To quite like being fat?

OP's BMI is 32 not 30.

At 24 BMI and your height you're about 76kg. To get to a BMI of 32 like the OP you'd have to put on 26kg or more than 4 stone.

I don't think your situation and OP's are really comparable, do you? Nor would a half hour walk make up the difference.

I get it OP. I was borderline obese my whole adult life, and that was me and my body. Then, due to societal pressure, I lost weight and got to the very middle of the healthy BMI range. I got every virus going. Sleep was more difficult. I was more susceptible to UTIs. I was eating a healthy diet and getting the right exercise, but my energy was crashing.
But the most difficult and shocking bit for me was to note how I suddenly became visible in society. Everyone was much much nicer to me- baristas, parents at the school gates, random people on the street. It really opened my eyes to how society judges women for their size- and I have to say, reading this thread has really reminded me of that. It's a matter for the individual, of course, whether you want to be fat or not, but to be dismissive of a fat person's opinion, just because you don't feel the same, is deplorable.

Imagine telling a human being that they couldn't possibly be feeling what they just told you they're feeling! Patronising and unkind.

Intriguing that within 20 mins the OP went from intending to lose weight from September…. to fuck it I’m going to stick at this weight with no intention to lose weight.

OP is on another thread being aggressive and chippy and triggered by the word "lucky". This is either not a happy person or someone not posting entirely in good faith...

If this is what “happy” looks like… I’ll pass thanks. The OP comes across as angry, defensive and sweary. All because she starts a thread about how happy she is with her weight but then gets very agitated if asked about weight.

13 stone at 5’3 is not a healthy weight. I know the OP is supposedly “happy” and fine if you’re on your own with no dependents, but no way would I be throwing my hands up and embracing obesity if I had loved ones who would likely be impacted if I succumbed to one of the may health issues directly linked to obesity.

People feel threatened when you say you're happy being fat. Their whole self worth revolves around being thin, and they put the majority of their time and effort into staying that way, so when you say you're happy being fat you make them confront that they're wasting their lives on chasing and keeping this ideal... When they don't have to. But they're too thin obsessed to put that mindset in the backseat for a second.

BMI is a load of crock. Not even talking about "because of muscle mass!" it's just crock. People in the overweight category apparently are more at risk of diseases... But have better longetivity? Lol. Wasn't it all measured on men anyway? Don't even know.

Trying to make everyone want to lose weight and froth at the mouth about it is just a good money maker, and that sways everything. The diet industry is worth billions.

All that said, I'm not happy being fat in myself. I hate how it feels on my body. I do have anorexia though, which is a mental illness, so you know that's probably the reason for that lol. Not even contributing to the diet industry, because I can lose weight easily for free, and they don't like me doing that either - fine for you to starve yourself when you're paying 300 a month for injections to help you do it, but apparently it's oh so bad when you don't need to pay to maintain a massive calorie deficit.

Just that one thing should show how weightloss and "health" have been warped and corrupted by capitalism. Fast and effective weight loss when you pay for it = good! Fast and effective weightloss when you don't pay for it = bad! You should be struggling with it, so you feel the need to pay for it.. Give us your money!

The majority of the people paying for the injections could lose weight for free too if they just ate much, much less than they think they need to... Like the injections make them do.

Baffles me how it's not spoken about more... I don't eat much less than the average person paying for injections, but they're fine and healthy, and I need to be in a hospital because I'm starving myself. Apparently...

Great you are confident in your body. I have never really had body issues, when I got to my late thirties I started to gain weight (from an 10 to around a size 14.) I wanted to be slimmer but didn’t care enough so diets failed. I exercise (yoga/pilates/walking/gym) but it never seemed to make a difference. This year I’ve had some health issues and wanted to improve my dietary habits to help my health issues. Because I had a reason I cared about I have been able to adjust to a high protein diet/low UPF diet and have found I’ve lost weight anyway. I eat loads but the right foods.

You do you. To hell with what anybody else thinks. You're active, you eat healthy and you're happy. You've got it all.

This thread inspired me to check my BMI. I'm a bit dismayed that it's just barely in the healthy range. I have been losing weight without trying due to tummy trouble. So I plan to eat more to make sure I stay in the healthy range. Thanks for the inspiration OP. Will make nachos for dinner tomorrow. Nom nom nom!

I agree with the op.

I was always painfully thin til around 10 years ago. Size 6-8 at 5 ft 10. My BMI was underweight and I had to see a dietician. Constantly cold and tired.
I have not changed my diet at all, I only started exercising less and turned 40.

My BMI is now 23-24. I'm a size 12-14.
I don't know my exact weight, I'm not bothered, but due to health issues it's monitored by the GP.
In the last 6 months 3 'friends' have suggested I need to lose weight. My GP said definitely not to when I asked him.
If 3 people have outright said to me that they think I'm fat then I think society has a really big problem with body image.

Im not fat, I'm healthy.
I don't think your BMI is hugely unhealthy at 30. Its not ideal, but it's not something I'd stay up at night worrying about. Id just start walking an extra half an hour a day. But if you don't care, you don't care, and there's nothing wrong with that. After being cold for most of my life I very much understand where you're coming from when you say it's nice to be warm!

Well I for one am really happy for you OP - I'm thin (BMI 20) and struggle to keep weight on and I hate it. I'm always cold, tired, come down with bugs constantly, no energy to exercise, feel weak etc and I don't feel like my body is cosy and comfy enough for my kids. My mum was overweight and hated her body so much, I loved it though, she was so warm and cuddly and comforting. I would have loved for her to feel the way you do about yours. Don't listen to everyone here hating on you for your weight - if your body feels good to you, enjoy it. Let's hope we meet in the middle sometime!

