To find every bra uncomfortable?

Where do you source different types of wires @LoveSandbanks ? I might like to try making myself a bra. I know that I need narrower wires than available in UK bras, as the best fitting bra I ever had was Polish, designed for a very slender torso, which I have.

There’s no getting around the fact though, that bras need to be very snug in the band so that a lot of the support comes from below, rather than your breasts’ full weight hanging from your shoulders. With an underwired bra, this means that you’re wearing scaffolding on your body. I could tolerate this for daily wear when I was younger but can’t stand the discomfort now and wear soft cup sports bras with a wide band, which spreads the weight and is more comfortable.

M &S do a nice soft bra, it has normal bra straps but no back fastening, give my E/F boobs plenty of support and very comfy. They are sold in packs of three.

Can anyone link to the silicone nipple covers? There are loads of options; I have no idea which ones are any good! Thanks 🙏

I tried these but the padding kept coming out in the wash so I had to sew them in which ruined the way they looked.

But comfy once on!

I've ditched bras for bralettes and double layer crop tops. Stripe and stare bralets and 3 packs of crop tops from asda.

I'm only 32D so tiny, and whilst a bra sits my breasts a bit higher, I'd rather be comfy and them droop.

I'm on HRT though with mirena so no associated PMT breast soreness anymore which helps.

Thats because m and s are shite

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I hate wearing bras too but with a very small bust can get away with it - I second silicon nipple covers or, for a budget alternative to M&S Flexi fit bralettes, Peacocks do a very cheap bonded version which is incredibly comfortable for £10. I have bought lots! I also buy a much bigger size than I need because I can't bear anything tight.

Omg, there’s plunge wires, balcony wires, wide fit wires, day wires, long wires, France, rocker etc etc.

I had a professional bra fitting a couple of months ago and it has literally changed my shape. I've even had friends say what a difference it makes to me. No longer do I have a shelf under my chin, I have proper perky looking boobs because I am wearing the correct size bra at long last.

I've spent over £300 on three bras since then, I buy Empreinte, expensive but boy, have they been worth it.

I was wearing 38GG before and they always looked massive, now I am 34G and even now I can't get over how comfortable the new bras are but also the wonderful difference to how I look.

Oh thank you so much - that’s really helpful feedback.

Different wire shapes, who knew?! That makes a lot of sense. Every "normal" wired bra I've ever worn has had wires that come right up into my armpit and dig in and/or dig into my breastbone and/or dig in to my ribs at the bottom of the cup. The Bravissimo-fitted bra as mentioned earlier managed all three at once! Balcony bras have been the only wires that don't do that to me, but ever since pregnancy they've been unbearable too. Given that my youngest is nine and I still feel this way, I have given up on the idea of ever buying another wired bra 😂

I have an unusual anatomy and had given up in bras, living life in sloggi bralettes. Fortunately I’m no large busted so don’t need much support. I e recently started making my own bras and it’s an utter game changer. There are a huge number of different wire types for different shaped breasts, probably only about 3 or 4 of which are used in high street bras. When you know this it’s easy to understand why most of us struggle to find a bra that is comfortable.

Sadly a made to measure bra will cost upwards of £200 for most people.

I've just measured how boom say to, came up as 30f. Well,I have 34dd and e, the cups are a good fit but the back straps are too small and I have an extension and done up on the last hooks. I had a measurement in M and S with my bra and naked, she made me 36DD, cups were under my arms. Gave it to DD.

I loathe wearing a bra and tend to go bra free at home. I wouldn’t wear one out and about either but I think men notice, unfortunately, and I don’t want attention from them. I was once told by a psychotherapist that bras are a contributing factor to anxiety in women, as they constantly have a tight and constricting band around their ribs - I think they are onto something.

I just suffer when I have to wear a bra - definitely the right size, I understand how it should fit. If i can get away with it i will wear light support sports bras, which are better, but still annoying. I’ve recently got some stick on bras to try - haven’t given them a go yet, but there are no straps so hopefully will feel better.

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M&S flexifit bralettes. Amazing and all I wear now. I used to do all that tight band, underwires, big cups thing - pah, couldn’t give a monkeys about that now. Bralettes all the way.

Last time I tried a "correct size" bra it was so painful I was near to tears after only an hour. Took it back to Bravissimo (they'd measured me and everything) the next day. I'd rather wear one that's too big than feel like the bra is trying to cut me in half.

Solidarity, OP, bras are awful. I can't bear wired ones, and finding a nonwired bra that doesn't have massive hideous straps is a challenge. I'd try molke, but the straps are so ugly 😩

I’ve always hated bras. I have cartilage on my ribs which means that my rib cage is slightly larger than normal. (a doctor did explain it to me once after my stepmum dragged me for loads of tests as a teenager due to abnormal lumps- my mum died of breast cancer so there was obvious concern)

I tried getting professional fittings etc I tried measuring myself using the boob and bust method - they were all uncomfortable.

i was eventually recommended a local independent retailer who don’t measure, but fit you by sight. They try you in a couple then take a look then keep trying until you get the right fit. It was life changing!

When I got the bras home I did still struggle for a bit, but once they were washed a couple of times and I got used to wearing bras again they were fine and I now don’t notice when I’m wearing them.

i would see if you could find a local independent retailer, there are loads listed on the boob and bust website. It is their livelihood rather than just being an employee in a high street chain so it is in their interest to help you and get you coming back as a repeat customer.

I went to get a new bra the other day. I tried on one that is like a cropped top (goes over your head) by Sloggi and it was the most comfortable thing ever! It doesn't look very glam, but it’s supportive and so soft. I forget I'm even wearing a bra! I think I'm going to get one in every colour now! Definitely recommend.

Try Molke! They are a game changer! Nothing like traditional bras, far more comfortable!