Page 8 | Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 2025-07-22T22:09:40+00:00

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child” I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

MidnightMeltdown · 23/07/2025 09:45

His house, his mug, his rules. The only person behaving like a child is you OP.

Tiredofallthis101 · 23/07/2025 09:43

Honestly I think you need some therapy. Based on what you have said here you are being very unreasonable but to be as angry as you are strongly suggests it isn't just about a mug or him not seeing you much during your parents split, and that there are deeper issues and feelings here. You clearly have a lifetime of anger in you and you need to address that for yourself, because ultimately it will be you that suffers. I agree with others though leave now don't stay with them any more, stay with a friend (even if you have to rotate round different people's houses so you aren't overstaying your welcome with anyone). This is a toxic situation and you shouldn't stay in it.

Throwitawayagain · 23/07/2025 09:42

Maybe there's a whole backstory here. But from this thread you sound like a petulant dick.

VanishingBlinds · 23/07/2025 09:42

Nanny0gg · 23/07/2025 09:36

Just spiteful I think

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Nowhere near as spiteful as the OP, it's pathetic.

Lougle · 23/07/2025 09:40

I have a selection of mugs, as do all of my family. It would be weird if DH drank out of my mugs because they were bought with me in mind. If all of his mugs smashed, that would be different, but otherwise...no.

tuvamoodyson · 23/07/2025 09:39

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:39

Yep. It’s not the mug. Just him. It’s like, it’s a small thing. It’s a mug, you could just let me use it and go about your business. But nope. He went shopping the other day and got me these ice creams I wanted for ages so I told him to eat them all himself and that I’m no longer interested🤣

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Yes…I can see his point. You’re awful!

BunnyLake · 23/07/2025 09:38

So how many mugs are in the house? Just the two, his and your mum’s? Or are there other mugs you could have used if you weren’t so belligerent.

Nanny0gg · 23/07/2025 09:36

VanishingBlinds · 23/07/2025 09:31

Are you 10?

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Just spiteful I think

autienotnaughty · 23/07/2025 09:36

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 23/07/2025 08:12

I told our cat to not drink out of the toilet, but it had no effect. I just got a sideways glance and an inward sneer.

You’re lucky he didn’t shit on your bed for that. How dare you!! 🐈

Nanny0gg · 23/07/2025 09:36

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/07/2025 23:56

You don’t have to, to be fair. It might be your best option but no one is forcing you.

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You wouldn't be staying in my house with your attitude

Nanny0gg · 23/07/2025 09:33

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:15

I won’t give them to guests but between families it’s pathetic.

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No. It's not

You seem to be going out of your way to be abrasive

VanishingBlinds · 23/07/2025 09:31

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:39

Yep. It’s not the mug. Just him. It’s like, it’s a small thing. It’s a mug, you could just let me use it and go about your business. But nope. He went shopping the other day and got me these ice creams I wanted for ages so I told him to eat them all himself and that I’m no longer interested🤣

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Are you 10?

BunnyLake · 23/07/2025 09:31

Alltheyellowbirds · 23/07/2025 09:26

That is awful. You are awful.

And childish - that laughing emoji because you’re so chuffed you’ve got your own back on him - grim.

Grow up.

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So childish she’d cut her nose off to spite her face.

Oh well at least other people got to eat the ice cream she had really wanted. What a numpty 🤣

Hobnobswantshernameback · 23/07/2025 09:29

Wonder if the OP has sobered up yet

TorroFerney · 23/07/2025 09:28

Saladbar · 23/07/2025 00:05

Why would be pay? And if one of my children spoke to me that way I’d ask them to leave. We all have our special mugs in our house because they are special and can’t be replaced if broken and yes guests have broken my stuff before.

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Agree. It’s very childish language” he doesn’t even pay for the car” an odd thing to jump to, why would a parent pay for an adults car?

op I’d stop seeing him when you move out, the relationship has broken down completely, him existing is making you angry I think so step away.

i think as soon as you see him and are at your parents house you revert to being a teenager, and that’s a common thing.

why are you living with him though if you despise him?

