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Friend 'sobbing in the kitchen' over Ozzy Osborne

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lronWoman · 22/07/2025 22:08

I'm not generally a mean spirited person but I just can't take this seriously!

My friend has never been a Black Sabbath fan and I've never heard her mention Ozzy once in the 20 years I've known her. However, her and her sister are apparently 'beside themselves with grief' over his death.

I just don't understand this type of performative grief over A list celebrities that people have never met. It's sad and I get that it kind of marks the end of an era, but the guy lived to a ripe old age in the lap of luxury and was one of the most celebrated rock stars the world has ever known. It's not like a present day star has suddenly been cut down in their prime and will no longer be releasing new albums. They'd already released all their famous stuff before we were born.

She wasn't sobbing in the kitchen when an old mutual workmate died unexpectedly in his late 30s a fortnight ago. Guy wasn't a close friend of ours but we were friendly. Used to go to the pub as a group and he helped us move house, refusing to accept a penny for it. Really nice bloke! We hadn't seen him in close to a decade but both felt sad about it for a few days. But no sobbing in the kitchen!

Latest comment is "he's up there at the bar with gramps". I'm finding it hard not to make an inappropriate joke tbh!

OP posts:
Shenmen · 22/07/2025 23:58

Magnir · 22/07/2025 22:12

This mainly started when Diana died.

Fuck me that was bad. I was abroad and kept getting people coming up saying how sorry they were. I literally didnt care beyond a normal response to someone you had heard of but never met dying.
I had worked in a children's hospital and the death of a child I knew was something to be sad.
The embarrassing outpouring of "grief" for a person who the press (and the people pretending to care so much) literally the day before was spectacularly hypocritical.

C10000 · 22/07/2025 23:53

Firefly1987 · 22/07/2025 23:39

Music can stir emotions. I wasn't in the least a fan but if they played a clip of him singing that song he did with Kelly I'd probably cry for a minute or two.

Because her singing was that bad?

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 22/07/2025 23:52

Why can't she be sad about the death of a complete stranger without posting about it on SM? If you don't post on FB that you are sad then are you actually sad?

C10000 · 22/07/2025 23:52

Give her a slap

Dramatic · 22/07/2025 23:47

I found myself crying when the Queen died, I'm not particularly a royalist but something about her death hit me. I wasn't sobbing uncontrollably but I was quite surprised that I reacted that way.

Ursulla · 22/07/2025 23:47

Maybe she's drunk.

dottiedodah · 22/07/2025 23:46

George Michele passing got to.me .Big Time .I think it's the end of an era kind of thing

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 22/07/2025 23:43

FionnulaTheCooler · 22/07/2025 22:11

Is she one of those people that also checks in to hospital on Facebook?

Once again, mourning the loss of the 'laugh' emoji.

Firefly1987 · 22/07/2025 23:39

Music can stir emotions. I wasn't in the least a fan but if they played a clip of him singing that song he did with Kelly I'd probably cry for a minute or two.

Pollyxplummer · 22/07/2025 23:38

It's often about what the celebrity represents for them. Memories, youth, etc.
Even if Ozzy's most famous stuff, and his back sabbath days, are far behind us now, and as you say we're from a time before most of us were born, The Osbournes was massive on TV in the 00s, a time I'm definitely nostalgic for. Lots of people fell in love with Ozzy's quirky personality from that show, so maybe it's that era she misses.

stayathomer · 22/07/2025 23:38

I don’t think it’s over the person, I think it’s the memories of eg childhood things that happened to that music, or maybe she watched the reality show with an old friend or flame. When Whitney Houston died I was brought back to simpler times of dancing about as a kid and while I didn’t cry, I was definitely impacted

Toucanfusingforme · 22/07/2025 23:36

Well1mBack · 22/07/2025 22:18

Oh god yes that was so cringe. I was about 13 or 14 when that happened. My parents were nonplussed about the whole thing. We are Scottish though, it definitely was more muted up here, I mean, there were people sobbing in the streets on the news in England??? I didn't see anyone sobbing in the streets up here. It was sad, really sad for her and her family and the children but it was just such an odd reactionary thing. But I understand perhaps if it was due to what a PP said; that it releases suppressed grief when it's a famous person. That's the only thing that makes sense.

