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Greens0172 · 2025-07-22T13:58:10+00:00

I hate working. Im 35. Thats it thats the thread

Sidebeforeself · 26/07/2025 15:17

CherryYellowCouch · 22/07/2025 15:45

If it makes you feel better OP I know a couple who came into a great deal of money at about your age. They both gave up work and did nothing for 6 months.

They went back to work after that. Without work, life lacked a fulfilling framework.

15 years on they are both still working.

You see, to me that shows a complete lack of imagination .

Each to own I know, but I think its pretty sad if you cant find fulfillment in other ways other than work

GreenGully · 26/07/2025 15:12

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Yesyourecorrect · 26/07/2025 15:11

I work part time, so feels like best of both worlds. Lots of “me” time, but also love going in to office, chatting with colleagues and feel like I make a difference in what I do. I will hold on to that for as long as possible!

DemonsandMosquitoes · 26/07/2025 15:09

I’m out in 15 months at 55. I think about it every day. Nurse.

ohyesido · 26/07/2025 15:08

Join the club

Yesyourecorrect · 26/07/2025 15:08

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:33

Another irrelevant comment. You're really pushing your luck with me at this point. I kid you not.

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Is that a….threat?

If so, if that poster continue to push their luck with you…. What would you actually do?

I think you’ve just made a bit of a tit of yourself really!

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 26/07/2025 15:06

ilovesooty · 26/07/2025 12:28

I hope you get something else soon
I'm sorry to hear that.

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Thank you. Been there over 20 years and now I have to help close the charity. It's a shitty situation.

ilovesooty · 26/07/2025 12:28

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 25/07/2025 20:46

I like my job, but I won't have it soon and will probably just have to take whatever job I can get, which is a whole other issue.

I hope you get something else soon
I'm sorry to hear that.

GreenGully · 26/07/2025 12:18

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Coming from someone who just called me a dick for defending myself....
Who have I wound up on this thread? You've come out of nowhere.. AGAIN.. with a different username. I know it's you and it's getting ridiculous.

Muffsies · 26/07/2025 12:04

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I'm the dick? Not my husbands ex wife who is stalking me on here and attacking me out of nowhere. Another username Laura?

Muffsies · 26/07/2025 11:35

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 25/07/2025 20:46

I like my job, but I won't have it soon and will probably just have to take whatever job I can get, which is a whole other issue.

Good luck 🙏

Muffsies · 26/07/2025 11:33

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 26/07/2025 08:26

I absolutely love my job, no day is the same and we have such a laugh within our office (NHS admin)

That's good to hear. Work can be hard, it can take a toll physically and mentally, but if everyone does a bit to try and lift each other up it makes all the difference.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 26/07/2025 08:26

I absolutely love my job, no day is the same and we have such a laugh within our office (NHS admin)

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Luckyingame · 25/07/2025 20:49

Catsandcannedbeans · 22/07/2025 17:46

I had a pretty “satisfying” career pre kids. Used my degree, had progression, when I gave it up to stay at home and tutor part time my mum was furious. Truth is, I hate working, and I REALLY hate working for other people. Not bad now I’m self employed and can work from my house, teaching the kids I want to teach. If you can, I’d look into being self employed. It’s more stressful in a lot of ways, but the thing that irked me about every job I’ve had before is other people/management.

If you can identify what you hate that will help. Is it management? Is it the day to day tasks? Is it your field of work? You will probably always hate working, but identifying what is the worst bit and focusing on changing that will make it more bearable.

My sister married for money, doesn’t work, but she’s married to an absolute pig. Only saving grace is he’s much older, so hopefully he drops first. Seeing her marriage when I was a teenager scared me into working hard and put me off the marrying for money thing.

Your last paragraph... that a shame. About him being a pig and dropping off.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 25/07/2025 20:46

I like my job, but I won't have it soon and will probably just have to take whatever job I can get, which is a whole other issue.

