To find every bra uncomfortable?

Oh, thank you-where was one from? Are you able to link??

What I want is a non-wired bra, that has built in padding (so that bit doesn't get all misshapen or move around), isn't massive like a lot of bralettes are and that does some sort of divide and lift!
@Shinyandnew1 I mentioned up thread about this one. It's moulded so no loose pads and gives me the nearest thing to cleavage, I think because it's an unusual shape. I only wear it if I'm wearing a strappy top.

That's one of the nicer sloggi bras. I have several similar.
If that's you OP you are a bit bigger busted than me but it looks a good fit. I think if that feels uncomfortable you are really going to struggle to get anything better. There are no wires, no fasteners as they pull on, nothing to dig in but firm enough for support.
I had breast pain before my lumpectomy but much more since, I also recently found out I get costochondritis which basically feels like bruised ribs. My breast surgeon said no matter how small they are you should wear a bra.

I find bras incredibly uncomfortable as I go through my 40s! I have some
Bravissimo ones which were fitted at the store and look great under clothes but I can barely breathe in-I will wear them if I have to (certain outfits/occasions) but hate it.

I have bralettes which are ok but give a pretty rubbish shape to bigger boobs.

I have a Molke which is 'ok'. Better in winter but they are big and bright and if you wear strappy tops in summer it just shows underneath which I don't like.

What I want is a non-wired bra, that has built in padding (so that bit doesn't get all misshapen or move around), isn't massive like a lot of bralettes are and that does some sort of divide and lift!

I never used to but post 50 yrs and they’ve somewhat taken on their own character 🥴

@CherryogDog thin silk scarf under the band makes twisting the bra round much easier. Remove it once in place obviously 😁

I had a DIEP reconstruction using belly fat. Unfortunately I've put on weight, and my belly fat boobs have expanded far too much.
Boob or bust puts me at 32G, the cups are fine but even with a band expander it's agony.
I'm not mobile enough to fasten my bra from behind so I do it up at the front and wrench it round which really hurts my skin.
I'm not dextrous enough to do up a front fastener.
So I've been wearing crop tops. Which if they fit my boobs the bands too loose. Or the band fits and my boobs hang out the side.
If I ever win the lottery I'm going to have a reduction.

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*norks 🙄

I’ll try the Sloggi bra since teaching teenage boys can be perilous if norms aren’t controlled.

I always take out the inserts too.

I am small of nork and don't much like bras.

I wear only Sloggi Zero Feels now. They have inserts but you can simply bin them.

I do wonder if the issue is that bra fittings etc are aimed at the bigger of bust. When I have been fitted, I have been squashed into a tiny band and a large cup - neither needed. I was made so uncomfortable (by the bras, not the process) that I have never even brought a bra after a fitting.

I don't think the industry (a) thinks about the flat-chested; or (b) considers that anyone might want a bra to feel comfortable rather than to hoik boobs up and in. Mine are fine where they are thanks.

I’ve been professionally measured and fitted a dozen times over the years. I still can’t tolerate wearing a bra for very long. I never have.

@neverbeenskiing thanks very much 🌞

Sloggi is one of my go to brands too!

You are my people! I cannot wear a bra because:

• back fastening I can feel on my spine and it starts to hurt
• Front fastening itches
• I have never found a bra that doesn't make my nipples itch.

I (also small of the boob) do similar in that I either don't wear one (at home), wear a light support sports bra (but very picky about straps - can't have adjustable ones as the plastic bits dig in) and inbuilt support vest tops (but have to be not spaghetti straps, because those are usually adjustable). My favourite are an inbuilt bra top from Hush that they have been doing for about a year. But doesn't wort with every outfit.

Last year I had severe, acute costochondritis. An "attack" would start with it feeling like my bra/top had become really tight around the band. It was horrible and I had about two that I was willing to wear for ages.

I would love to have pretty underwear but I don't know how people can manage with it.

I have. Their bras were very pretty but still uncomfortable.

I've had fittings at various different places, used Boob or Bust, spent ridiculous amounts on different styles. I've come to the conclusion I just hate bras.

So now I don't wear them.

Not sure why I ever bothered in the first place.

I bought some 'Neats' off Amazon. Really pleased with them.

A few of the methods involve leaning forward and measuring them as they hang down. They usually want 3 measurements: band size, upright round your boobs and then bending over round your boobs.

This is what I used, which was spot on. https://molke.co.uk/pages/size-advice?srsltid=AfmBOopVMG_3dMCsLXN3T43o9oXAnJzxgbsN69hGLG_7qZmlo2l46vzd

I am a 30FF, which is not a size I ever would have picked myself but it fits perfectly!

Try primark sports bras. They're all stretchy and usually halter neck. I find them much comfier than a bra.
I've not worn a bra since the pandemic.

The whole measuring thing is buggered if, like me, you have enormous droopy boobs.
How I supposed to hold them up to measure for cup size?
I hate my boobs and would happily have the bloody things removed if I could afford it.

Ditch the wired structured bras. You can get supportive soft non wired bras and bralettes from most supermarkets now and it’s all I wear! Sooo comfy!

This is exactly the experience I had at Bravissimo.

The last time I tried the boob or bust method I measured at 33". "If you're between sizes [ie an odd number]," said the handy guide, "then size down." In what universe does wearing clothes that are measurably smaller than my body make sense? I dutifully tried a band size of 32", and it HURT. Of course it did! It was smaller than I was!

And yet there is so much shaming of women for wearing the wrong size bra. I'd rather wear "the wrong size" and get through the day without my clothing giving me bruises.