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Paid for seats on ryan air and kids still sat separately

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Hookahchakkah · 23/07/2025 12:09

Has anyone had any success getting a refund and compensati on.? We paid the extra to ensure we were with the kids all together and they sat all four of us completely separately, not even across an aisle or one row away like five and twenty five rows away from each other

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Mastercom · 23/07/2025 16:08

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/07/2025 13:48

Only other thing I wonder is, what was your husband doing whilst you were up and down, running about the plan and begging flight crew?

Why would you think this post is helpful?

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 23/07/2025 16:08

This can happen if there is a last minute change of aircraft that has a different configuration. I think it's awful not to a. Prioritise families with children and b. Automatically give a refund, as its legally dubious and morally wrong to keep money for a service they haven't provided

Mastercom · 23/07/2025 16:06

L0bstersLass · 23/07/2025 13:34

This.
When I booked a flight with them in Feb, I chose my seats as part of the buying process.
Did you overlook the fact that you have to select you seats @Hookahchakkah?

I think you overlooked her post explaining it.

Springersrock · 23/07/2025 16:04

PlumpAndDeliciousFatcat · 23/07/2025 15:39

Sadly the usual public social media strategy which works on other companies does not on Ryanair. They absolutely know their reputation for shit customer service, and they lean into and positively revel in it.

Do complain and pursue a refund however, OP.

I agree. Their customer service is shit and they know it.

DH and I flew with Ryan Air a couple of months ago. I’m shit scared of flying so we had paid for seats together. Checked in online in plenty of time, arrived at the gate fairly early. When we went to board found we’d been separated. They didn’t give us a reason

Asked what to do about a refund and was told by the cabin staff to contact Ryan Air when we got home. Contacted Ryan Air to be told we should have spoken to cabin staff at the time and it was too late. I gave up. I don’t think they have any intention of refunding people when stuff like that happens.

It was only a short flight thankfully.

We sat in the seats we’d paid for on the way back.

My friend got stung with an excess baggage charge from Ryan Air the other day as her carry on bag was too big. The same carry on bag she’s been using for years, when measured with a tape measure is well within their published sizes and it fit in the bag gauge at the check in desk perfectly fine but had magically grown by the time she had got to the gate.

Epidote · 23/07/2025 16:03

They book the same seat to different people and you paid the consequences looks like.
You can't do nothing now other than put a claim back and make them give you the money back plus compensation if applicable if you have the time to do it.
It is tedious to deal with them.

LlynTegid · 23/07/2025 15:57

Kuretake · 23/07/2025 15:46

There's a way Mumsnet threads on plane seats normally go and posters usually get to enjoy berating someone for not paying for seat allocation but expecting to sit with their toddler.

Airlines are not usually the baddies of these threads so this has thrown everyone.

Plus what you said.

Airlines are not usually the bad people, but every rule has an exception. Ryanair are that exception. Do not excuse their behaviour.

LlynTegid · 23/07/2025 15:56

PlumpAndDeliciousFatcat · 23/07/2025 15:39

Sadly the usual public social media strategy which works on other companies does not on Ryanair. They absolutely know their reputation for shit customer service, and they lean into and positively revel in it.

Do complain and pursue a refund however, OP.

Someone pursued a debt/refund and ended up at the airport with a demand that could have meant they could take chairs and other equipment. Cannot recall the details and which airline, but it had the desired result.

Kuretake · 23/07/2025 15:46

EastGrinstead · 23/07/2025 15:42

Some posters are simply not very bright and quite gullible.

There's a way Mumsnet threads on plane seats normally go and posters usually get to enjoy berating someone for not paying for seat allocation but expecting to sit with their toddler.

Airlines are not usually the baddies of these threads so this has thrown everyone.

Plus what you said.

Wishihadanalgorithm · 23/07/2025 15:43

I’d be putting this on Ryan Air’s social media and seeing what their response is.

EastGrinstead · 23/07/2025 15:42

Throwmoneyatit · 23/07/2025 14:49

It's Ryanair. Why would you find this hard to believe?

Or have you not flown with Ryanair?

The op has clearly stated that she asked for answers, as to why they'd been moved. She obviously found this hard to believe to.

Just because it hasn't happened to you, doesn't mean it hasn't happened to anybody else.

Some posters are simply not very bright and quite gullible.

