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To think an invite to the evening reception is not a wedding invite?

133 replies

twasale · 22/07/2025 06:28

An old friend had been telling me that I was going to be “invited to her wedding”. Lovely, would be nice to go.

Invite arrived and it’s for the evening reception after dinner. So essentially 8pm - midnight for a boogie.

It’s about 4 hours drive from my house and on a working day. I could stay with my parents so that’s not the issue.

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LaLaLandDreams · 22/07/2025 06:39

You’re only an ‘old friend’ so that’s usually standard for a evening invite.

Yerroblemom1923 · 22/07/2025 06:37

Evening "dos" are usually for people who you aren't that close to. Otherwise they'd invite you to the main event. Isn't that how weddings work? Guess it's hard not to be too offended, just know closer friends and immediate family come first and if the wedding only has room for eg 50 people the bride will choose her nearest and dearest for that.

Cam1981 · 22/07/2025 06:35

You are an old friend so why do you think you should be invited to the sit down part ? If you don’t want to go don’t go. I’ve never understood the outrage over evening invites on here.

autienotnaughty · 22/07/2025 06:34

Ive no issue with evening invites. I think it’s lovely to be able to include extra people in your day but if someone said I was invited to their wedding yes I would assume day.
I wouldn’t travel far for an evening do though or incur extra expenses such as hotel.

MidnightPatrol · 22/07/2025 06:32

I wouldn’t bother going, no.

I don’t understand why this even exists within weddings to be honest, I don’t get why anyone would go.

MaryBeardsShoes · 22/07/2025 06:31

Oh my God not this AGAIN!

WhatNoRaisins · 22/07/2025 06:30

I think evening only invitations are cheeky for people that need to travel. It should just be for local acquaintances. If she actually told you that you were being invited then it's quite rude.

Linenpickle · 22/07/2025 06:30

Has she kept numbers down for the main part due to money? It’s a big ask to travel 4 hours for the evening in a work night. I would probably decline.