I didn’t see anyone sobbing in the streets in the north of England! Very south centric methinks.

BMW6 · 22/07/2025 23:17

Isxmasoveryet · 22/07/2025 23:02

Wait what is Ozzy dead no way seriously

Well........duh.........yeah...........🙄

Old ill ex druggie dies shocker...........

pizzaHeart · 22/07/2025 23:13

lronWoman · 22/07/2025 22:25

Yeah, I get that but my friend isn't a fan in the slightest. She listens to cheesy rnb.

Maybe she was a secret fan? Or had some sentimental association with his music e.g her first love was a fan and that’s why they split up.
Or could be an age thing (I mean hers).
Don’t be too mean and give her some space - be non contact able for a few days. It’s the best approach.

DeadsoulsAngel · 22/07/2025 23:13

I sobbed in the kitchen when my mum told me Kurt Cobain was dead…. I was 14 though!

ChaToilLeam · 22/07/2025 23:12

My friends and I are a little sad because we all love Black Sabbath. But beside ourselves sobbing? We didn't know him.

Izz81 · 22/07/2025 23:11

333FionaG · 22/07/2025 22:11

Sometimes the death of a celebrity opens the door to past losses and grief that have been buried emotionally. Don’t be too harsh.

Exactly what I was going to say! Its often a link to younger days, nostalgia, times when things werent as crap as they are now. Some celebs represent those times, whether a loved one now gone was in to them or similar it sparks a reminder. I think thats why so many people seemed really emotional when the queen died, it was the end of an era, people would have memories of watching her Christmas speech with loved ones now departed or just representing a time which again, wasnt as crap as now. There are a lot more cringe things than OPs friend, especially here on mumsnet lol but seriously, I get it, I really do, especially in todays Britain.

SouthernNorthernLass · 22/07/2025 23:09

I’ll admit to playing some of his music at full
volume in the kitchen and shedding a little tear at the appallingly schmaltzy ‘See you on the other side’ earlier. But I have seen Ozzy and Sabbath a few times and am a huge fan of the genre. Also my Dad died last year and music often has that sort of effect on me.
Soon pulled myself together when the middle child walked in and caught me.😳
End of an era.

Isitreallysohard · 22/07/2025 23:05

Well1mBack · 22/07/2025 22:18

Oh god yes that was so cringe. I was about 13 or 14 when that happened. My parents were nonplussed about the whole thing. We are Scottish though, it definitely was more muted up here, I mean, there were people sobbing in the streets on the news in England??? I didn't see anyone sobbing in the streets up here. It was sad, really sad for her and her family and the children but it was just such an odd reactionary thing. But I understand perhaps if it was due to what a PP said; that it releases suppressed grief when it's a famous person. That's the only thing that makes sense.

I felt quite sad about Diana, I was probably about the same age. Obviously not sobbing, but felt sad because she was a mum and I felt sad for the boys. Who knows OP maybe this triggered something, unless she's a dick in general (in which case don't be her friend) does it matter?

Isxmasoveryet · 22/07/2025 23:02

Wait what is Ozzy dead no way seriously

NotCrazyAboutIt · 22/07/2025 23:01

Well1mBack · 22/07/2025 22:18

Oh god yes that was so cringe. I was about 13 or 14 when that happened. My parents were nonplussed about the whole thing. We are Scottish though, it definitely was more muted up here, I mean, there were people sobbing in the streets on the news in England??? I didn't see anyone sobbing in the streets up here. It was sad, really sad for her and her family and the children but it was just such an odd reactionary thing. But I understand perhaps if it was due to what a PP said; that it releases suppressed grief when it's a famous person. That's the only thing that makes sense.

I moved to England from overseas two days after she died, and thought ‘I have moved to a land of crazy people.’

CanIJustReadMyBookPls · 22/07/2025 22:56

For whatever reason, it's triggered something in your friend. Just accept and ignore.

I don't feel sad about every death but I was feeling very emotional about the deaths of all those children in Texas flood recently, more for their families. I didn't know any of them but it brings up things related to losses in my own life. I haven't cried over it but it could be quite therapeutic as a release if I did. Of course, I keep it all private, not on show.

Lovelylydia · 22/07/2025 22:53

I imagine bats, doves and chickens will sleep better tonight…