To quite like being fat?

YANBU op, I’m 5,3 and a year ago I weighed 10,4. I had lovely full boobs and a big round bum, I’m under 9 stone now and feel like I’ve been deflated. I was much happier and confident with my old body.

More than half my friends are on it and they are all absolutely ecstatic with the weight loss they've had with no major side effects other than the obvious lack of appetite. I totally get it's not for everyone though. I used to be fat and I wouldn't have taken it personally. I think there will be a lot of people needing gall bladder surgery in the next few years as well as rapid weight loss causes gall bladder issues for some people. I do worry about my friends but at the end of the day everyone has to do what they feel is right for them. Just like you are doing flump

There are very strict criteria to be prescribed Mounjaro (tirzepatide) on the NHS for weight management. To be eligible, individuals generally need a BMI of 40 or more, or 37.5 or more for individuals from certain ethnic minority groups, and must also have at least four out of five specified weight-related health conditions. These conditions include Type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure (hypertension), heart disease (cardiovascular disease), abnormal blood fats (dyslipidemia), and obstructive sleep apnea. The longest period you can currently be prescribed it on the NHS is two years.

I used to be anorexic and clinically underweight and now I'm overweight.

I used to be freezing cold, felt tired ALL THE TIME. I didn't get my period back until a BMI of 22.5. I've been seven stone lighter than I am today when I was at my sickest. Wasn't sure i'd see 30.

By BMI I should be around 2 stone lighter and I think I probably look 'better' at that weight (by some standards). But I definitely look a lot better now than I did seven stone ago! I've been there. I've been ALL the weights. This one feels good. I eat well, I'm active, I'm a size 14/16 (I'm also 5'9). I'm also post surgery/pregnancy which caused some weight gain - I'm around a stone higher than usual.

I'll lose this stone without trying now that I'm more active and healed and then I'll be just fine.

Honestly, if you eat well and stay active you'll settle into a size that is where you'll stay happily. Life is TOO SHORT to worry about being thin. You can be happy and overweight - I'm living proof.

YANBU as long as it’s not affecting your health or what you can do. Aesthetics are in the eye of the beholder and it would be boring if we all looked the same imo. You do you.

Personally I did feel terrible mentally and physically when I was obese (actually what was called morbidly obese in the old days) but I’ve been just “overweight” for years now and well … I don’t actually feel much better physically so really I doubt my weight had much to do with it (hereditary health issues that thinner family members have too), my toddler DS “loves (my) squidgy tummy and boobies” especially sleeping on them 🤣, and I can still enjoy a big bar of Cadburys if I need to at that time of the month, as I’ve got no kind of ideal figure to worry about or diet to wreck.

I do sometimes wish I was a stone lighter - especially in the summer months when I’m sweating like anything as I’ve never been good with heat (skin type 1 - can’t tan). But to lose enough weight to get into the “healthy” BMI range ie. from 27/28 to 24, I have to cut out all sugars and virtually all carbs from my diet because it’s just not my natural body type (and I have to go into keto to get there) . It’s miserable to do and just not sustainable in the long term imo. Just cutting back on treats/junk food most of the time (the sustainable method) means I only lose a few pounds and then that’s it - but at least it’s liveable.

None of my friends mind taking it regularly. I think the rules have been tightened recently, but the girls I know are all on rolling prescriptions that just needed a photo of them looking overweight to be written (which one of my friends openly admits she edited to make herself look larger)

Don’t you have to take it all the time though?

Can you visit the GP and they will just prescribe it for you? I know someone who said that her 23 year old daughter just got it prescribed for her and the practitioner lied and said her BMI was higher than it was so that she could get it?

It's worked for everyone I know. They are all as slim as when they were in their 20s. No major side effects.

Only thing is you never see obese elderly obese people out and about, which makes you wonder if there are many of them around. So your post is welcome information

I am overweight, I've never suffered from thigh chafing and I'm the one turning the heating up in winter.

Feeling miserable in your body is awful. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

If you're in a place where you're feeling peace and contentment about it all, that's great.

Everyone has differing boundaries around what weight range they feel best. Someone else's might be a lot smaller than yours. That doesn't mean they get to to tell you that you should want the same thing or feel the way they feel.

My grandad lived to 91 and smoked heavily 🤷‍♂️

I still can't see the NHS recommending we take notes from either of them.

Yes this is true

And everyone knows of someone who smoked 40 cigs a day and lived to 98 ...

It can't be denied some people have longevity genes that override lifestyle factors, just as some people are predisposed to life-limiting illness despite leading a healthy lifestyle, but in general, obesity has a negative impact on health and life expectancy.

How come so many people are fat if there’s all this pressure to be thin?

I see more pressure to be fat to be honest.

I have a feeling you're not that old, OP. The older you get, the worse being fat feels, and the weight related health-problems start to rear their head.

Ok that's true but BB king lived to 89 and he was obese

It does. It’s tiring. Much easier to move around when you’re slim.

There was some studies that found this but I believe more to do with the fact that elderly people fair better with a bit of extra weight as it is somewhat protective against frailty - or if periods of illness prevent them from eating enough. Also the normal BMI people in the study were more likely to be smokers and therefore higher rates of death from lung cancer. So really these variables need to be controlled before this can definitively be said. Which is a shame as I have an overweight BMI! 🤣

Not really. Why is it shallow to not enjoy being overweight? It doesn’t suit me. As has been said, some people carry weight much better than others.

The OP is obese.

Obesity is linked to a higher rate of premature death.

Not really sure what you were hoping to get from this thread but, cool! I'm a size 8 and I'm happy too, I don't really think about anyone else's figure tbh

I read that over weight old people live longer. Not sure if that's true. But if you feel good OP then good for you

@icantgetnopeace "I don’t think 16 is average in the UK, isn’t it 12-14?" You've obviously never heard of the (now defunct) clothing brand, launched in 1991 by Dawn French and Helen Teague, called "1647" - so named because, at that time, 47% of UK women were size 16 and above. That percentage has increased in the last 30+ years so that 16 is absolutely the "average" women's clothing size now.