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Why don’t people understand that not everyone wants to buy a house?

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tarrantulla · 21/07/2025 19:08

We rent a flat in London. Have a big deposit but would rather invest it across several asset classes. Prices around us in zone 1-2 are dropping.

People will often say things like “oh are you saving for a deposit” or “it’s such a waste of money to rent” when in reality, for the last few years smart people in London rent and not buy!

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RubySquid · 23/07/2025 23:22

LakieLady · 22/07/2025 12:42

And in the 80s, people thought a crash would never happen, because prices had risen inexorably for decades.

The crash at the end of that decade was shocking, and prices took around a decade to recover. My house had been valued at £87.5k in 1987, I sold it at the end of 1992 for £49.5k.

If I'd bought in the mid-80s, I'd have been in negative equity for years.

I bought a flat in London in 92/3 . It had originally been £80 off k when built a couple of years previously. I bought as a repossession gor£34 k

RubySquid · 23/07/2025 23:13

soupyspoon · 22/07/2025 06:38

When I bought my first place it was common to do that, but I didnt do it, as I said, only an idiot would and many got stung

It's what the majority did ( and were encouraged to) though Doesn't make people stupid for following advice Hindsight is a wonderful thing

Hodgemollar · 22/07/2025 21:22

MyCyanReader · 22/07/2025 16:11

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You ONLY own the property if you take a repayment mortgage then you ONLY own the property once the mortgage has been repaid.

The INTEREST on the mortgage is the rent you pay the bank.

The interest on the mortgage is therefore comparable to renting a property.

Tell me you’ve never bought property without telling me you’ve never bought property.

Aspanielstolemysanity · 22/07/2025 21:20

Doris86 · 22/07/2025 21:12

Ok so I’m not buying my house, I’m just renting it from the bank?

Well I have to say the bank is the best landlord I’ve ever had. They let me live in peace, never invade my privacy to do inspections. They let me decorate the house however I want, do what I want to it and don’t get funny if I put a few picture hooks up. They don’t care how many pets I have. They don’t raise the ‘rent’ on a whim - I’m locked into a 5 year deal. So long as I keep paying the ‘rent’ they will never evict me. Best of all once I’ve lived here 25 years they give me the house for free.

All things considered I’m very happy to be renting from the bank.

Also, rent round here is about £3000 for a house our size.

Our interest payments are £700 a month, everything else we pay is paying down the capital

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 22/07/2025 21:19

So buy outside of London. It's not the only place to live. Buying isn't compulsory and if you're investing elsewhere fine but also factor renting into your old age

Aspanielstolemysanity · 22/07/2025 21:18

Doris86 · 22/07/2025 21:12

Ok so I’m not buying my house, I’m just renting it from the bank?

Well I have to say the bank is the best landlord I’ve ever had. They let me live in peace, never invade my privacy to do inspections. They let me decorate the house however I want, do what I want to it and don’t get funny if I put a few picture hooks up. They don’t care how many pets I have. They don’t raise the ‘rent’ on a whim - I’m locked into a 5 year deal. So long as I keep paying the ‘rent’ they will never evict me. Best of all once I’ve lived here 25 years they give me the house for free.

All things considered I’m very happy to be renting from the bank.

Yeah we got a 10.year deal when the children were small and interest rates were low. 10 of never worrying about that key cost going up. We are overpaying but that's a choice. The security has been amazing

Doris86 · 22/07/2025 21:12

MyCyanReader · 21/07/2025 19:20

Buying a house is essentially renting from a bank. Interest on a mortgage is comparable to rent so saying renting is a waste of money just isn't true as in some cases the Interest would be more than rent.

We bought as renting would be 4 times the mortgage Interest. We also have no need to change location.

I love having my own property and wasn't keen on renting.

Ok so I’m not buying my house, I’m just renting it from the bank?

Well I have to say the bank is the best landlord I’ve ever had. They let me live in peace, never invade my privacy to do inspections. They let me decorate the house however I want, do what I want to it and don’t get funny if I put a few picture hooks up. They don’t care how many pets I have. They don’t raise the ‘rent’ on a whim - I’m locked into a 5 year deal. So long as I keep paying the ‘rent’ they will never evict me. Best of all once I’ve lived here 25 years they give me the house for free.

All things considered I’m very happy to be renting from the bank.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 22/07/2025 19:54

deusexmacintosh · 22/07/2025 14:19

I doubt they'll have to worry much. Californian legislators are working on amendments to the euthanasia law, to allow patients with dementia to access assisted dying once they have reached the stage where they have no quality of life. A kind of advance directive made while you still have capacity, that says 'darling, I'm at stage 4/5 /6 now. 1000mg of pure nembutal, intramuscular, and read the tibetan book of the dead to me.'

