To this is absolutely insane! Universal Credit Sanction

Couldn't have put it better myself.

This! You can help her improve her mental health by managing what she does with her time.

Agreed

If she missed the appointment because of her mental health, she needs to let them know and provide a sick note from her gp and she won't be sanctioned

I suppose I (and others that may have suggested it) was thinking more specifically about the OP and her daughter, who lives at home and doesn't seem to have a mortgage or childcare to pay for.

Not sure you can just keep getting more student loans either, pretty sure it's capped at 1 undergrad and 1 postgrad.

A postgrad adds 6% onto your original percentage over the original threshold. Grabbing a lower paid job for a bit whilst studying part time could be worth it in the long run, if the extra qualification can lead to a higher paid job.

I see your point, though. It's not a one size fits all. Could fit this case, though.

If they are made redundant from a £60k job and can't find another, they'll pay more of their mortgage with a £32k job than £25k benefits.

Could you or she afford an appointment with a Corporate Career Guide. Clearly if she is applying for so many jobs she is not tailoring her CV. It is lacking in something. They might be able to advise. I have a friend who works for the UC version in Ireland. I was recruiting and told her. A few of her clients applied and the CVs she thought were excellent were actually quite poor in the industry I was recruiting for.

Is looking up Networking Events, Conferences, asking friends and family for contacts etc Sometimes it can be who you know rather than what.

Seven months is a big gap in her cv. Surely there must be some jobs around even it is something online until she gets one in the career she wants. Can she start doing some online courses like Udemy etc.

Also I would suggest that if she sees an ad on Indeed maybe go to the company site and see if you can apply there too, My experience of recruiting with similar to Indeed was being swamped with unsuitable people with generic cvs.

30 mile radius is pretty standard (if you use job search engines). With regard to the cocktail question - if it was bar work maybe they were looking for someone with a sense of humour and a bit of creativity.

Yet the "poors" are told on here to have the luxury of morals when they are told to shop at People Tree instead of New Look.

By virtue of being a woman, I’ve been felt up on the tube. Sexually harassed walking down the street. Felt up at work… you make a complaint, you report it to the police, you do all of that .

You also go to work, or appointments. She was felt up on the tube. Big whoop. We’ve all been. It’s awful, and it deserve police attention. But it’s no reason not to work or attend appointments. She needs to toughen up. This is the reality of life.

What "evidence", other than the evidence of DD missing an appointment?

I think the OP is about to find out that her daughter, I think due to not coping with her bad mental health, has lied to her through her teeth. My husband does this too, his mental health is very bad at the moment. At the interviews he does go to, they realise there is something going on with him and never hears back. Depression is loathsome. He also misses medical appointments.

Crikey.

I prefer not to engage with someone who has such a low opinion of people who claim benefits.

Off out to the Co-Op now to spend my Carer's Allowance on gin. Must feed my free goat when I get back.

She was absolutely meant to laugh it off. If she did, she would still be employed. Sometimes you don’t have the luxury of morals.

Just to clarify @Womanofcustard, do you mean the modern Britain where lots of us get up, deal with our crap and go out to work to fund young adults to spend most of their day in bed because they can't handle being sacked, OR the modern Britain where the whole system is so cruel that it won't pay people to lay around in bed all day without taking some of that money away if they lay around in bed all day?

When my stepson was on UC he was sanctioned for being late for his appointment even though he was the in office waiting for his appointment because they were running late.

Beggars can't be choosers I am afraid. If she doesn't like the rules that apply to claiming benefits, time to try harder at finding a job. I'm always skeptical of how much effort and time has been put into an application when someone has applied to 1500 roles. Hitting "apply" with generic CV isn't good enough anymore

She should have smiled politely at his "joke" and stayed silent, then left the room and avoided him as much as possible from then on, whilst immediately starting looking for a new job. He's an arsehole, he tested her to see if he could push her around. She failed the test so she's out. It's life.

Regards UC. Don't think of it as an organisation that helps you. That's how they advertise themselves, in reality they're only there to monitor you. It's just hoops you have to jump through to continue getting the money. It's very black and white, you either jump through the hoops or you don't get the money. Your outrage is misplaced and unhelpful to DD. She broke the rules, the sanction is justified.

You believed the hype, that's understandable if you don't move in circles where people have experience of these systems, but now you know the truth it's time to adjust your mindset and face reality - you can't fight the system. It's bigger than you, stronger than you and it holds all the power. So even if you're in the right, unless you're minted and can afford to take people to court to force them to do their jobs properly as a point of principal, you won't win.

I agree with the poster who said don't try to fight DD battles with UC but do focus on supporting her/kicking her butt (as applicable) to improve her MH. Sleeping all day she's either in need of medical intervention or she's wallowing in self pity. Even if she does need a trip to the GP, she's still going to need to do self help measures to recover.

The sexist MD has arrived!! Thankfully the Transport Police wouldnt agree with you. The OPS DD was the victim of a crime. What an appalling attitude and i bet you wouldnt be saying the same if OPs DD wasnt claiming benefits Poorer women and girls are seen as fair game

What about a childcare apprenticeship?

Just to my 2 pence in....i have applied for 350 jobs ATLEAST in the last month up to a 30 mile commute away. (And I'm not talking about to be a rocket scientist. Just retail/bar work/cleaning)

A work coach has agreed there is nothing wrong with my c.v. I've been offered 2 interviews.

One of which asked me 'if you were a cocktail...which one would you be and why?
WTAF????????

I didn't get the job💁

No, "we" are suggesting it because OP said her DD's MH is "on the floor" (and it seems to be for good reason). No-one with good MH sleeps for 14-16hrs a day.

I agree it is totally worth it if it means you get to do something you are passionate about. It kind of depends on your circumstances, though. What if someone was made redundant from a skilled job salaried at £60k and there was no longer a demand for that role, how would they cover their mortgage and childcare costs and the £10k it costs to go and retrain as something like a teacher for a year to earn £32k the other side? Especially if they don't want to retrain but have to because it's one of the only places with vacancies.

Also re: the 'just take out another student loan' mentality - I have spent almost 20 years paying off a student loan (paid ~ >£200 per month from my salary) and still have £10k+ left to pay, why would I want to add to that debt to take a lower-paid job?

I think my point is that reskilling/retraining is a good option for some, but shouldn't be the go-to. People are happy to tell others to retrain until it is a job in their field that has been made redundant by AI.

If he was so bad, she'd have other examples to cite after a few weeks, which would have been the wiser strategy rather than reacting like that out the gate. Or she could've asked the apparently lovely HR woman how she dealt with the guy, coming at it that way. There's no world in which she needed to say 'MD says you're fat and ugly', that would be about as smart as telling the MD he's rude.

She got felt up on the tube. Yes, awful. Terrible thing. But it’s just getting felt up on the tube. It’s no reason at all to be unable to attend her UC appointment.