Alltheyellowbirds · 23/07/2025 09:26

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:39

Yep. It’s not the mug. Just him. It’s like, it’s a small thing. It’s a mug, you could just let me use it and go about your business. But nope. He went shopping the other day and got me these ice creams I wanted for ages so I told him to eat them all himself and that I’m no longer interested🤣

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That is awful. You are awful.

And childish - that laughing emoji because you’re so chuffed you’ve got your own back on him - grim.

Grow up.

sueelleker · 23/07/2025 09:25

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:39

Yep. It’s not the mug. Just him. It’s like, it’s a small thing. It’s a mug, you could just let me use it and go about your business. But nope. He went shopping the other day and got me these ice creams I wanted for ages so I told him to eat them all himself and that I’m no longer interested🤣

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Equally, it's just a mug and you could have chosen another one' You said you wouldn't use your Mum's mug because you respect her. Therefore you deliberately chose your Dad's mug to wind him up.

Alltheyellowbirds · 23/07/2025 09:23

Wow. You’re so aggressive.

I also don’t get on well with my father, and he does stuff that niggles at me but I would never speak to him the way you did. He must be permanently walking on eggshells to avoid you throwing a strop.

SunnySideDeepDown · 23/07/2025 09:21

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:14

Childish. Why act like I’m not his daughter. It’s a mug. He’s just pathetic.

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Or he loves his mug? I'm very particular about my mugs as I prefer the taste of the drink in specific shapes of mugs.

Obviously you hate him, which may be fair enough, but don’t hate him over a mug.

TorroFerney · 23/07/2025 09:20

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:14

I don’t get on with him anyway. So a mug wouldn’t change a dynamic that suggests two people who don’t get on. He later walks over to my mother and says “she’s damaged the boot on her car by the way” none of his business because he doesn’t even pay for the car (apart from one insurance payment that I covered when the car came). He’s childish and pathetic.

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No the poster means it’s not about the mug. A request from someone you liked to not use a specific mug would be net with an “ok , no problem “. That’s not an unreasonable request. You aren’t hearing dont use my mug you are hearing all the stuff he said during your childhood. In isolation, you sound deranged to be so mad about a mug!

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 23/07/2025 09:17

You’re ridiculous. Why would you react like that just because he told you not to use his mug? Most people have ‘their’ mug that no-one else uses. Family or not.

ShortColdandGrey · 23/07/2025 09:08

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:41

Wouldn’t use my mums mug because I respect her. My dad on the other hand. I don’t. Thus, I will use whichever mug I wish to. However I didn’t bother in the end.

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Bloody hell you sound like my sister. I think you need to grow out of the permanently offended by my dad phase. You are no longer a 16 year old 😂I bet you are exactly like your dad and your poor mum has to put up with the pair of you.

Boysnme · 23/07/2025 09:06

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:39

Yep. It’s not the mug. Just him. It’s like, it’s a small thing. It’s a mug, you could just let me use it and go about your business. But nope. He went shopping the other day and got me these ice creams I wanted for ages so I told him to eat them all himself and that I’m no longer interested🤣

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How old are you?
You sound like a petulant teenager and clearly don’t like your dad. It’s a mug, get over it.

Also the correct response when someone gets something for you is thank you.

EmotionallyWeird · 23/07/2025 09:04

To be honest I think you were both BU but I suspect it was part of a long-standing pattern where minor annoyances are magnified because it's someone you don't get on with but are forced (or feel forced) to continue having some kind of relationship with. At one stage I felt a bit like this about my own dad, although we became good friends towards the end of his life and acknowledged just how similar we were. It's not easy when he still lives with your mum and you presumably want to see her, but is there any way you can just see less of him? It sounds as if being together is not much fun for either of you.

BusyMum47 · 23/07/2025 09:01

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 22/07/2025 23:15

I won’t give them to guests but between families it’s pathetic.

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@ThePerkyCoralPoet

You say that but you clearly don't have a normal familial relationship with your father so why would he be ok with you using HIS mug??

Jesus, I love my family dearly but we all have 'special' mugs that are known to be 'ours' & we wouldn't dream of using each other's - that's a pretty normal 'thing' in most families.

It's like you're looking for any little reason to square up to this man. What's wrong with you??