To quite like being fat?

Yeah, it's annoying. My mate is a very sensible, un-gimmicky, down to earth lesbian of around 65. Definitely not the 'influencer' type!

Welcome back, OP.

I guess it’s personal. I felt awful at 32 BMI. Fat, knackered, I ached when I got out of bed, I found normal life activity tired, I was sedentary because it was hard work hauling 14 stone on a 5ft 4 frame, I got ill a lot, my diet was shit, I dreaded having to buy clothes or dress up to go places and would usually cry every time I had a night out at what I saw in the mirror. I did pretend to myself for a while that I was fat and happy and it didn’t matter but I wasn’t, it was shit.

I am 21 BMI now, I feel fantastic. I am active, fit, my diet is really good, I no longer ache, I am almost never ill, I love buying and wearing clothes and feel good about myself. I think the vast majority of fat people would rather not be fat because it’s not as nice as not being fat.

But that’s just my experience.

I would say that when you are in the obese bracket, even if you do feel good it’s likely a lot of damage is being done to your body for the longer term.

I think if you can walk up a few flights of stairs, run for a bus, do all the physical things that you need to do. Are happy with how you look and fitting in clothes you've got then crack on!
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I am looking to lose a stone, I’ll still be fat at that weight according to the bmi calculation for my ethnicity but tbh I look great at that weight and I feel good at that weight too. Even though i would technically be fat.

I don’t buy the idea that you must feel like shit if you are fat tbh. I do think there are reasonable health considerations to take into account but losing weight and keeping it off is extremely difficult for a lot of people. Focusing on feeling good and wellbeing are also important. Theres a difference between exercising and not depriving yourself much and lying on the sofa snaffling macdonalds.

Being fat and happy is clearly very triggering for some MN'etters

That hasnt really got anything to do with what I said. People would quite rightly shut down someone showing off or treating as a laugh that they're a smoker, drinker, drug taker whatever but for some reason when talking about being obese, which is much harder to manage and recover from than those conditions in my view.

And as for your comment, I wonder why doctors dont prescribe obesity then to keep the population healthy, you're onto a winner there.

YANBU to be content with how you look OP, if you're genuinely happy, but what about your health and strength? (Now, and as you age.)
I'm also a size 14, but because I'm only 5' 3.5" I have a BMI of 30.4 which makes me obese (30 and above) - I accept the reality of this, but I'm not happy about it. However, nor do I want to be thin - I'd actually be perfectly happy if I could get my BMI into the upper 20s (which would still be overweight, but not obese) and I would only have to lose half a stone to achieve this, but I'm struggling with my motivation right now.
It's accepted by the medical profession that BMI is just one measure of a healthy weight and that it isn't the best measure in all circumstances e.g. rugby players will likely come out as obese when they simply have great muscle mass (muscle is heavier than fat).
These days medics are more interested in your waist measurement as an indicator of good health. A healthy waist circumference for women is generally considered to be less than 31.5 inches. A waist measurement of 31.5 to 34.6 inches is considered high risk, and greater than 34.6 inches is considered very high risk for health issues. These measurements are indicators of abdominal fat, which is associated with increased risk of heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and other health problems. My DSis, who is only a few years older than me, is now type 2 diabetic and I really don't want to be in the same position.
You may be happy with being fat now OP if you have no health problems, but being overweight does increase your risk of disease, especially as you get older, so there will come a time when you have to face the reality of the impact being obese takes on your health.

Glad you are enjoying life OP.

I would say though, having gotten pretty fat in recent years, I think the body likes gaining weight, rather than actually being fat. As in, your body goes "Carbs?! Sugar?? Hooray! Gain that weight!! We'll survive the winter!!" And pumps out a load of reward hormones. Once your actually just sustaining weight though, even at a fatter level, your body doesn't pump out the reward hormones (unless you carry on getting more and more obese). So you're just overweight, with all the associated niggles, and no lovely chemical cheering you up.

If you really let yourself go too (stones, not lbs), you don't snap back properly either, I'm discovering. I'm all sags and wrinkles as it comes off again 🫤

I’m about ten stone and can’t run for shit, so good for you.

No, I don’t think anyone who is fat is happy being fat. They may be happy generally but not happy just to be fat. You aren’t happy or you wouldn’t be considering losing weight in September. Everyone knows the implications to health and people usually get fatter as they age too, causing more issues. I’ve been ‘overweight’ according to the NHS BMI calculator and was miserable. My knees hurt and I felt heavy and cumbersome. 3 stone off and I look and feel great. I would never want to put that weight back on.

I’m not sure why you put this post up! Your reactions show subconsciously you are not happy with your weight otherwise you would not be efging snd hedging at everyone!

Oh and my BP last time I checked (45 mins ago) was 109/58.

Well you know what, I’m a size 16. I’m fit, I run, I have a good diet and I love the way I look. Because compared to the size 24 I was last September being a 16 is incredible. I don’t feel tired (well apart from the normal life pressures and an incredibly physical job!).
you do you.

So you would rather be fat... ok then....I give up. No concern for your health then?

did You think about this at all before you wrote it? Given how many people literally die from obesity related conditions.

She asked "Am I being unreasonable to quite like being fat?"

She didn't post on 'chat' - I'm happy being fat or whatever,.

She posed a question demanding an answer, was she being unreasonable or not.

I think it also depends on things like waist to hip ratio. I think it’s absolutely fine to not be a perfect BMI but if you are carrying weight around your waist then thats probably going to be quite bad for you. I don’t agree with torturing yourself to be as thin as possible (unless it makes you happy) but I think theres probably a point at which excess weight will make you feel miserable in the long run if it impacts your health.

I do get the bit about the expectation that you should want to be aesthetically pleasing though. That bit sucks.

As a nurse I disagree with what the nurse told you about sepsis! If you’re overweight it and I’ll you cannot use your intercostal muscles correctly which increases the risk of a chest infection! You can be overweight and fit, however you are still at increased risk of diabetes etc so it then comes down to your definition of fit!

Having been a size 16-18 almost constantly since I was a teenager apart from some brief spells of being slimmer due to extreme dieting, it's quite strange now mounjaro is giving me the choice almost.
I've lost over 3 stone and am a reliable 14, sometimes 12. Still overweight at BMI 27.

But I think I'm happy being a bit chubby and rounded, it's part of who I am.

🍽Cool

Do you have children OP?