My boyfriend has form for speaking to like I am one of his friends. I’ve asked him previously not to talk about other women in front of me.
This morning he was talking about one of the women he works with and he told me ‘oh yes, she is very attractive’. I hadn’t asked.
He never compliments me or my appearance but seems to be able to compliment other women to me despite me asking him not to.
He has also been quite un complimentary about my appearance previously. It just makes me feel like he is comparing me to these women and that obviously I’m coming up short.
He says that I am jealous and controlling by asking him not to talk about the appearance of other woman and that he can’t do anything right.
AIBU? Am I jealous and insecure? I don’t think I’d be so bothered if he made me feel like he found me attractive.
I wouldn’t think of criticising his appearance and then talking about other men that I found attractive. It would feel cruel to me.