PlumpAndDeliciousFatcat · 23/07/2025 15:39

moose62 · 23/07/2025 14:51

Unlikely they will give you a refund, even if you deserve one, but will tie you up in knots till you give up.
Make a stand on social media...FB, Instagram, X .....post on all platforms on their pages and just keep reposting when they try and delete you! If nothing else they will get as annoyed as you are! This us the only way I have got answers from companies who try to ignore me. Doesn't always work....

Sadly the usual public social media strategy which works on other companies does not on Ryanair. They absolutely know their reputation for shit customer service, and they lean into and positively revel in it.

Do complain and pursue a refund however, OP.

BerryTwister · 23/07/2025 15:38

That's truly bizarre OP.
I can't think of a reason why they'd move a family of 4 who'd paid to sit together, and replace them with 3 people who were strangers to each other.
I would definitely complain.
Did you ask to see the boarding pass of the one man who did agree to move, to see where is seat was meant to be?
The only possible explanation I can think of is if you checked in particularly late, and they maybe thought you were a no-show.

Ryanair are totally shit but I would fight for a refund on this.

EastGrinstead · 23/07/2025 15:36

LemondrizzleShark · Today 14:17
They’ve likely changed aircraft last minute and just allocated everyone randomly.

If the aircraft was changed at the last minute, only the seats that did not exist on the new aircraft would be re-allocated. The only other reason that a seat would be re-allocated is that the row was an exit row in the new aircraft.

This was not the case for the OP. She claimed her seats existed on the aircraft and had been assigned to random adults.

pontipinemum · 23/07/2025 15:32

Wow that is terrible service!! We have flown with Ryan air a good bit and thankfully always been fine. We will be flying with a 1yr old and 3yr old in a few weeks, I've booked our seats together hope we don't have any issues.

I also don't think it is your fault for not being on the flight first to avoid the issue. You paid are allocated a seat it shouldn't matter. I am usually the last onto any plane.

So your boarding pass said the correct seats that you had paid for? I wonder what the other peoples said. Was it a f'ck up on the booking system and let those seats be double booked. Or was your row not there? That happens if they change the airplane sometimes

U53rn8m3ch8ng3 · 23/07/2025 15:21

Hookahchakkah · 23/07/2025 13:25

We paid for the seats next to each other and checked the boarding passes and went to the airport, checked in went through to security, had a sandwich and went to the gate.

At the gate they said these aren’t your seats anymore we have to move you. We said no we’ve paid to sit together and one of us is ten. They said sorry try on the plane, we said no help is now, can you at least switch the seats so the ten year old isn’t by himself they said no. We said who can we speak to they said just get on the plane. We said he can’t sit 23 rows away from us they said madam get on the plane. We were almost last on and tried to speak to the steward was but there was anbkuncmenet which said get to your seats now we are going to miss the air traffic window, i begged someone to swap (which they did reluctantly before I got told to sit and showed the original seats so the kids could at least sit together but they were a few rows from my husband. I went to the other end of the plane and I tried to get their attention and gave up.

as soon as I could I grabbed an air hostess and said my kids are by themselves she said you’ll have to wait for seatbelts

as soon as seatbelts went off I went down to check on them and the drinks trolley was coming up. The stewatdesss told me to go back and wait and I said “my kids have been say by themselves can I check on them”

the other stewardess said very loudly what’s going on and the first one said “she wants to check on her kids”

the other one said very loudly “well that’s convenient timing isn’t it” and I said loudly to her “you’ve sat our kids by themselves even though we paid, can i just check that they are ok please”
qns she rolled her eye and roll ed the trolley back.

I checked very quickly they were fine which was a relief and they were waiting impatiently.

I said “we’ve paid to sit together and you’ve sat us all separately” and she said “oh yeah we did know there was a family of four that had been separated.

I asked what had happened and she said she didn’t know.

there was one spare seat near so me and my husband and I sat five and seven rows back.

it was only a two hour flight and we were about 45 minutes in by this time. She came and asked us if we wanted to all be moved to sit together and most people around us were either asleep or with small kids but I don’t understand if they knew we were separated before we even got on the plane that they allowed this to happen.

What an absolute joke. Is be furious too, there must have been multiple other people who could have been shuffled about to at least get two pairs of seats together if nothing else.

