Would you report a friend for benefit fraud?

This, also the fact the OP has said it’s the DC who innocently told her. How cruel for them to be living in these circumstances and unknowingly be the cause of their vulnerable mother getting into trouble - leading who knows where - and them all (including their disabled sibling) being worse off as a result when they are probably struggling as it is. This isn’t Nazi Germany FGS.

If it were a couple manipulating the system to fund an extravagant lifestyle which featured taking their kids to school on a horse paid for by this deception (which I’ve known happen!) it would be another matter entirely.

Try and demonstrate a modicum of human empathy, OP, rather than seethe at a family having an ‘advantage’ you don’t and be grateful you’re not in their shoes.

I don't like fraudsters ripping off hard working taxpayers, but I wouldn't report someone who's child has a disability. Have a heart ffs. Would you swap lives with them? I think not

No, on the grounds that a) you don't know and b) if they have a disabled child, the ex would very likely spend a lot of time there, co-parenting, without them being back together.

If someone was working full time, cash in hand, while claiming disability, then yes I would report them, because it's not 'snitching'. It's preventing our taxes being wasted on criminals instead of going to those who desperately need them.

Why do some adults still have the values of a 10yo?

so your kids are friends, you aren't really a friend of hers yet you do know her financial situation in that much detail? Please try harder next time.

This makes me feel all icky , I've never been on benifits fortunately however I have helped people claim in a position I had , I can takes such a long time to recieve anything your entitled to. She has a disabled child are you really that much of a vile person ?

No. Frankly, I don’t see how this is any of your business. Why do you care so much?

It could be possible the DC think he’s living there, but he’s actually just visiting them a lot. Children can get mixed up sometimes. Hardly a reliable enough source to report someone for fraud on.

It takes a special type of person to pursue a course of action that would see a disabled child suffer.

It could very well be that the partner spends some nights there and the kid thinks that's the same as living there.
Why on earth are you talking to her children about this? Stay out of it. Maybe you need a hobby.

I wouldn't. You don't even know the facts. Can't you focus on real fraud, like corporations?

Fuck no. You "suspect" it but have no evidence and it's none of your business anyway. Why on earth would you want her kids to suffer?

Well you can’t call the woman a friend if you would report her based on your assumptions. You don’t do that to a friend

Perhaps he’s financially controlling or abusive and she doesn’t want to be left up shit creek without a paddle if he ups and leaves again. I mean, let’s face it, if they’ve already split up once that would suggest that all is probably not rosey in their relationship. It’s not really right, but I’m a big believer in women being able to have access to their own income.

If she declared they were a couple she’d either lose all her benefits and have to financially rely on him entirely, or their benefits would be a joint income and he could control it. She’s not trapped by him if she claims as a single person and he decides to leave or they have fall out and split. Also, if she declares they are a living together and loses her benefit because he earns too much, she would have to wait six weeks for a new claim if they split.

The way the system is set up I’m not surprised some couples claim as single. The whole system needs looking at. I had a friend who become reliant on her abusive partner for money, she was unable to work due to chronic health issues and couldn’t leave because he brought home the money! This is a massive flaw in the law and puts a lot of women at risk.

It’s not fair on someone who works if they have to take on full financial responsibility for someone disabled/not working and neither is it fair that adults should be left in a vulnerable position where they have to rely on someone else.

I would hate a friend like you

No, because I'm not a piece of shit.

Daily Mail journo fishing alert.

Personally, just don't get involved.

No good will come from it.

Just get a hobby or a personal passion to live your life to.

You could find yourself in a whole loadda shite to get involved with it.

Children are NOT reliable in who lives where.. perhaps because both the child and mother have disabilities then dad is providing care so is indeed in the home a lot? With 50/50 arrangements becoming more common for child arrangements and more couples unable to seperate with both having adequate space for the children to spend time with the other parent, the sort of arrangement where the 'non resident' parent (not sure they even call it that anymore) cares for the children in the family home is becoming increasingly common. My sister became single when her children were teens. Her ex moved back to his mother's and he saw the children at their home as there was no space to do so at his mother's. He didn't sleep in the family home but would often be there until late in the evening, particularly if my sister was working nights.
Benefits get stopped if they wish to investigate. Be very sure of your 'facts' before triggering an investigation for someone who already has a lot going on in life. Don't ever rely on a child's word, dad could be going home after they've gone to bed. My son age 3 declared to a Cafcass officer that he lived in fimble valley and I'd apparently produced a baby brother!!!!

So a lady you know who suffered years of infidelity is claiming benefits but she's trauma bonded and probably is confused about what she wants so she's keeping her private life PRIVATE. And anyway, what the fuck has it got to do with you? Is the child safe and thriving? Has she bragged about milking the system? Or are you just the judgemental twat in the playground. Bet you'd die the second someone found out about a hard time in your life and if you were reported by a so-called friend to give her more stress and financial issues which directly affects the child. You are no hero

Hahaha. The tiny amount benefit fraud taking place is not the reason we are in the shit
It IS however, the excuse used to treat benefit recipients like criminals.

He can stay there and there be no fraud.
If he has a separate home he pays rent on or a mortgage alongside council tax then even reporting 'your friend' will be pointless.
Focus on your own life, stop listening to what children say about issues they don't understand and stop thinking the worst of your 'friend.'
Perhaps you could offer to help her out instead of criticising her.

Why do you care anyway? Are you the enforcer of the world's morals?
It doesn't affect you in any way. And you're probably wrong anyway.

No wouldn’t even come into my head. My ex use to stay over occasionally as he lived far away, we weren’t together and he slept on the sofa.

It's got frig all to do with you! Why are you like this?

Not a jot. It just is not your business.

What do you think you achieve by devoting so much thought to this?