini sewing kit. Mini stationery kit incl stapler. As well as Paracetamol. Tissues. Make up. Snacks.

That was for public transport / commute by train.

Now I tend to use pockets only. Key card and phone.
But I think that’s because I have the rest of my stuff in the car.

Echobelly · 23/07/2025 15:57

DH often seems to take the piss because I always carry a bag, although I ought to point out to him he often asks me to put his book or magazine in it if he has one while we're out.

I'm not a massive pack rat, so no toothbrush, but I do always want a bag that will fit phone, wallet, book, small umbrella and ideally a small water bottle and/or snack.

shellyleppard · 23/07/2025 15:56

In my small back pack I have.... sunglasses. large old fashioned purse, carrier bags, eye drops, two sets of keys. One is for my original home 150 miles away 🤣🤣 packets of polo mints, and tissues 🤣🤣

PinkyFlamingo · 23/07/2025 15:54

Somewhere in between as I need to carry medication and I like having a deodorant to.

TheChosenTwo · 23/07/2025 15:53

As much as possible I go bag free. Hate having to cart around an abundance of ‘stuff’.
Pockets are my friend for phone and keys when needed. Most of the time I could get away without using my phone as I have Apple pay on my watch but I do usually have it with me.

LurkThenPost · 23/07/2025 15:53

I leave everything in my car. Sunglasses, magsafe phone charger, deodorant and scarf!! I only carry my phone, keys and airpods if I want to listen music whilst walking. Anything else is such a faff. I pay using my iPhone or Apple Watch. I also have water/crisp in my boot, if I get stranded lol and I'm hungry. I keep umbrella in boot, rarely feel the need to use it.

I'd probably carry deodorant if I was going for some time without my car during the day to freshen up, apart from that I wouldn't carry anything.

VegQueen · 23/07/2025 15:53

I take what I need depending on where I am going, so don’t have a standard ‘everyday carry’ - often I just take a phone and keys in my pockets, but I might also want sunglasses, sun cream, umbrella, battery pack, wallet, headphones, lip balm, mints… I wouldn’t carry any of it if I wasn’t expecting to need it though. So I take as little as possible for my requirements.

Biids · 23/07/2025 15:50

Phone and keys. That’s it.

Gladioters · 23/07/2025 15:48

Not quite as bad as you but I am someone who likes to ‘be prepared’. Really though I think you just need to logic yourself out of some of these things: instead of toothbrush and paste, carry gum. Instead of a book and magazine, carry a kindle app on your phone. Instead of a stapler… no sorry, you lost me at stapler 😅 but you don’t need a diary and a notebook if you have a smartphone. So that’s already more than half your stuff gone.

I do always* have: phone and battery pack, meds including painkillers, plasters, antihistamines, migraine tabs, antacids, hairbands, pen, credit card pen knife, wallet. Usually a bottle of water, often a breakfast bar.

*I say always but actually if I’m somewhere local, the supermarket or town then I often just have my phone and a trolley pound.

Mustbethat · 23/07/2025 15:47

RedPony1 · 23/07/2025 15:44

no handbag.... just my phone!

This. Hate bags everyday. Phone, keys, done.

even back in the day it was wallet and keys. If I needed to go light I’d just take credit card, bit of cash and keys

do love a good rucksack though. That does me a long weekend easily.

went long haul with carry on last year 😂

Bodonka · 23/07/2025 15:45

I’m team Go Light. To the point where, unless I’m out for the whole day away from the car, I won’t even take a bag and just rely on pockets.

Me and DS have done extreme day trips to European cities and I only ever take a crossbody there too 😂

RedPony1 · 23/07/2025 15:44

no handbag.... just my phone!

FionnulaTheCooler · 23/07/2025 15:41

I have two handbags, a backpack for work that carries a lot and a smaller one (a few of these which I alternate) that I can just fit my phone, purse, keys and sunglasses in for weekends.

Shatteredallthetimelately · 23/07/2025 15:39

My DM's handbag, aspired to be a skip.

It carried all kinds of items, and rubbish, that not even Mary Poppins would want.

I learned from the knacked shoulder she subsequently suffered with and vowed to travel light.

My own cross body bag is large enough for my purse, phone, packet of travel tissues and my keyring containing 3 keys.

If I go shopping as in browsing with slight intent to buy, I wear a small PE type back pack that contains any bags I may need.

Any other serious shopping will involve taking the car.

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