To quite like being fat?

You lost a stone and a half in 3 weeks?! Wow!

If you like being fat, then why are you aiming to try to lose weight again in September? That makes no sense.

I am fat. I hate it. I hate the way I look and the way I feel.

Hi op I know how you feel. I'm 5 foot 8 and a size 16 and sometimes 18 on the bottom. I would describe myself as tall and curvy with a bit of a tummy and a slightly chubby face (which can look chubby with the wrong camera angle for example). I do have quite large feet and hands so it is sort of in proportion. Don't look hideous and still attract the - particularly older - male gaze which is another thing entirely. I have some days where I would love to be a size 14 - 16 again, smaller stomach, slimmer face, slimmer legs. I have other days where I feel comfortable where I am. I am always on the go with work and the kids etc so physical activity is there its just to lose the weight I know I would have to walk 1.5 hours a day and go back to a largely vegetable diet and frankly I can't be bothered. I've done this enough times to know I can do it, but when I stop being very strict with my diet, the weight comes back. So yep its a difficult one. I was very skinny when I was young and didn't feel at all feminine. Now I am a size 16 at 5 foot 8 I do have curves and have boobs that the young me desperately wanted! So there is that.

You lost weight
Your fitness will have improved and what you were achieving would have improved
or are you saying you never improved as the weight dropped? Your running speed remained the same? You recovery post circuit training didn’t improve? Your flexibility in yoga didn’t improve?

But the op told us her lowest weight

and then said she was happiest at current weight

not “rude” to ask what this “happy” weight is

I have been 13 stone at 5’5. It was easy to run, lift weights, box, do conditioning training for the boxing, rocket yoga… none of it was harder than it is at 12 stone or 11.5 stone.

3 weeks ago I couldn't take one more minute of being fat so did something about it and I've lost a stone and a half.

I was living half a life.

But if you feel good, fair play op.

OP is reacting to the comments made towards her. Demands to know people’s weight and if she has children because she is over weight is rude. Nothing nice to say scroll past.

I often think about that, like if someone just knocked on my door 3 times a day with a meal and said..eat that. I'd love that. I am not overweight but my diet is definitely not the best.

Not at all
the op just seemed very angry to be asked her weight, which given the OP itself, seems a little odd not to have expected it.

13 stone at 5’3 is at a level that I would say is unhealthy no matter how happy you are. Running must be hard for a start. And if you do have children, I would say not in their interest I. Terms of potential related health issues

I'm forgoing sweets because I binged on so many it made my teeth hurt! I still just had some cake though... I need to go round my mates house and copy her diet! 😂

Probably because there is a bunch of arseholes trying to bring her down. MN does not like happy people, they like to read doom and gloom to make them feel better about their lives.

Good for you, as long as you don't go around thinking us 9-stoners feel weak and cold! I'm strong, fit, full of energy and proud of my body!

Well, I am on the fence here. I don’t feel comfortable or well being overweight but if someone tells me that they do, I am not going to call them a liar! It’s great that you feel fit and well, that’s always good. It’s also great that you are happy with yourself. All this tends to lead to self care.

I would sound a note of caution though. One minute your BMI is 32 and your blood results are normal….but it doesn’t take much upheaval in life for that to slip….suddenly without much wriggle room your bmi is significantly even higher and especially when you hit a certain age…overnight your blood results on are the road to hell.

So relax and enjoy your summer. Keep the positive attitude going, but like you yourself said you probably would…try in due course to find a sustainable way to get the weight heading back down to a level that will be better for your future.

If I had a pound for every time I heard that, only for that person to lose weight saying that they were never happy fat - it was just a defence mechanism. I honestly don’t believe anyone is happy fat.

I loved being fat but when I commented that on a post a while back I got a MN pile on! My husband still fancies me regardless of size and I found people treat you differently.
Sadly I bust my knee so have had to lose weight now, and yes, I'm definitely colder and more miserable but not in pain so it's a trade off!

you may well be happy with your weight op

but on the basis of this thread, you don’t seem a very happy person!

Because saying that you are going to stick at an obese BMI knowing the health issues that are proven to be linked to excess weight…. Well, seems somewhat reckless if you have children.

Sounds like she eats very healthily. I am super impressed she can forgo sugar. I often wondered if you could get un-used to it. Not that I plan to try it of course :)

I've been overly thin and was freezing cold and tired all the time.

I got that way through doing lots of exercise when I was training for a particular endurance race. I didn't diet, my diet was really healthy and I tried to eat extra but couldn't keep up with how much energy my body required for what I was asking it to do. By all metrics I was extremely healthy (low heart rate, blood pressure, normal range BMI, great cardio and strength fitness), but I was also tired, irritable and freezing bloody cold.

I'm not overweight now (size 8/10), but I do absolutely notice that I'm not so cold and tired and feel much much stronger in my own body, even if I can't do a bunch of press ups anymore.

So I get what you mean completely.

But I have also had some health issues recently (unrelated) and I noticed loads of doctors mentioned weight - as in - well you're not overweight, so there's nothing to do there. Which gave me the impression that if you do end up with a health issue, and are overweight, the NHS might well tell you to manage that first before they'll give you any help.

If it's a choice between healthy and happy or unhappy and thin - then rock on, good for you for prioritising wellbeing over aesthetics. I definitely would!

She eats fruit, drinks alcohol free lager, eats hearty meals. She doesn't really look flabby, more big and kind of muscular.
I am impressed she can forgo added sugar fully. But you get un-used to the taste and fruit even tastes super sweet I think.

I do think people's build plays a part as I've a friend who's very skinny but seems to eat quite a lot, and always be hungry.

I don't eat much but if I did I'd put on weight really quickly round my belly and face.

In reality it's because on some conscious level you given up ambitions of maintaining a healthy weight.

Ozempic dispensed of this fat pride notion.

If any fat person could press a button that would make them slim, they would.

I think everyone has a comfortable weight where they feel well, that is easy for them to maintain while eating well, and which allows them to do the things they want to do. For some people this will be quite slender and for others, bigger. I think you can tell people who are not at their best weight, they might look out of proportion, or feel tired/cold/weak, or breathless or whatever. I recently lost a bit and feel almost myself again. But I’m not doing a diet, I am trying to eat reasonable portions of healthy, unprocessed food. Good for you OP to be happy and healthy in your body.

(Also a bit confused. Surely a size 14 is a size 14 whether you’re 5’10 or 5’0? How does height make a size 14 either really obese or absolutely fine?)

Sunnysidedeepdown .I walk the dog each day and eat 5 fruit an veg also. Don't drink Alcohol at all have never smoked. Still need a nap most days! Bryony is not a typical example I know.however the diet industry and esp Ozempic etc is making a lot of money from people desire to be a certain shape. God forbid if you were on a diet and had cancer you need every scrap of strength to fight back !