Friend didn’t show up

I had a similar-ish situation. Can I just say, OP, that it can be pretty embarrassing to accept to yourself that you think you’re better friends than the other person does. I had someone I thought I was genuinely close to but I wasn’t, I was just convenient sometimes. When I pulled away (a good 6-7 years ago) it became very clear that she didn’t care that much and tried absolutely nothing to keep in touch/make plans. I didn't ghost her, I’ll like a SM post sometimes and if she text me I’d reply but it’s good knowing where I stand and moving on with real friends.

Your rude friend is no friend! She’s not even apologised for not showing up, for costing you more money than needed for food/cooking, she’s a pain in the arse and entitled little cow.

She is not a friend is she? Sounds like you life is not being enriched for having your friend in it. She is rude and unkind. Just ignore her and she will slowly get the message, but I don’t think she will be bothered.

Take a deep breath and find your self esteem. Then have nothing more to do with this person, ever. She wastes your time and your efforts. And she clearly doesn't give a flying fuck.

I would have to comment something to her.

Where's you self esteem OP? This woman doesn't give a shit about you. Cut her off.

I don’t think she hold you in the same regard.

Based on this revelation it is clear that she isn’t bothered about you. She evidently had a better offer on Saturday and didn’t have the manners to be honest enough with you by turning down your invitation……she simply didn’t bother to show up. She is no friend, move on, don’t pursue, you’re worth far better.

Sounds like she just couldn’t be bothered at the last minute, or got a better offer. You, your company, your food, your hospitality, your trouble weren’t worth it to her. Maybe she just couldn’t be bothered to be the good fun girl.
She dismissed you out of mind. Not only should you feel really hurt at her disrespect and disdain for you but you should also recognise her spectacular lack of any manners whatsoever. Who wants to associate with that. That’s not good fun is it.
Don’t set yourself up for that fail ever again OP. Her behaviour reflected badly on you if the other couple knew she was expected.
No drama …just don’t contact her again. Move on, have no interest in her good fun company. Provide your own.

You say she has form for this
Is it since she's been with her partner?
It could be him scuppering things everytime and not her
If thats the case try get her on her own for a coffee and a chat ask her if everything is ok
If it's not the case then find another friend and drop her

Op she isn’t a friend at all is she. She might be ‘fun’ but she has zero respect for others, and sees you as a free option if she can be bothered.

I would tell how utterly rude she is to resurrect my pride and dignity and block her indefinitely.

Unfortunately, she appears to hold you in utter contempt. I would cut this one loose.

Id be letting know how rude she is.

I would give her a piece of my mind.

Its one thing to not turn up but the least she could have done is texted and apologised to say she can’t make it.

No way would I be friends with someone with such little respect for me.

I would rather have no friends, than ones who treat me like this.

Call her out for it and focus on the friends who deserve your friendship.

Bin her… then she is the one who feels rejected when she eventually works it out

Op
is she one of only two friends you have or something?

because I’m confused why you’d are persisting with this.

this person doesn’t want to be your friend, and given her behaviour - you really shouldn’t want to be hers

Oh God, one of those. Good company? I'd be judging her sorry arse as to how many other people she lies to and lets down and yet swans around being "good company" like nothing has happened and butter wouldn't melt in her mouth.

Im normally a let it go type of person but on this one, I'd definitely contact her and tell her she's a disgrace.

If possible, resend her the very message she sent you saying she'd definitely be joining you.

Let it drift. See how long it takes for her to make contact.
I decided to do that with a few of my friends last year when I realised I was the one making all the effort and doing all the running. My life is happier without them.

The only unreasonable thing is to be reluctant to ditch a flaky friend who doesn't give a bugger about letting you down.

I would never contact her again or invite her to anything again. If I saw her out and about at parties etc I would then say hello.
Specularly self absorbed.
If I did keep making an effort I would question why the need to keep friends with someone who viewed me with such little regard and didn't care about me at all.

I would honestly be worried that her partner was abusive and wanted to stop her going.

OK that makes a little more sense. Just do no effort catch ups then, with other people in pubs etc where it makes no difference if she shows. I'd still confront her about it though, especially when you've cooked food and told her about it. I don't actually know if I could remain being friends with someone so self centred tbh

She is breath taking rude
She doesn’t give a flying fig about you

have some self respect op