To quite like being fat?

Oh my gosh you are being so unkind!!!

I think it’s pernicious that many women spend their adult lives trying to make themselves smaller. Getting to a point where you say, Actually, I’m fine as I am - that’s liberating imo. Only you know where that point is OP. It’s finding that juncture between health, looks, diet etc that works for you. I hope you have a wonderful summer, diet or no.

Seems strange you feel upset that someone asked your weight when you are so happy being obese.

Having been morbidly obese, then obese and now 'just' overweight, please keep an eye on your health. Ill health can creep up on you when you are fat, be mindful of your blood sugars, liver and cardio vascular system. I'm fortunate in that my co-morbidities have reversed with weight loss.

Why do you want to lose weight in September then?

Its ok to say you want to stay the same and you're happy

It also depends on how overweight you are, you say 'the heaviest Ive ever been', well that could be anything over 9 stone then, you might not be very big at all in which case your health is fine probably

I can tell you now that the weight creeps up and up and up and as you get older, its no fun.

I have. My sister died of an obesity related illness.

I’ve never known anyone on their deathbed who said “I wish I was thinner!”

I'm with you x I've had a miserable time leading up to our summer holiday because I have totally failed at losing any weight or toning up etc, haven't even had a chance to get a hair cut or nails before we leave next week but I think I am similarly just going to embrace what is not what could have been and stick to the one pieces and a sarong instead of the bikinis that will just make me cross because I have to suck my gut in all day!!!

Well I've always been fat and I've lost a few stone recently (( still chubby but normal BMI )) Must admit I'm really struggling with my new shape. Bones sticking out everywhere and my ribs give me the ick.

If she wanted an opinion on whether she was BU, which she did by posting in AIBU, it's a perfectly reasonable thing to want to know. I'm not going to tell someone to crack on if they're at a weight which will be having a serious impact on their long-term health. Nor would I pander to someone who is within a healthy weight range describing themselves as 'fat' for kicks.

The OP has answered the question now and neither of those would seem to apply, but it wasn't possible to respond sensibly to the thread without knowing that info.

Because of Western society.

When I was heavier, I got more tired and found exercise harder. I lost a lot of weight quickly (personal trauma, not intentional) and found that exercise was easier and I had more energy. Everyone’s
different, perhaps.

It is good that the OP says that she is happy, but she is giving mixed signals. Why bother trying to go back on a diet in September? That makes little sense, if she is as happy as she claims to be.

OMG she's fat and happy and uses lots of exclamation marks, worst person ever!?!?!?!!

Well the best thing to do is not care what society says and I am with you on that but just be careful you don't give yourself health problems further on down the line.

Anyone besides me side eye OPs that use! Lots! Of! Exclamation Points int their posts ‼️

Came to say this exact thing but you beat me to it!!

As long as you’re happy OP, you feel good about yourself physically and mentally, you’re winning.
I’ve always had an awful relationship with food. When I feel stress or negative emotions, the first thing to disappear is my appetite. When I went through my divorce, I went through a period where I didn’t eat a single scrap of solid food for 9 days.
When I met my now-DH, I thought I looked great. I weight about 95lbs, and I’m 5’5” 🫠 I didn’t look great, I looked unwell. Then my periods stopped and went to the doctor and he told me I had all the signs of malnutrition.
I’m a few years down the line now and within the healthy weight range for my height for the first time in my adult life. My jeans are bigger, and the fun places jiggle a little……but I feel SO much better. I enjoy food now. My blood-pressure no longer drops out of my arse when I stand up. My skin no longer looks like that of a Victorian urchin dying of influenza 🫠
Skinny absolutely does not equate healthy.

You don’t need endorsement from this thread, honestly… if you are tiptop happy having your BMI in the obese category, then ride it.

I'm the opposite! Spent my whole adult life being fat.

I'm now 9st and loving it!

What the what??? She owes you her weight and health info on demand?

Flumpflimpo happy to hear that you are in a good place with your weight and mental health. If you don’t have physical limitations and feel good in your body, enjoy.

I apologise if I came across as pushy. I was concerned this was going to be a disguised, teeny-tiny fat bashing thread posted by someone who was a size six and 5lb over their ideal weight or similar. Those threads can be quite upsetting to people who are severely overweight.