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To quite like being fat?

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 17:33

There was one time that i was 9 stone. This year i am the heaviest i have ever been.

Every week for that last year i have been thinking that i must lose weight, and i have been trying every diet , and thinking about food all the time.

I was so stressed from it all that i decided to give myself and not think about dieting for one month.

I was just thinking this month, I quite emjoy being fat. Im not morbidly obese, i am fat.

I feel nice and warm and cozy

When i was thin, i rememember feeling cold and having low energy a lot.

Has anyone else felt the same?

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:44

everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:42

You are delusional. You are telling people you are happy being obese yet have tried every diet under the sun. You intend to lose weight after a Summer of just eating whatever you want and blaming it on society expectations. If you could eat anything you want and be slimmer of course you would want to be slimmer. The fact is you can't so it's easy to pretend you don't care "just for the Summer" so you can eat all around you and say you are happy being fat.

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I feel absolutely great being fat.

I might not start the diet again in september, as i have realised how great i feel.

Fuck society expectations!

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everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:44

Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:40

I am making perfect sense.

I am saying that i feel mentally and physically great being fat.

However i also feel the severe western society pressure to be thin. Which is why i will start a diet again in september.

Pressure to be thin is only in our culture. Ive been to India. In India, people are admired for bing fat.

I told them that people are always trying to be thin in my culture. They said "what, people do that out of choice?"
Because to them: thinness is a sign of lack of food and sickness.

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If you are so blissfully happy you would not care about what other people thought. You are obese, not fat. You are setting yourself up for health problems. How can you say you are happy about that?

Bob231 · 22/07/2025 18:44

I think if I was pretty, I'd enjoy being fat! My sil is chubby (actually I think she's more than chubby, she is probably obese or more) and looks stunning!! If I looked like her, I wouldn't mind my weight and would embrace being bigger. You get to eat what you like, feel warm and comfortable etc...

However, I'm not pretty! I have a big nose, thin hair, small head and broad shoulders. I just look awful when I'm fat. When I'm thinner I look a lot better because at least my small head doesn't look as out of proportion! And a big nose on a slim face is better than on top of triple chins!!

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:43

everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:42

You are delusional. You are telling people you are happy being obese yet have tried every diet under the sun. You intend to lose weight after a Summer of just eating whatever you want and blaming it on society expectations. If you could eat anything you want and be slimmer of course you would want to be slimmer. The fact is you can't so it's easy to pretend you don't care "just for the Summer" so you can eat all around you and say you are happy being fat.

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I would hate to be as angry as you! Imagine getting that angry!

Do you have anger issues. You can get therapy for that.

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everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:42

Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:34

Fucking rude.

There you go. I was pushed into giving my BMI, then i get abused for giving my BMI.

Which i knew would happen..

BMI says I am obese.

Yet i fit into size 16 which i think is quite average.

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You are delusional. You are telling people you are happy being obese yet have tried every diet under the sun. You intend to lose weight after a Summer of just eating whatever you want and blaming it on society expectations. If you could eat anything you want and be slimmer of course you would want to be slimmer. The fact is you can't so it's easy to pretend you don't care "just for the Summer" so you can eat all around you and say you are happy being fat.

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:42

FighterPilotSwifts · 22/07/2025 18:39

God forbid you are fat and happy that's unacceptable 🙄
Why are you feeling happier at the moment, is it a physical thing or because you're not dieting and putting pressure on yourself?

I think mentally i feel great, because i have stopped the constant diet and stress about food

And when i stopped to think how i felt physically, I realised that my body feels really strong and healthy.

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MyUmberSeal · 22/07/2025 18:40

If you feel good physically, and feel happy then that’s brilliant. Why even bother trying to lose weight come September if you feel as great as you say you do.

Im the opposite, anything above 11 stone which is a size 12 for me, I feel as fat as fuck and I wouldn’t let it go any further. I wish I could feel the way you feel but it’s never going to happen. Just no.

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:40

LadyTable · 22/07/2025 18:33

So why are you planning to make yourself unhappy in September, if your happy being overweight?

You're not making sense.

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I am making perfect sense.

I am saying that i feel mentally and physically great being fat.

However i also feel the severe western society pressure to be thin. Which is why i will start a diet again in september.

Pressure to be thin is only in our culture. Ive been to India. In India, people are admired for bing fat.

I told them that people are always trying to be thin in my culture. They said "what, people do that out of choice?"
Because to them: thinness is a sign of lack of food and sickness.

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FighterPilotSwifts · 22/07/2025 18:39

God forbid you are fat and happy that's unacceptable 🙄
Why are you feeling happier at the moment, is it a physical thing or because you're not dieting and putting pressure on yourself?

Muffsies · 22/07/2025 18:37

everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:32

You feel happy that you are obese? Ok then. Munch on.

