SIL furious niece cut her knee.

what a patronising post! You must be perfect .

Never offer to babysit again. She'll soon learn. Is she at nursery or a childminder? Mine used to bring an accident form home every other day! If she treats babysitters like this she will have no childcare options soon.

@echt
Am happy to be 'tiresome' - happy not to be a sheep and join in with the slagging off the sil.

Just think of all those scraped knees billions orlf could've prevented, not to mention a&e appointments for broken bones or concussions, if only we'd all known to "watch our children more closely" 🤣

My verdict on our first five years was that if we brought up our first as we had to bring up our second, life would have been much easier! But maybe we all have to learn ....

I don't think you did anything wrong OP. I think when they're really young and wobbly it's a good idea to put leggings (or short leggings) on them so they're not permanently hurting their knees.

I think your SIL is being a bit daft but I'd allow her some leeway if it's her first, as it's hard seeing them first hurt themselves even when it's only minor! I'd just say sorry she scraped her knee and reassure her you were close by supervising. She will probably get less anxious in time!

I definitely have PFB syndrome, and would've felt a bit sad, if my DD cut her knee at that age but I wouldn't have held it against anyone. Accidents happen and it wasn't your fault. Your sil is being very unreasonable.

She sounds crazy.
Toddlers fall over all the time it's a normal part of development
Poor child is not going to be able to play properly if she she never in a position of possibly falling over.
You did nothing wrong

Held onto my hypermobile autistic kid for a lot longer than that. Does she have reasons to hold on? Four year olds can still be unpredictable and bolt.

Oh do give over. So tiresome.

Don’t worry OP. Your sister will learn. You can’t stop a small child from falling over from time to time, even when you’re watching them like a hawk. It happens so quickly. There doesn’t even need to be any sort of trip hazard. It just happens. In the meantime, no more babysitting for a while. Excellent. She’ll be back when she needs you. Shouldn’t be long!

Hahahaha! I do love a comedy comment.

Hmm I don’t know. A very wobbly 13mo - I think I would have been helicoptering. Tripping is almost guaranteed. I think it’s reasonable to feel a bit upset the first time your baby gets hurt. Also, if your 3yo is “permanently covered” in scrapes and bruises, you could teach her to be a bit more careful as I think that’s a bit much. People can be a bit too “cool mum” on here. The reality is that you need to take proper and careful care of small children.

Her first, I take it? You're not unreasonable, it's just one of those things. People can be a bit nuts about first babies.

My first, I had a proper chart with exact amounts of formula he had at exact times, every bout of colic, every time he cried for no reason, I was absolutely batshit. I didn't trust anyone with him except my mum and I cried when he got bitten by a bug, playing in the garden.

By the fourth, I'd shove them at whatever unsuspecting relative wanted them and run for the hills! My third tried to kiss a bee, got stung and I just said 'well she won't try it twice.'

Precious First Born. Lucky she didn't my one and only. First time he got on his feet he smacked his face into the floor! Quick check by the GP, all fine.

Just say 'that's fine' to the 'threat' of never babysitting again. Don't forget to remind her though - when things get tough all threats get forgotten in my experience.

What’s pfb?

Jesus she needs to get a grip as she’s got way worse to come! Can’t even count how many times my 3 year old has bashed his head/face, fallen over and scraped his knees, covered in bruises constantly 😂 He’s got a gray tooth from falling over at school and whacking it on a plant pot 😬 I couldn’t be arsed with her PFB syndrome. He’s also my first and I’ve never been like that!

I think you will have to decline looking after her from now on.

I wonder if you and I share a SIL, this sounds very familiar. We have stopped offering to babysit

Ugh. If anyone's being precious, it's your SIL who needs a good boot up her precious backside.

On the bright side, no more babysitting for her!

I actually feel sorry for your SIL. Yes, she is completely ridiculous, but being so anxious is not a choice. It must be obvious it's just a tiny scratch with a small plaster.

You've done absolutely nothing wrong, no one would even have considered to call a parent about it. Just stay away until your SIL becomes more chilled.

Yep. It’s so transparent.

We need to cut new mums way more slack. I was responsible for my nephew’s first cut knee. When my sister came back, I explained, apologised, and said I’d keep a closer eye on him next time as I hadn’t realised he was so wobbly. It doesn’t take much to step into someone else’s head for a moment and act accordingly.

that's fine, no more babysitting!

She won’t let you babysit again? Is that a punishment or a promise! She’ll be back when she needs some convenient free childcare in a few weeks, once she’s seen her daughter get a bruise or scrape while with her.