Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

You come across really badly on this thread. Your Dad is supporting you by letting you live in his house whilst you have work done, and you repay this by hating and mocking him and railing against his simple request for respect of his belongings.

Listen to yourself. He is letting you stay in his house to help you out, he asks, in return, that you don’t use his mug and you hate him for it.

Despite your bragging response he attempts to repair things by buying your favorite ice cream and you abuse him for it.

You are staying in his home. It’s a huge favour you are being granted.

You abuse him and hate him in his own home as you know he is more decent than you and that he won’t kick you out.

You are toxic. And entitled.

Why would you drink from “his” mug, when you say that you have your own? Even more so, as it appears to be “unique”/ irreplaceable in some way? The only reason there can be, is to deliberately upset him, which you appear to have done.
It actually sounds as if you might both be ND in some way (I am, and god forbid anyone touches my cutlery 🤣) but if you WANT to improve your relationship with your father, you need to a) communicate like an adult and b) stop deliberately goading him. At “late 20’s” you ARE an adult, and need to take responsibility for yourself, and your actions. Goading people, playing the constant victim, acting like a child isn’t conducive to good relationships with ANYONE. Maybe try some form of therapy to work out why you act this way. And if you don’t like your father as much as your comments indicate, move out into a hotel while the work is being done on your house, and cut contact. Life is too short to live as you are doing.

If you want your Dad to shut his goblet and stop quaiching, maybe stop treating him like a muggle?

He sounds like a mean spirited old man from this brief description. If you don't get on stay elsewhere.

Read your first few replies, fucking hell you sound like hard work.

You sound like a petulant teenager but there is clearly a longstanding family dynamic at play if you overreact so strongly to mildly quirky behaviour.

Why bother visiting at all if you feel so negative towards your dad?

Do you realise how awful you are? The laughing emoji too. Your poor dad

You’re in your late 20s and rely on your father to buy you an ice cream you’ve wanted for ages? WTF? And then when he does you metaphorically throw it back in his face???

As others have said, have some self reflection. You came on here asking if you were being unreasonable re the mug, 99% say yes out of more than a thousand, but yet you still reckon you’re right. Not sure why you bothered asking if you are not going to listen to what people are telling you.

You both sound as bad as each other.

Why can't you try and compromise and meet each other half way?

Incidentally, when we had our kitchen and bathroom renovated we stayed in our own house. Something you could have done.

What a brat you are.

It's your parents' house. Following their rules for the length of time they're doing you a favour, regardless of whether you like them or not, shouldn't be too much to ask.

With an attitude like yours, I'm amazed they haven't asked you to leave.

You are living in his house. Maybe rent somewhere else then if you cant even be civil. Aside from calling you a bitch, I cant see one thing he has done now or in the past that warrants this level of vitriol from you. And we dont know what preceded that comment. Based on your posts, you come across as rude, entitled and really quite horrible.

What's the big deal? We all have our own mugs at work

Oh indeed she is. Her posting history is an enlightening rabbit hole… wow.

B&B or hotel? Instead of a 'I don't like or respect you but I'm happy to use you when it's convenient'. And he's pathetic?

Oh dear lord I thought I remembered your user name…. Your obsessive posts in the last few months show how you have issues with colleagues, dating, friends, even your therapist.

Interestingly you mentioned being so upset about your dad possibly having cancer that it led to you receiving a prosecution notice for driving without due care and attention…. Doesn’t quite fit with this story though?

When so many posters say YABU and the same happens on multiple threads, maybe it is a YOU problem and you really shouldn’t be so dismissive…

Is she the "why can't therapist remind me to pay for therapy person"?

Your behaviour and attitude towards your Dad is shocking when I can’t actually pinpoint anything in your posts that he has done wrong.

You sound like a brat! Hurry up and go home and give the poor bloke some peace and quiet.

Spot on OP already posted that her DM also has a special mug which she would never dream of using.

Jesus Christ, HE is pathetic? Are you sure? Really?

In MY house I have MY favourite mugs and I don’t like people using them. Thankfully visitors tend to respect that as it’s MY mug in MY house.

i put it to you op that it’s you who is a sad and angry little temper tantruming gremlin, not your dad. 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

I mean… in every single comment you’ve posted you made yourself sound horrendous.

You have a mug, but you wanted that one specifically to piss off your father.
You resent him for getting back with your mother even though you’re in your late 20s and it’s none of fucking business.
You seem to get a kick out of winding this man up.

He’s nicer than I would be because of my child talked to me like this she wouldn’t be staying at my house. Horrible behaviour.

You sound horrible OP.

Of course adults can have their own mug which no one else uses. It's perfectly reasonable.

If i were your dad I'd have told you to fuck off home.

Clearly, a bit of you is still 12. Angry at him for leaving. Angry at him for coming back. Angry at your mum for accepting him back. You've not moved past it and perhaps you never will but you need to recognize that it's not really about who he is right now. You're het up on him not treating you like family with the mug, because he left you, and wasn't in your family. Now you want him to prove that he is family again, and he hasn't.

Also, you're protecting your mum. If they split again, you'd chose your mum, and you're showing her that you know that.

They are both adults. They both split, they both got back together. You should probably speak to an impartial person about this because your dad is now likely to be around for the long term, and it's always going to pain you if you don't.

Your post doesn't imply that you asked to use his mug, just that you were using it? Yet you would expect someone to ask first before using your things?
Also it's hard to get context from the replies but you are coming across like a brat

Brat behaviour!!