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I'm fine going by myself

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JustTalkToThem · 22/07/2025 04:01

If a friend suggest to you to go to a show/concert/event and as part of the invitation says "I'm happy to go by myself, but would love for you to join me ..."

Is that rude?

Unreasonable: RUDE!
Not Unreasonable: not RUDE!

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marcopront · 22/07/2025 08:07

thelakeisle · 22/07/2025 05:17

Yes, you can. You will see a tick appearing on the correct one, hit it a few times if it doesn't immediately change. I just changed mine, twice, and it worked both times.

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Have you considered the possibility that it could be different on the app to the web browser? It could be different with different browser or different apps.

thelakeisle · 22/07/2025 05:17

Empress13 · 22/07/2025 05:03

No you can’t

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Yes, you can. You will see a tick appearing on the correct one, hit it a few times if it doesn't immediately change. I just changed mine, twice, and it worked both times.

BlueJuniper94 · 22/07/2025 05:15

bananafake · 22/07/2025 05:04

This. It's actually ultra polite not putting you on the spot.

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I agree. No pressure, but they'd love to have you

Isitreallysohard · 22/07/2025 05:15

Samiloff · 22/07/2025 04:12

I don’t see that as rude at all. On the contrary, it’s giving the other person a get-out if they don’t want to go, rather than making them feel they have to accept the invitation even if they don’t really want to.

This. They're not trying to guilt you into it?

CurlewKate · 22/07/2025 05:14

Anything but rude-she’s saying that you being there would actively improve the experience for her!

BlueJuniper94 · 22/07/2025 05:14

CountryQueen · 22/07/2025 04:27

Clicked the wrong one too

😅 I was wondering what on earth the reasoning was from those saying this is rude!

niadainud · 22/07/2025 05:12

Empress13 · 22/07/2025 05:03

No you can’t

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Yes you can.

Perhaps not on the app?

CatRescueNeeded · 22/07/2025 05:11

Empress13 · 22/07/2025 05:03

No you can’t

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I’ve just tested and definitely works for me (using web browser)

PollyBell · 22/07/2025 05:04

Why would it be rude?

bananafake · 22/07/2025 05:04

Shenmen · 22/07/2025 05:02

Definitely not rude. Love you to come but no pressure if you can't.

This. It's actually ultra polite not putting you on the spot.

Empress13 · 22/07/2025 05:03

CatRescueNeeded · 22/07/2025 04:59

You can change your vote by just clicking the other one

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No you can’t

Shenmen · 22/07/2025 05:02

Definitely not rude. Love you to come but no pressure if you can't.

CatRescueNeeded · 22/07/2025 04:59

SaintGermain · 22/07/2025 04:14

I clicked the wrong one!

Shes not being rude at all.

You can change your vote by just clicking the other one

CuriousKiteFlyer · 22/07/2025 04:52

No not rude it's considerate, no pressure either way.

CountryQueen · 22/07/2025 04:27

Clicked the wrong one too

SaintGermain · 22/07/2025 04:14

I clicked the wrong one!

Shes not being rude at all.

Samiloff · 22/07/2025 04:12

I don’t see that as rude at all. On the contrary, it’s giving the other person a get-out if they don’t want to go, rather than making them feel they have to accept the invitation even if they don’t really want to.

Topseyt123 · 22/07/2025 04:07

Not rude and wouldn't bother me.

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