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Everyday carry : do you go light or are you a pack rat?

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partyetiquette · 23/07/2025 15:07

Lighthearted but out with a friend today. She arrives with a tiny crossbody phone case type bag. I arrive with my giant tote the size of a beach bag. I've always wanted to be a small handbag type but I like stuff.
Going round Tescos and I suddenly need to brush my teeth? No probs! Got my travel toothpaste and foldable toothbrush with me! My book (in case I get somewhere early and want to read) book boring? No worries, I've got a magazine as well. And my diary, and my notebook, oh and a scarf in case I get cold. And a mini stapler (never know when you need to staple something small while out and about)
Are you a pack rat or do you have a tiny handbag?
If you are a reformed pack rat- how did you do it? I'm sure my shoulders would thank me!

OP posts:
JaceLancs · 24/07/2025 08:55

Big bag person here but with very little in it!
phone keys pencil wallet tissues medication if at work diary and second phone

Octavia64 · 24/07/2025 08:41

My DD is a light packer.

she does crosswords on her phone in situations where I would read a book.

Bodonka · 24/07/2025 08:28

partyetiquette · 24/07/2025 08:23

All you light packers , what do you do if you have a headache and no tablets with you, or you have to wait somewhere without a book?

Good question! I’m not a huge tablet taker, but if I’m in a lot of pain, I’ll just buy some. I’m also not a huge book reader (at this stage of my life! Old me would be horrified) so I’d just do life admin/answer messages on my phone - that being said I have a few books/audiobooks on my phone too.

Octavia64 · 24/07/2025 08:26

Disabled.

pack rat but the bag hangs on my wheelchair.

medication: codeine naproxen paracetamol ibuprofen inhaler
perfume
deodirant
radar key
cards that explain my disability
expandable shopping bag
sunglasses
phone
keys
water in this weather.

partyetiquette · 24/07/2025 08:23

All you light packers , what do you do if you have a headache and no tablets with you, or you have to wait somewhere without a book?

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Delphigirl · 23/07/2025 23:34

I very often just have a phone. I don’t even have keys as my house has password entry and I can drive my car from my phone app!

if I do have a bag it rarely has more than a pen, lipsalve, tissues and sometimes a kindle. My work bag adds a laptop charging cords fountain pens and ink cartridges.

I don’t even carry a water bottle as I hate the extra weight.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 23/07/2025 22:40

BogRollBOGOF · 23/07/2025 22:20

On me, minimalist. Often phone (with cards and emergency bank note) and keys.

My car... it is a vessel of wonders!
To be fair my record traffic jam has been 8 hours, and I'm a distance runner so it is useful to have a stash of energy bars, water. There's normally spare running layers and emergency clothes changes in there which have come in handy for random reasons. It's about as well stocked as my bathroom.

And yes, I spend a lot of time in my huge car, sometimes alone but often with kids...waiting for other kids to finish training.

Always: bottles of water, box of cereal bars, couple of small blankets, first aid kit, shopping bags, jumper and change of clothes for youngest. Dry Robe. Wipes. Notebook and pen.

Winter: hats and gloves, bigger blanket. Ratchet straps and tow rope.

Summer: picnic blanket, basic beach toys (bucket and spade, ball, shrimping nets, kite), magnet fishing line, litter picker, sun tan lotion, basic swimming kit.

TheDandyLion · 23/07/2025 22:38

Depends what I'm doing when I'm leaving the house but usually as little as possible. Phone and keys if possible but I'll carry a backpack if I need to carry water bottle and things when walking for some distance. I find shoulder bags or even a cross body bag fussy and lopsided. If I'm driving anywhere the car is full of all the random bits like umbrella, paracetamol, mints, hairbrush, tissues, lip balm etc so no need to carry it about when outside of the car.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 23/07/2025 22:36

If it is just me I rarely carry a bag. Phone, car key, lip balm, sunglasses on head .

With kids, more. 'Emergency' pouch (suntan lotion, tissues, basic medicine, lip balm, hair bands, pen, post its, plasters etc. Small wetbag with change of pants and shorts for youngest with wipes and a couple of nappy bags. Water bottle, perhaps a cereal bar each. Small toy.

Yabberwok · 23/07/2025 22:34

Please go on YouTube and laugh as the men (always men) who do every day carry videos, which have included and I shit you not:
25 meters of para cord
3 knives
2 guns ( American obvs)
4 ways to make fire plus flint and steel, ferro rod, and bow drill
Water purification tools
A cook stove
An axe
Two power banks
Several usb tumb sticks
A walkie talkie
Gold, silver coins plus £1000s in notes
A saw
Fishing line and hooks
A tourniquet (Americans are obsessed by them)
Duck tape
Cable ties
Tin foil square
3 tourches
Strangely no one seems to carry immodium, paracetamol or anti acids. There are no plasters, wet wipes or even hand sanitiser. No tissues. No nail files or small scissors. Some do carry safety pins and a sowing kit but not super glue.

