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Would you report a friend for benefit fraud?

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Acompletelyrandomname · 21/07/2025 23:45

The scenario:

Your child is friends with their child, that's how you know them. You're friendly and see them for play dates but you're not especially close to them as a person.

They split up with their DH after years of infidelity and the DH moved out.

She is now claiming benefits as a single parent a year on but you suspect the xDH might be living there again.

Considerations:

I think she would qualify as being a disabled person based on health problems. They also have a disabled child.

Would you report this woman?

YABU - No
YANBU - Yes

I've name changed.

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Acompletelyrandomname · 21/07/2025 23:58

PaxAeterna · 21/07/2025 23:53

You don’t even seem to know if her exDH is living there again.

I know he's there a lot and the DC said themselves that he is.

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Acompletelyrandomname · 21/07/2025 23:56

If she had outright told you he doesn't live there and said some things that would appear to confirm that, but then their DC said things that contradict mums version and then outright says he lives there.. would that influence your positions at all?

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PaxAeterna · 21/07/2025 23:53

You don’t even seem to know if her exDH is living there again.

Summerartwitch · 21/07/2025 23:49

Here we go another benefit bashing thread about a 'friend'...

Mind your own business.

You know nothing about her financial situation, her private life or her health issues so keep your 'suspicions' to yourself.

SpiceGhoul · 21/07/2025 23:49

Absolutely not especially not based on a suspicion you may have. I couldn't cope with the guilt.

Fragmentedbrain · 21/07/2025 23:49

It's very common for couples to fraudulently claim UC/hb as though they have separated. In general I would report it because fraud undermines provision for the genuinely needy.

ilovesooty · 21/07/2025 23:48

No. In any case all you have is suspicion. Why did you feel you had to name change?

Mrsknowitall · 21/07/2025 23:48

I’m thinking you have to much time on your hands

TheTwitcher11 · 21/07/2025 23:47

TheTwitcher11 · 21/07/2025 23:47

No, based on her child being disabled.

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And tbh I wouldn’t snitch anyway lol

TheTwitcher11 · 21/07/2025 23:47

Acompletelyrandomname · 21/07/2025 23:45

The scenario:

Your child is friends with their child, that's how you know them. You're friendly and see them for play dates but you're not especially close to them as a person.

They split up with their DH after years of infidelity and the DH moved out.

She is now claiming benefits as a single parent a year on but you suspect the xDH might be living there again.

Considerations:

I think she would qualify as being a disabled person based on health problems. They also have a disabled child.

Would you report this woman?

YABU - No
YANBU - Yes

I've name changed.

No, based on her child being disabled.

HedgehogOnTheBike · 21/07/2025 23:46

No, just because it's none of your business. You are not the stasi

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