To quite like being fat?

You need to find a compromise between enjoying feeling substantial and future-proofing your body by staying within sensible weight limits.

OP, I think there is a lot in this.

But I also think that your present attitude could be (inadvertently) helping you to reach a better and more sustainable approach. You mention feeling healthy and strong - I would focus on being mindful about what you can do, and what you can incorporate into your routine, that makes you feel this way and also increases your happiness. It is very hard to lose weight when stressed and unhappy, so perhaps there is something in losing the stress and freeing yourself from the unhappiness and just letting yourself be for a bit.

It's impossible to not eat sugar, sugar is essential to life. Perhaps she means that she doesn't eat excess sugar or foods high in sugar.

She isn’t asking for your judgement as to whether she is technically fat or obese. She is saying she’s happy. Let it be.

I thoroughly agree OP,I am pleasantly plump and feel fine .I despair of the culture we have in the west that thin is good.Must be achieved by starving our good selves on diets which very often dont work anyway .Worse the Injections meant for diabetics, which many of us are shelling out for with no guarantees the weight will stay off when completed . Worse still, Fat is a feminist issue .as Susie Orbach says in her excellent book.How many men are slim and trim in older years especially?

No.

I hate it and am thoroughly miserable about it

And it's going to be a hard slog losing it

Absolutely this.

It depends how 'fat' you are and also how much exercise you get, how balanced your diet is, and how stressed (or not you are), plus some genetic predispositions that you've no control over. I am not as slim as I once was, but I'm still not fat either, and am trying to focus on nutrition and activity, as well as generally taking care of myself.

OK but important to remember the health implications of being significantly overweight

She must be eating enormous portions of fruit, veg and meat. Fair play to her on the no sugar, I don't think I could ever do that.

They really aren’t, Indian people are mean when they think you’ve gained weight. Someone ,made a beeline for me at my grandmothers funeral just to tell me I had got fat. They especially hate fat women, fat men are fine.

This sort of thread has been done to death over the years.

Mostly by people who are confusing feeling relieved that they don't have to diet anymore, with feeling genuinely happy that they're obese.

I'm pretty sure if any of them could click their fingers and be slim, they'd do it in a heartbeat though.

No. She just eats big portions I think. And she has a big build, tall, wide hips and shoulders. She's not obese, but fat, yes.

Op it being ok to be fat in India is no longer the case. Yes they'll call it 'healthy' but it always meant fat and now its not a good thing.

But I was your height and weight and have lost loads of weight on mounjaro. I had no health concerns, I still don't. I had amazing boobs and an arse and now it's gone. Hey ho. You do you x

That’s fine until it starts to affect your health…

I have been fat and thin and I would say there are pros and cons to both.

pros for fat

• lovely big boobs.
• feel quite sexy and womanly
• can look really lovely in certain kinds of clothes
• don’t get as much male attention (though don’t bank on it)
• fat irons out the wrinkles

pros for thin

• society seems to think (wrongly in my opinion) that a criteria for beauty is to be thin
• get a lot of respect just for being thin
• most clothes are designed to look good on thinner people

cons for being fat

• depending how fat you are you can face a lot of discrimination as this society is generally fat phobic
• it can compromise your mobility a bit because your belly can get in the way when you tie your shoelaces etc

cons for being thin

• if you are too thin you feel cold all the time
• generally, smaller boobs
• you can sometimes feel painfully bony when you sit down
• can get a lot of unwanted male attention.

The skinny minnies? Do you not think there might be overweight people (the majority of which are actively trying to lose weight) not understanding how someone could enjoy being fat?

I love it OP!

Mumsnet is full of competitive undereaters who are still stuck in 90s diet culture.

If you eat well and take care of yourself I think it’s very possible to be fat and healthy. I know several people where this is the case.

(I’m a very fit lean person and I still believe in body diversity)

Has she a medical issue that is making her fat then as it is not through diet?

@Flumpflimpo this is the best post I've seen on mumsnet for ages. I was in stitches at the beginning when the skinny minnies simply could not wrap their heads around you being happy about being fat. Love your body, love yourself, be happy. 😊💯

Questions, asked in a respectful way is fine, obviously. It was not fine the way some people piled-on her and demanded answers as if she was hiding something, or doing something wrong. Op has been very open and forthcoming, there was no need for it.

As long as you're not physically uncomfortable then of course there's nothing wrong with being fat. Some people naturally do carry more weight or can't eat as much and be slim, some people enjoy eating a lot.

My friend is really super active and healthy but also fat. She doesn't eat sugar or drink booze, cycles all the time, goes hiking, does loads of exercise. I've other friends who are very slim who are much less active and healthy.

So it's about how you feel in yourself. Thin doesn't always mean healthier or happier.

I'm the same.

I'm technically obese but I can still run and lift everything I need to. I have a lot more strength and energy than when I was thin.

I think this is really insulting to Indian people.

They're not stupid, they know how damaging obesity can be and they know that yes, many people actually keep themselves thin through choice.

You've taken the words of presumably a few ignorant people in India, and made it look like you're talking about Indian people in general.

Around half the adult population in India are overweight or obese, and most will be well aware of the dangers.