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Friend 'sobbing in the kitchen' over Ozzy Osborne

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lronWoman · 22/07/2025 22:08

I'm not generally a mean spirited person but I just can't take this seriously!

My friend has never been a Black Sabbath fan and I've never heard her mention Ozzy once in the 20 years I've known her. However, her and her sister are apparently 'beside themselves with grief' over his death.

I just don't understand this type of performative grief over A list celebrities that people have never met. It's sad and I get that it kind of marks the end of an era, but the guy lived to a ripe old age in the lap of luxury and was one of the most celebrated rock stars the world has ever known. It's not like a present day star has suddenly been cut down in their prime and will no longer be releasing new albums. They'd already released all their famous stuff before we were born.

She wasn't sobbing in the kitchen when an old mutual workmate died unexpectedly in his late 30s a fortnight ago. Guy wasn't a close friend of ours but we were friendly. Used to go to the pub as a group and he helped us move house, refusing to accept a penny for it. Really nice bloke! We hadn't seen him in close to a decade but both felt sad about it for a few days. But no sobbing in the kitchen!

Latest comment is "he's up there at the bar with gramps". I'm finding it hard not to make an inappropriate joke tbh!

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PopeJoan2 · 22/07/2025 22:49

NooNakedJacuzziness · 22/07/2025 22:26

One of my friends on Facebook is sending love and prayers to his family and friends, which I’m sure is helping immeasurably

She better be careful Sharon doesn’t send her one of her infamous gift boxes.

charabang · 22/07/2025 22:29

I'm not an emotional person but when someone dies that has been part of popular culture it does sometimes get to you. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't be prostrate with grief but I would dwell on it and feel deflated for a couple of days before bouncing back.

NooNakedJacuzziness · 22/07/2025 22:26

One of my friends on Facebook is sending love and prayers to his family and friends, which I’m sure is helping immeasurably

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/07/2025 22:26

Yeah, I get that but my friend isn't a fan in the slightest

I don’t think you necessarily have to be a fan, just takes her back….maybe 🤷🏻

CalicoPusscat · 22/07/2025 22:26

Some people just do this

ExtraOnions · 22/07/2025 22:25

I remember mum sobbing when Elvis died.

I was inconsolable when Bob Monkhouse died .. it wasn’t long after I lost my Dad, and I think it just opened up a lot of grief.

Also cried when the Queen died

Some people are just emotional .. they aren’t bad people

RufustheFactualReindeer · 22/07/2025 22:25

RattyMcBatty · 22/07/2025 22:23

It's not necessarily grief for the person, but for a chapter of your life that feels like it's gone with them I think. People cried when Elvis Presley died because he and his music had given them something in their lives with which to identify I suppose.

Yes this

lronWoman · 22/07/2025 22:25

RattyMcBatty · 22/07/2025 22:23

It's not necessarily grief for the person, but for a chapter of your life that feels like it's gone with them I think. People cried when Elvis Presley died because he and his music had given them something in their lives with which to identify I suppose.

Yeah, I get that but my friend isn't a fan in the slightest. She listens to cheesy rnb.

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RattyMcBatty · 22/07/2025 22:23

It's not necessarily grief for the person, but for a chapter of your life that feels like it's gone with them I think. People cried when Elvis Presley died because he and his music had given them something in their lives with which to identify I suppose.

RainSoakedNights · 22/07/2025 22:23

I’ve never been sobbing on the kitchen floor. But I must admit, the death of Diogo jota hit me hard. I found myself tearing up at his wife’s instagram post earlier!

murasaki · 22/07/2025 22:21

Ah, grief vampires. Always ridiculous. I bet she can't name a single Ozzy or Sabbath song. My friend is sad, he was at the concert at Villa Park, but he's not sobbing in his kitchen.

lronWoman · 22/07/2025 22:19

333FionaG · 22/07/2025 22:11

Sometimes the death of a celebrity opens the door to past losses and grief that have been buried emotionally. Don’t be too harsh.

Maybe, but in a lot of cases it just seems like self indulgent grief to me, harsh as that sounds. If you lose somebody you're genuinely close to it's really not something you'd wish upon anybody. I think she's being a bit of a grief hawk lol.

I'm not that bothered though. I'm looking at this in a pretty light hearted way.

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Well1mBack · 22/07/2025 22:18

Magnir · 22/07/2025 22:12

This mainly started when Diana died.

Oh god yes that was so cringe. I was about 13 or 14 when that happened. My parents were nonplussed about the whole thing. We are Scottish though, it definitely was more muted up here, I mean, there were people sobbing in the streets on the news in England??? I didn't see anyone sobbing in the streets up here. It was sad, really sad for her and her family and the children but it was just such an odd reactionary thing. But I understand perhaps if it was due to what a PP said; that it releases suppressed grief when it's a famous person. That's the only thing that makes sense.

YellowStook · 22/07/2025 22:12

I was the same about Bruce Forsyth.

Magnir · 22/07/2025 22:12

This mainly started when Diana died.

Standardpain · 22/07/2025 22:12

Tell to read about some of his odious and cruel behaviour and that might show her how ridiculous she is being.

FionnulaTheCooler · 22/07/2025 22:11

Is she one of those people that also checks in to hospital on Facebook?

333FionaG · 22/07/2025 22:11

Sometimes the death of a celebrity opens the door to past losses and grief that have been buried emotionally. Don’t be too harsh.

Minecroft · 22/07/2025 22:09

Just ignore. It’s totally cringe I know. Just don’t respond.