Dancingsquirrels · 25/07/2025 20:42

At 35, my DSis and i were both unhappy at work, but felt we'd left it too late to change direction

20 years later -

She's still in a similar role, hating every minute, poor mental health, desperate to retire

I was forced to take a different role, turns out I'm damn good at it, absolutely love it, in no hurry to retire and Friday night / Monday morning all feels the same to me. And I'm hugely grateful for this

So, at 35 it's not too late to change direction and you have approx 30 years ahead of you. Important to enjoy what you do

Luckyingame · 25/07/2025 20:42

Marry rich.
Be clever.
Put yourself first.
Unless born into money, I cannot think about anything better/instant.
But, be clever. Even in 2025, not much has changed.

LavenderHaze19 · 25/07/2025 20:42

Muffsies · 22/07/2025 15:37

I'm 47, been working for 31 years.. private sector, public sector and not-for-profit sector; all have their pros and cons.

My only advice is to not stay in one particular job for more than 7-10 years absolute max. I've seen people make this mistake and stay too long, even if they started loving their job, they end up being taken for granted and feeling dissatisfied, then the resentment kicks in and the emp'ee/emp'er relationship breaks down.. then they get managed out or redundant, or they become too old to get the step-up they were waiting for, or too frightened to work somewhere new because their skills became out dated. Don't become jaded and work yourself obsolete, your employer won't care about all those years of loyal service.

If you've realised it's time to move on, do it now. You need a new challenge to keep your skills fresh. Also, get a stocks & shares LISA and start making your retire early fund now.

I think this is really sound advice - I’ve made this mistake (staying too long in one place).

The trick is to find the balance between jobhopping and overstaying and I think the timeframe suggested by this poster is about right.

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:33

Faceitprune · 25/07/2025 20:29

Oh. Shit. Don’t worry @GreenGully i won’t be engaging with you further. Just seen you’re all over mumsnet waxing lyrical about how we should all vote Reform 🤢

Another irrelevant comment. You're really pushing your luck with me at this point. I kid you not.

GreenGully · 25/07/2025 20:30

Faceitprune · 25/07/2025 20:22

Laura? Is that someone you know?

and you speak as though there’s more than you?

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Look, it doesn't take Poirot to realise it is you.

You have name changed today. You have somehow come across a thread that I happen to be on and know details of my life (allegedly from reading other posts)
What would possess you to read up all the other posts I have made from what I have written on this thread? Let me see... because you know my username and you know it is me. I don't feel the need to change it daily like you do.

You got very personal and attacked me out of nowhere. No random PP would behave like that.

I can spot you a mile off. The language, the use of emojis etc.

This is getting pathetic. Enjoy your time off work over the summer holidays.

Faceitprune · 25/07/2025 20:29

Oh. Shit. Don’t worry @GreenGully i won’t be engaging with you further. Just seen you’re all over mumsnet waxing lyrical about how we should all vote Reform 🤢

LavenderHaze19 · 25/07/2025 20:29

Muffsies · 24/07/2025 16:44

If i manage to retire early I'm absolutely up for doing some voluntary work. My dad helped children at the local primary school with extra reading and writing when he retired from his full-time job at 55 (he always had a small self employed income), until he was about 80. The school named it's library after him after he died.

I'm trying to do the same, I have a self employment along side my full-time job, which is going towards my retire early fund. I'm probably more up for helping teenagers at the local youth club, than primary kids though.

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That is lovely, I would love to do that.

Anyway OP I also hate working and am nowhere near being able to retire. But after a lot of thinking I’ve concluded that I don’t hate working in and of itself, but I hate my current job. So I’m currently going all out to find a job I really like. Had an interview today that I felt good about.

Bryonyberries · 25/07/2025 20:29

I think the problem we have with working is that there is a lack of choice. We have to do it to pay to live in our society. There is no wriggle room, especially if you are the sole adult earner. And it take up our whole productive life. We only get our freedom back when we are knackered and old (and getting older by time many of us will be able to retire).

I’ve always wanted to be an author. I’ve written novels but once I became a single parent and sole earner my opportunity to earn through writing novels was taken from me as it is difficult to make a regular income from it unless you have already managed to get a publisher. I then lacked the time to do so as I was working full time and caring for children. It is something I may have time to get back to now my children are older but my writing skills are very rusty now.