Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

You need to grow up a bit. 🙄

I never give anyone a drink in 'my' mug. Yes, I have a favourite mug, and a 2nd favourite if the first is in the dishwasher.
I have enough mugs that all guests can have a mug without using mine (all bone china).
Then I have a couple of 'ordinary' mugs for the builders that were at our house recently, as I do not think i want my bone china mugs being left outside.

It doesn’t sound like it’s him that’s being childish to be honest.

I feel very sorry for your mother as she will be caught between the two of you. Think of her if nothing else

You've said you resent him because your mum chose to get back together, that was your mother's choice. You've called him childish then listed some ridiculously childish behaviour purely from yourself.
You sound entirely lacking in self awareness and stuck at the age your parents split, might be worth some therapy.

Totally agree.
I’m always suspicious of posts that are created late at night. Was she bored or drunk?

You are a complete dick. My kids and I all get on and many of us have a ‘special’ mug. For one of my kids, it’s one someone had put out in a ‘no longer wanted’ council waste collection, for another it’s a supermarket one that cost nothing. Others have specially purchased ‘fancy’ ones. None of that matters. We aren’t dicks to each other and don’t use a mug if we know it’s someone’s ‘special’ mug, we grab another or wash one if not clean. Thanking goodness you are not my kid, you sound unhinged frankly.

Yeah if only OP hadn’t pissed her therapist off, who only made a reasonable request, she could’ve got more help.

Oh well, perhaps she can sort another one.

Why have you made up a story?

ETA - she didn’t like him prior to the 1 year split, so ?

Sounds like you’re the issue but you won’t ever realise it so enjoy being a miserable person OP.

This is obviously deeper than the mug. There’s probably some abandonment stuff going on so when he rejects you in anyway it takes you back to being that little girl who he chose to leave. You push him away/attack him because you are testing him. Therapy could help you come to terms with stuff so you can manage your emotions/reactions better.
but tbh if you were a guest in my house and you spoke to me like that you would be getting told to find somewhere else to stay!
And lots of people like to have their own mugs, very normal you don’t and that’s normal too.

It’s normal to have your favourite mug you drink out of.

So your dad’s crimes seem to be having a favourite mug and buying ice cream he knows you like. What a bastard he is!

Growing up, my parents had their favourite mug, bowl, and spoon - no one was allowed to use them! It's a little joy in life to have a cup that feels good and keeps a nice flavour, just let him be precious about it!

My DH and I have a favourite mug and it would be incredibly weird to serve it to a guest (mum, dad, sister, etc) because we have other mugs. Plus if someone is having a tea, then usually they offer to make tea for every one else so we can't have our mugs being used!

It sounds like you have had a difficult past with your dad and that all members of your family seem to have no respect for him. I'm sure he did his part to cause this, but maybe it's time to extend an olive branch? People can change and it's a lose-lose on all fronts if you just want to stay stuck in past grudges.

Aren’t you lovely. Calling your dad pathetic. He should boot your rude backside out.

Oh, you’re THAT poster. No reasoning with you then!

It’s a respect thing, something you don’t appear to have an abundance of. It’s your Dads house/home he has a favourite mug, no biggie, respect that, it’s easy. If you don’t like it, don’t live or visit there.

OP sounds like a stroppy teenager. You don't mess with someone's favourite mug!
I think you would be more unusual to have no preferences at all (I have my coffee mug, hot chocolate mug, friends and family mugs and tradesmen mugs.).

I get it. I’ve never understood folks that have ‘their’ seat, mug, plate, ‘side’ etc. It’s just stuff! But then I don’t tend to get attached to objects, they’re just functional as far as I’m concerned.

I wouldn’t give something valuable or irreplaceable to someone I knew had a habit of being careless, a child or someone I didn’t know well but it does seem excessively possessive behaviour on his part.

I have a mug that I don’t allow others to use. Not my husband or anyone.

I even have my own mug at a friend’s house (that she bought) that is just mine.

I get that you just don’t like him and it’s probably well deserved but in this one circumstance you are wrong.

I’d say your parents endure rather than enjoy visits from you and breathe a sigh of relief when you leave.

Team dad.

You have a massive chip on your shoulder.

Sounds like you purposely set little traps to prove your point to yourself. Wanting to use his mug so you can suggest he doesn’t treat you like a daughter when he says not to use it - and you know damn well you could just use another mug yet you don’t want to do you? Lots of people have pointed out that it’s not uncommon for people to have a favourite mug. You are being childish here, maybe perhaps deep down you’re desperate for him to treat you like a child/daughter still, maybe because he didn’t at some point in the past op or the issues you still have started back then - it’s reasonable he treats you as an adult these days. Sounds like a bit of therapy might help you here.

I think he was perfectly within his rights to ask you not to use his favourite mug in his home tbh. Just use another mug instead of starting a pointless fight.

👍🏻some people coukdnt get in with their shadow.