An old friend of 30 years invited me to stay with her some time ago and I booked the tickets last weekend. We haven’t spoken on the phone but the messages I’m receiving are short and abrupt. It’s a 12-hour journey each way (I don’t drive) and it’s like booking an AirBnB with a slightly frosty host.
I don’t feel as though I want to visit now, especially as I would be reliant on my friend for lifts from and to the station.
Should I make an excuse, explain that I feel uncomfortable or ghost?
YABU - go and risk feeling anxious
YANBU - cancel and say why/lie/ghost