Just for context I am 8 weeks post partum with my second baby and I will admit that I am extremely sensitive this time around and have been struggling emotionally.
Also please bare with me it’s a little wordy to explain.
However I am genuinely wondering whether I am being hormonal and over sensitive here and feel I need some advice on whether I just need to get a grip on my emotions.
DP’s sibling has just had their first baby. Difficult birth and therefore may have to stay in hospital for a couple of days.
After DP received the message of babies arrival, name weight etc from their sibling. They initially asked whether I could go tomorrow to pick some presents up for the baby as I’m currently on maternity leave. (we’ve had to wait to find out gender as parents didn’t find out what they were having)….I replied and said yes of course, I would have both of our DS’s (8 weeks and 2 years) with us tomorrow but it wouldn’t be a problem.
We were then discussing when we will meet new little one to which I said ‘ah it will be few days if SIL stays in because we won’t be able to take the boys to hospital. To which DP replies ‘well I will probably go tomorrow to the hospital.’ I then replied with, ‘oh well I would love to come,’ to which his response was ‘well he’s my brother, you will need to stay with the boys.’
I immediately burst into tears, and he asked why I was so upset and couldn’t understand at all why it had sneeped me so much.
AIBU? I just feel like we share 2 children, we aren’t married or engaged (abit of a sore subject really as we have nearly been together a decade). We have extremely close relationships with both sides of our families. And it upset me that he could be so dismissive of my wish to meet the new baby whom in my eyes is my new niece / nephew despite it not being by blood.
Please go easy on responses- but also if I’m being a total drama queen I’m happy to take it on the chin!!!