You sound like someone who knows their own mind and doesn't give into the demands of others.

you don't need to care what "society thinks" because you'll never have to justify yourself to "society".

if your positivity towards your body weight and shape changes by Sept, then that's your impetus to lose some poundage, not because of some belief that "society" is judging you. You do you.

Id get your cholesterol checked out though, sometimes being overweight can cause a rise in your bad cholesterol if you're eating the wrong food.

Were you in Thailand in the 1930s or something?

People don't think fat = rich. It's not expensive to live on a diet of 7-11 junk food. There's a reason students in SE Asia often gain a lot of weight when they go to college...

Thai prostitutes having sex with obese farangs means nothing. Fat men get tired faster, so there's less work. Take a look at the famous men that young Thai women actually find attractive - they're definitely not fat.

Pressure to be thin is only in our culture.

You've obviously not spent much time in East/SE Asia.

I’m the same
spent my entire life wanting to be really tiny. I’m 5’2 but muscly and sporty. Look good at 8 stone and size 8, have been as big as 10 stone after kids, I was a chunky kid
then a very stressful time meant no eating at all and I am under 7 stone.

I look dreadful
nothing fits me, face drawn, skin hanging off my arse

I can wear size 4/6 clothes, I didn’t even realise how thin I was until I tried clothes on, everything drops off me

I never look at myself, I don’t cook anymore, I don’t run like I used to

I feel constantly anxious and hate myself

really thin isn’t anything like what I hoped, and I don’t feel healthy at all

Mumsnet won’t accept that people who are overweight are comfortable in their bodies. The expectation here will be to hate yourself.

I’m glad you feel happy @Flumpflimpo

We cant and should not put off life until we are a certain weight or size. Live for today.

If at some point in the future you change your mind, that’s fine. If not; also fine. Your body, your feelings, your decision.

I read the full thread.

Including the back peddling when it was pointed out that it didn't make sense to claim to be happy to be overweight, whilst planning to lose weight.

There's often a long term health difference between being mildly overweight and into the obese category.

Age matters; we naturally accumulate weight with age, particularly into middle age so being significantly overweight at younger ages tends to present weight-related health issues younger and it becomes harder to lose weight with age.

Body composition and shape affect how healthily you store body mass. Two people can be of the same BMI with very different health risks between lots of fat stored around the abdomen, wrapped around the organs and having denser limbs from good muscle mass.

People can be fat on nutritious diets and fit, although excess weight will affect performance and mobility.
I find I notice subtle weight gains easily as my bum jiggles more easily. I don't want to jam a substantial bust into a sports bra. Being a pear shape, I'm susceptible to "chub rub" very easily.
Exercise is easier and more fun when I'm in the healthy range and not tipped into "overweight" despite a decent proportion of muscle mass.

It's good to be confident in your own skin, but there are inconvenient health risks attached to excessive fat, and a BMI of 32 is obese and a long term increased risk- few people have the very high muscle mass of power lifters and rugby players to have that kind of BMI without excessive body fat.

It's fine for OP to be fine with where she's at, but her own posts and raising potential weight loss in September indicate that it's not a genuine, long term happiness. OP isn't obliged to be any particular size.

My concern about my weight gradually going up isn't so much about it being an issue now as where it will be in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years etc if that trend continues. I don't want the inconvenience and expense of replacing clothes I like or the feel of excess weight that doesn't enhance the way my body works, so for me it is worth gently working at maintaining and moderating my intake to avoid harder choices in the future.

As Gary Barlow once said: " Get fat and be happy"

In all seriousness though, I feel.much healthier slimmer but it's probably not as bad as it seems being a bit overweight. I've been a very trim size 10, and 8 stone about 30 years ago, but quite why I'm comparing my 14 year old self to my middle aged mum body isn't something I can answer 😅

Back then, I ate like a horse but played hockey 3 times a week and was incredibly fit. I also didn't have 3 children and wasn't perimenopausal... but I seem healthy now in spite of being 2 stone overweight.

I was pretty unwell after my youngest daughter was born in 2020, and went on a huge low carb diet for a few months to help me through my post natal depression. I was pretty thin, and lost loads of weight, almost to the point where I became underweight and slightly emaciated. I couldn't get comfortable in bed as my hips had no fat on them, and I remember my mum saying I had the wan look of a person lacking in nutrients and who wasn't healthy. It wasn't great and I think I might have been very unwell if I'd not had a good support network with health visitor, Home Start charity help etc

I'm much better now and happy, and love my food too much to get too thin 😋 😄

I just love how cross people are getting over one woman deciding what's best for herself. Do whatever you want op, if it makes other people who have never met you mad, then that's just too bad for them.

Being overweight should be frowned upon because it leads to so many health issues and premature death.
And I say that as someone who has been overweight. As a pp said ,it takes a monumental effort to keep weight off, but the benefits, both physically and mentally, are enormous.

No, the OP did that herself when she declared she'll be going on a diet in September.

You’re literally presuming to explaining to this woman whom you have never met how and why she feels happy?

I’ll never get over the confidence of some people.

For me, the only advantage of being overweight is that I don't feel the winter weather as much as I used to. Mind you, that could also be due to climate change.

I wouldn't like to go back to being skinny, but I'd love to get my waist back. Alas, I'm very short and seem to need far fewer calories than the average person. I gave up chocolate, crisps and alcohol for Lent and merely stopped putting more weight on.