But ever single one will carry a note book and pen...I cannot remember the last time I had to write a note outside of my house...oh and the notebook must be waterproof and the pen a tactical pen which will also smash windows.

Bichette · 23/07/2025 22:31

My bags and purses have got progressively smaller these last few years. I work from home so don’t need a bag of stuff with me and usually just use a Uniqlo cross body bag to carry my phone, tissues, pen, lip balm and sunglasses.

MyAcornWood · 23/07/2025 22:23

I’m back to having a small baby again now but before kids/when my older child didn’t need nappies etc anymore, just keys and phone! I’m finding it so annoying having to carry a bag again.

BogRollBOGOF · 23/07/2025 22:20

On me, minimalist. Often phone (with cards and emergency bank note) and keys.

My car... it is a vessel of wonders!
To be fair my record traffic jam has been 8 hours, and I'm a distance runner so it is useful to have a stash of energy bars, water. There's normally spare running layers and emergency clothes changes in there which have come in handy for random reasons. It's about as well stocked as my bathroom.

LurkThenPost · 23/07/2025 22:19

Meredusoleil · 23/07/2025 22:18

What is DL?

Driving Licence maybe

Meredusoleil · 23/07/2025 22:18

Vodkamartini3olives · 23/07/2025 22:07

Small crossbody bag.
Keys
Phone
DL
Vape
Lip balm

What is DL?

FourBlackCats · 23/07/2025 22:14

Keys, phone, maybe a lip gloss. Pockets in winter, small cross body bag in summer.

Vodkamartini3olives · 23/07/2025 22:07

Small crossbody bag.
Keys
Phone
DL
Vape
Lip balm

Barney16 · 23/07/2025 21:51

Purse, phone keys. Have been known to do a city break with two pairs of knickers, a credit card and a toothbrush (before children) I hate luggage.

Stripeysockspots · 23/07/2025 21:50

I have a phone bag for when it's just me.

With DC I have a mum bag which is a larger cross body one that fits a bottle of water, 2 snacks, plasters, safety pins etc.

Laura95167 · 23/07/2025 21:48

Pack rat!

Ilovelowry · 23/07/2025 16:49

I'm on holiday. My favourite sundresses are short and require modesty shorts under.

So I wear navy cycling/gym shorts with phone pockets.

Card holder and phone in one, inhaler in the other. Walk out the door.

If im out in London for the day, I take a small leather COS cross body (like a leather version of the uniqlo bag). This fits my kindle, phone, cards, inhaler and tissues.

Used to have totes in the early 2000s for work. Will never go back!

ThinWomansBrain · 23/07/2025 16:46

A stapler? I do keep trying to migrate to smaller bags, but I feel positively virtuous now.
Keys, work keys, lanyard, sunglasses, umbrella, reading glasses, reading sunglasses, tissues, phone, small wallet with cards, water bottle, emergency sun protector, hand cream, sting relief cream, emergency antihistamine tablet. Pen, travelcard. Fold up bag in case I do any shopping.
If I'm on my way to work, my lunch & often breakfast.

Some of this is summer only, but if winter replaced by gloves.

BodysBroken · 23/07/2025 16:32

I have a few things I can't be without so I can rarely get awat with a teeny bag, but I hate the weight of a big one too. My most frequently used bag is a mini backpack. Big enough for:
Purse
Phone
Keys
Medication
Travel pass
Small bottle of water
Neck fan
Sometimes a book
Dog poo bags and dog treats if she's with me

ZippyPeer · 23/07/2025 16:30

If going somewhere by train would have:
Phone
Keys
Water bottle
Snack
Headphones (in case of noisy twats)
Recharger battery & charging cables
Kindle
Deodorant
Mints
Tissues
Pen
Suncream or umbrella or jumper (weather dependent)
Foldaway reusable carrier bag - in case I buy stuff or need to take any warm layers off and can't fit them in my bag.

If just locally: phone and keys, maybe headphones and a tissue in pocket.

If I have children with me, more snacks, water bottles and a change of clothes (for them)

I hate the idea of the day being really affected by a lack of planning/right stuff, but try to keep my prepper tendencies under control...

BadActingParsley · 23/07/2025 16:25

Its so freeing when you just go out with phone and keys. I di keep a bank card with me in my phone case. It also means my dh can't load me up like a pack horse with his stuff....

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