Where American culture goes, Britain always follows (give or take 20 years). By the time Gen Z are getting ill, that will be commonplace. The ponzi scheme of care homes (or holding cells) for violently unhappy distressed patients trapped in a void of relentless anxiety will probably collapse. You'll be encouraged to spend your savings on a nice ceremony at the beach run by a ceremonial dying company, not an understaffed poorly run care home. Those will be for the ultra rich pensioners only.

(Or solent green 😅)

I wish we’d been legally allowed to send my poor mother peacefully into a sleep from which she’d never wake, when she was still at a stage of dementia where she couldn’t remember anything, but was often anxious about something that was all in her head - but before she became doubly incontinent, unable to recognise any of her family, or hold any sort of conversation.
So maybe at 90, rather than going on to 97, as she did.

I know 100% it’s what her former self would have wanted, too.

Aspanielstolemysanity · 22/07/2025 18:42

MyCyanReader · 22/07/2025 16:11

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You ONLY own the property if you take a repayment mortgage then you ONLY own the property once the mortgage has been repaid.

The INTEREST on the mortgage is the rent you pay the bank.

The interest on the mortgage is therefore comparable to renting a property.

Nope.
You are the legal owner. The bank has a charge secured against the property you own .

Yourethebeerthief · 22/07/2025 18:38

MyCyanReader · 22/07/2025 16:11

🤦🏼‍♀️

You ONLY own the property if you take a repayment mortgage then you ONLY own the property once the mortgage has been repaid.

The INTEREST on the mortgage is the rent you pay the bank.

The interest on the mortgage is therefore comparable to renting a property.

I think you need to use this 🤦🏼‍♀️ emoji on yourself

soupyspoon · 22/07/2025 17:22

MyCyanReader · 22/07/2025 16:11

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You ONLY own the property if you take a repayment mortgage then you ONLY own the property once the mortgage has been repaid.

The INTEREST on the mortgage is the rent you pay the bank.

The interest on the mortgage is therefore comparable to renting a property.

Who told you this?

Because they were wrong by the way.

Didnt you say you bought a property? How did you manage to do that with such an unfortunate understanding of how a mortgage and home ownership works?

ZoggyStirdust · 22/07/2025 16:53

MyCyanReader · 22/07/2025 16:11

🤦🏼‍♀️

You ONLY own the property if you take a repayment mortgage then you ONLY own the property once the mortgage has been repaid.

The INTEREST on the mortgage is the rent you pay the bank.

The interest on the mortgage is therefore comparable to renting a property.

You fundamentally do not understand mortgages…

skymagentatwo · 22/07/2025 16:50

MyCyanReader · 22/07/2025 16:11

🤦🏼‍♀️

You ONLY own the property if you take a repayment mortgage then you ONLY own the property once the mortgage has been repaid.

The INTEREST on the mortgage is the rent you pay the bank.

The interest on the mortgage is therefore comparable to renting a property.

Wrong!

You OWN the property as the electronic deeds are in the home owners name, The bank's security is noted on the Land Register for the property and owns the secured debt upon the property until the home owner pays it off.

Boomer55 · 22/07/2025 16:14

tarrantulla · 21/07/2025 19:08

We rent a flat in London. Have a big deposit but would rather invest it across several asset classes. Prices around us in zone 1-2 are dropping.

People will often say things like “oh are you saving for a deposit” or “it’s such a waste of money to rent” when in reality, for the last few years smart people in London rent and not buy!

I’ve been a renter since the 70’s and very happy. Just do you. What others think is irrelevant.

MyCyanReader · 22/07/2025 16:11

MsDDxx · 22/07/2025 07:07

But you OWN your property at the end.

Having a mortgage is not renting from the bank 😂

🤦🏼‍♀️

You ONLY own the property if you take a repayment mortgage then you ONLY own the property once the mortgage has been repaid.

The INTEREST on the mortgage is the rent you pay the bank.

The interest on the mortgage is therefore comparable to renting a property.

countingdowns · 22/07/2025 15:37

I doubt they'll have to worry much. Californian legislators are working on amendments to the euthanasia law, to allow patients with dementia to access assisted dying once they have reached the stage where they have no quality of life.

Didn't Wes say assisted dying was unaffordable? People will be left to die but it won't be with much dignity.

StresHed · 22/07/2025 14:35

I lived in HA until I bought a home (before I was too old). I paid service charge and rent and nothing was fixed quickly, or well I was once without any hot water for 8 weeks. And it just kept breaking and no one really cares about you or the state of your home

BIossomtoes · 22/07/2025 14:27

violently unhappy distressed patients trapped in a void of relentless anxiety

That’s by no means how dementia presents in everyone - or even the majority.

FastFood · 22/07/2025 14:25

You do you OP, I'm not sure many people actually care.

