Friend 'sobbing in the kitchen' over Ozzy Osborne

Well, MN is pretty obsessed with things being 'performative' to the extent it's just coming across as weird and intolerant of different people's personalities. Let people be.

Absolutely. That must make the grief process so much harder for his poor wife and kids when they find out one day.

His actions scream hubris.

Exactly. I reckon a lot of the same people commenting on the footballers death would not be so upset if it was the random bloke down the road who’d been speeding and killed himself.

But being a ‘celebrity’ seems to entitle you to be able to get away with poor behaviour choices.
As they used to say, live by the sword…

I find it quite sad that a newly married man with very young children felt that speeding in a super car was a risk he should take. Selfish, really.

Well, they've doubled down on it so probably best ignored.

Just another one who craves attention. At least your mate isn't openly deranged offensive about it.

I saw posts about how tragic it was from people who were commenting things like "fuck around and find out" when some teenagers died in an accident caused by the driver speeding locally. It is the double standard that is sickening - he was worth their grief only because he was good at football!

Not a fan of his music but having lost my dad to Parkinson’s I genuinely felt sad about it too mainly for his family

Harry, is that you? 😂

That's fucking awful.

So why is she "friends" with someone she thinks does performative grief?!

I'd say there's a difference between shedding a tear in private and performative grief, though.

I ignore grief vampires and those that do performance sobbing such as OP describe.
"Oh, that celeb Joe Bloggs is dead."
" So what?" I really don't care I really don't.

Didn’t his brother die too? If so he was effectively a victim of the footballer’s speeding.

Oh I will be having a street party lol

Yep. When Diana died I had some really dark shit going down, but it channelled into grief for her, and I would never have said I was much of a fan.
Even now, the thought of her brings all that back.

Forgot to say it wasn’t in public though. A friend at work admitted the same thing. She’s a few years younger than me but would also have listened to Sinead growing up.

That's a bit extreme! But that said, I doubt there will be much public sorrow.

I cried when Sinead O’Connor died. But I literally grew up with her.

Obviously sad for Ozzys loved ones , but I think we all knew that Ozzys time on earth was coming to an end , so not a great suprise . We are born, we live hopefully a long happy life , and then we die . The circle of life .

I just don't understand this type of performative grief over A list celebrities that people have never met.

Same here. I was sad when David Bowie died, and shocked by John Lennon's death because he was murdered, but I really don't understand the sort of mass outpouring that celebrity deaths seem to lead to.

Isn't that kind of related to the point OP made? Why make strange (and in this case, deeply unpleasant) statements at all if you're not prepared to elaborate on them?

In OP's case, her friend made a statement which might make sense if given a bit of context. Without the context, it looks like performative attention-seeking. Which your post did too, although much more unpleasant.

If I had feelings which I felt were justified but knew would make me sound horrible deranged without providing additional context, I would try to avoid expressing them publicly, unless I was really desperate for attention.

Absolutely

I was 12 in 1977 and staying at my Elvis fan Aunt in Croydon .
All was fine with Her and then she walked to the shop to buy her daily papers and came back in pieces .
It certainly affected Her but she did not dwell on it. Probably the shock of it.
I was pretty shocked (and deeply saddened) at the death of Robin Williams so I kind of get it .

This is it. A celebrity I like died recently and I was incredibly sad - not just because of the circumstances around it but because it made me think about other losses in my life; also how sad it is that a dead person isn't able to see just how loved they were and how sad everyone is that they've gone, which brought up memories of dark points in my own life.

It's weird and seems performative to some when it's someone like Ozzy Osbourne who lived a full life, but feelings are weird.