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My, there are some self-haters on here who can't stand op being happy.

ScrambledEggs12 · 22/07/2025 18:36

I don't like being overweight, but I definitely did feel cold when I was thin. It was also much more uncomfortable to sit down for long periods, I guess my bum was bony.

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:34

everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:32

You feel happy that you are obese? Ok then. Munch on.

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Fucking rude.

There you go. I was pushed into giving my BMI, then i get abused for giving my BMI.

Which i knew would happen..

BMI says I am obese.

Yet i fit into size 16 which i think is quite average.

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LadyTable · 22/07/2025 18:33

Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:28

No i also feel physcially good and i feel happy.

Why are you trying to tell me what i feel. Surely i know myself, better than you do?

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So why are you planning to make yourself unhappy in September, if your happy being overweight?

You're not making sense.

everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:32

Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:28

No i also feel physcially good and i feel happy.

Why are you trying to tell me what i feel. Surely i know myself, better than you do?

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You feel happy that you are obese? Ok then. Munch on.

IShouldNotCoco · 22/07/2025 18:31

For me I hate not being slim. It makes me miserable. I have a very small frame and put weight on depressingly easily. If I’m slim feel more confident. I am generally considered to be good looking and become invisible if I’m overweight. Though, the flip side is that women are much nicer to me.

I really think each to their own though.

Viviennemary · 22/07/2025 18:31

AntiquePenguin · 22/07/2025 17:58

When you say 'fat' - what is your BMI?

It's bloody uncomfortable being genuinely fat. In summer you're too hot and have to contend with thigh chafing. In winter you're still too hot because everyone else has the heating up.

Exactly. If your BMI is above the recommended ratio for your height your health will be at risk.

Millennialpause · 22/07/2025 18:29

I love never being hungry and rarely being hit on by creepy men or wolf whistled at. I lost a few pounds recently, and felt the male gaze returning. No thanks!

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:28

Devilsmommy · 22/07/2025 18:28

How tall are you op because that would make a difference too. Though that's not a demand btw, just to get a clear picture 😁

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5 foot 3

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:28

everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:27

Again, you are happy because you are eating whatever you want. You are NOT happy because you are obese. You are happy that you have given up the diet mentality for the Summer and allowing yourself to eat without being restricted.

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No i also feel physcially good and i feel happy.

Why are you trying to tell me what i feel. Surely i know myself, better than you do?

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Devilsmommy · 22/07/2025 18:28

Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:22

I checked the bmi.

I have a bmi of 32 . I am obese class 1 according to the bmi.

Im fitting into size 16 in clothes

How tall are you op because that would make a difference too. Though that's not a demand btw, just to get a clear picture 😁

LadyTable · 22/07/2025 18:27

I think there's a big difference between happiness and relief, although they can sometimes feel like the same thing.

You obviously feel relief now you've decided to stop dieting if it was making you miserable.

But if you were truly happy being fat, you wouldn't have bothered trying to lose weight in the first place.

But it's your health and your body, and nothing to do with anyone else really.

AntiquePenguin · 22/07/2025 18:27

Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:23

And nobody has to tell you their exact weight or bmi, if they dont want to.

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Nobody has to, but you asked if you were being unreasonable to be happy being "fat" so it's reasonable to ask you to quantify being "fat" in order to answer the question.

If your BMI is 32, I don't think YABU, it would depend how you carried the weight and on your general health, but a BMI of 32 shouldn't cause great discomfort in daily life.

everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:27

Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:24

See my post above. I am happy.

It is western society that tells me that i need to be thin and i feel the pressure from society.

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Again, you are happy because you are eating whatever you want. You are NOT happy because you are obese. You are happy that you have given up the diet mentality for the Summer and allowing yourself to eat without being restricted.

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:25

Pashazade · 22/07/2025 18:23

I’ve lost 4 stone, technically I need to loose another stone to reach a BMI of 25. So according to the numbers I’m still overweight. I’m not going to aim for it, I’m perfectly happy where I am. My body feels great. Shockingly, I know some on here would have me loathe myself, I didn’t hate myself when I weighed almost 16 stone. Fortunately I knew that being fat didn’t make me a reprehensible human being. If you’re happy right now Op good for you, enjoy your summer without stressing about the endless nightmare of trying to control your weight.

Great post. Thank you!

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Flumpflimpo · 22/07/2025 18:24

everythingsnotmadeofgold · 22/07/2025 18:23

You are not fat and happy or else you would not have tried every diet under the sun nor be planning another for the end of Summer.

You are happy because you are not dieting and worrying about food. You feel great because you are eating whatever you want and are not depriving yourself.

See my post above. I am happy.

It is western society that tells me that i need to be thin and i feel the pressure from society.

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