U53rn8m3ch8ng3 · 23/07/2025 15:20

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/07/2025 13:48

Only other thing I wonder is, what was your husband doing whilst you were up and down, running about the plan and begging flight crew?

Really?

CoughCoughLaugh · 23/07/2025 15:20

@Hookahchakkah How old was the other child?

JoeGrundyWasMyRoleModel · 23/07/2025 15:17

Is it possible the OP booked an exit row without realising it and at the last minute the check-in or gate staff realised the safety implications of children in that row?

We were once delayed 13 hours by a technical fault on a Ryanair flight to Dublin before Brexit. Staff proceeded to hand out notices to all passengers claiming (erroneously) that EU compensation rules did not apply to Ryanair.

RoundRedRobin · 23/07/2025 15:12

Op, you should def put this all over social media- make parents aware not to pay for seating as you don’t get the seats anyway!

We went with Ryanair recently and didn’t pay for seats and we were as far from each other as possible, which was fine but my youngest started getting upset as she’s developed a fear of flying (that we knew nothing of until we got on the flight the week previously) so as soon as the person with the ticket next to her got on I asked if we could swap which they did.
you do have to get on first and ask before people sit down to swap- as soon as people sit down they don’t want to move. However with paid for seats this shouldn’t be an issue!

hope you get the refund xx

Stompythedinosaur · 23/07/2025 15:11

That's outrageous! I would kick up a massive fuss over this! How stressful for you!

RichardMarxisinnocent · 23/07/2025 15:09

JuniperBug · 23/07/2025 14:33

If you paid for seats to be sat together then you should definitely get a refund. All the other fuss you’re making is a load of drama. A 10 year old is absolutely fine to be sat on a plane for a 2 hour flight, especially if they are with a sibling. It sounds like you were late to board if you were one of the last ones on. I
travelled alone as a child all the time from the age of 8. No big deal really. I also never pay for seats when I travel with dc, 6,10,14. Most of the time we’re sat together but we were recently separated on a flight to Kenya. It’s not the end of the world.

A 10 year old is indeed fine many rows away from their parents, until there is an emergency and the parents then want to go and help their child, or the plane is being evacuated and the parents are trying to move 20 rows back to ensure their child gets out, but the aisle is full of other passengers trying to get to the emergency exits.

Bluebells44 · 23/07/2025 15:00

I don’t know why people are bending over backwards to try to make it your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong. We had this happen to us with another airline and a four year old. Maybe people don’t realise how often it can happen.

Everyone kept saying that they couldn’t do anything and pushing us to the next person. It wasn’t until we were at the gate refusing to board that they finally changed seats so that at least one of us could sit with our child. We were prepared to give up on the flight entirely as there was no way we could travel sitting separately.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/07/2025 14:54

Kubricklayer · 23/07/2025 13:52

Why is that what you wonder? Are they supposed to tag team the staff or try to bully them together?

You only need one adult to advocate for the family in this instance? Either the mother and father are capable of this. So not sure why you're trying to shift focus on the issue and turn it into 'look at the terrible man doing nothing whilst OP struggles'.

Edited

Sounds like he was sat closer to the children for one thing. And possibly not on rhe wrong side of the drinks trolley.

And yes I was thinking “what a terrible man sat doing nothing whilst OP struggles”.

Unfortunately, it is often the case in our society that if a man asks, everyone is suddenly all too happy to help.

moose62 · 23/07/2025 14:51

Unlikely they will give you a refund, even if you deserve one, but will tie you up in knots till you give up.
Make a stand on social media...FB, Instagram, X .....post on all platforms on their pages and just keep reposting when they try and delete you! If nothing else they will get as annoyed as you are! This us the only way I have got answers from companies who try to ignore me. Doesn't always work....

Throwmoneyatit · 23/07/2025 14:49

EastGrinstead · 23/07/2025 14:09

I find this hard to believe.

Ryanair mandates that children aged 2 to 11 must be seated next to an accompanying adult.

Why would four seats that you had booked, paid for, selected, checked in on and been given boarding passes for, etc. be given away to random adults. It does not make sense.

Edited

It's Ryanair. Why would you find this hard to believe?

Or have you not flown with Ryanair?

The op has clearly stated that she asked for answers, as to why they'd been moved. She obviously found this hard to believe to.

Just because it hasn't happened to you, doesn't mean it hasn't happened to anybody else.

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