Personally, I'm very happy that I bought my little flat, I'll be mortgage free in 10 years or so, it's my sanctuary, I can decorate how I want, I feel connected to my local SE London community...I've rented for years like a lot of people, and never felt so much at home as I do in my flat.

I don't really care whether it's going to go up or down in value, the goal for me is to have a secure roof over my head.

deusexmacintosh · 22/07/2025 14:19

LakieLady · 22/07/2025 13:33

Social policy bods and economists have been warning about this for years.
Not only are there implications in terms of supporting them to pay their rent, when they need social care, they won't have assets to sell to offset any of the costs of it.

A friend's father has sudden onset dementia and has had to go into a care home. The cheapest place they could find that could take him is £2,200 pw. He's 85, but still incredibly fit for his age, physically, so could live for some years yet.

He has a house and investments, so no cost to the taxpayer yet apart from attendance allowance, but imagine the cost when generation rent get to that stage.

I doubt they'll have to worry much. Californian legislators are working on amendments to the euthanasia law, to allow patients with dementia to access assisted dying once they have reached the stage where they have no quality of life. A kind of advance directive made while you still have capacity, that says 'darling, I'm at stage 4/5 /6 now. 1000mg of pure nembutal, intramuscular, and read the tibetan book of the dead to me.'

Where American culture goes, Britain always follows (give or take 20 years). By the time Gen Z are getting ill, that will be commonplace. The ponzi scheme of care homes (or holding cells) for violently unhappy distressed patients trapped in a void of relentless anxiety will probably collapse. You'll be encouraged to spend your savings on a nice ceremony at the beach run by a ceremonial dying company, not an understaffed poorly run care home. Those will be for the ultra rich pensioners only.

(Or solent green 😅)

Kuretake · 22/07/2025 14:14

LakieLady · 22/07/2025 13:52

I thought at the time that the valuation was high, so possibly overvalued. I remember being astonished that it was over £80k.

It was in Croydon, and London was particularly badly affected. There was a series of interest rate rises, and there was a change to the way tax relief on mortgage interest was given. Two friends bought a flat between them and had to complete by a deadline to beat the change. My recollection is that if there were two buyers they both got tax relief, so double the amount of relief, but it was a long time ago and that may not be right! Another friend who rushed to buy with her then partner was in negative equity until well into the 1990s, so much so that when they split, she didn't have to give him any money!

Lots of people had homes repossessed because they couldn't pay their mortgages, and Croydon county court issued more repossession orders than any other court in the country.

There's a bit more detail here:

Thanks that's really interesting!

LakieLady · 22/07/2025 13:52

Kuretake · 22/07/2025 13:03

See attached picture - on average a house bought in 1987 was worth more in 1992. The drop you describe is crazy, did something terrible happen in your neighbourhood? A flood or something? Or I see you say valued rather than bought, maybe it was very overvalued by someone?

Link in case picture fails to show - https://landregistry.data.gov.uk/app/ukhpi/browse?from=1980-01-01&location=http%3A%2F%2Flandregistry.data.gov.uk%2Fid%2Fregion%2Funited-kingdom&to=1995-12-01&lang=en

I thought at the time that the valuation was high, so possibly overvalued. I remember being astonished that it was over £80k.

It was in Croydon, and London was particularly badly affected. There was a series of interest rate rises, and there was a change to the way tax relief on mortgage interest was given. Two friends bought a flat between them and had to complete by a deadline to beat the change. My recollection is that if there were two buyers they both got tax relief, so double the amount of relief, but it was a long time ago and that may not be right! Another friend who rushed to buy with her then partner was in negative equity until well into the 1990s, so much so that when they split, she didn't have to give him any money!

Lots of people had homes repossessed because they couldn't pay their mortgages, and Croydon county court issued more repossession orders than any other court in the country.

There's a bit more detail here:

UK House Price Crash - Early 90's (Graph + Data)

Data plotted onto a graph showing what happened during the UK Housing Crash in the early 1990′s.

https://www.propertyinvestmentproject.co.uk/property-statistics/house-price-crash-from-the-early-90s/

Youdontseehow · 22/07/2025 13:37

LakieLady · 22/07/2025 13:33

Social policy bods and economists have been warning about this for years.
Not only are there implications in terms of supporting them to pay their rent, when they need social care, they won't have assets to sell to offset any of the costs of it.

A friend's father has sudden onset dementia and has had to go into a care home. The cheapest place they could find that could take him is £2,200 pw. He's 85, but still incredibly fit for his age, physically, so could live for some years yet.

He has a house and investments, so no cost to the taxpayer yet apart from attendance allowance, but imagine the cost when generation rent get to that stage.

Great point!

Youdontseehow · 22/07/2025 13:35

LakieLady · 22/07/2025 12:32

It was the lack of security that really got me to buy a house, although a bad experience with a landlord that hated fixing anything was also a factor.

If we'd had secure tenancies in the UK, like they do in most of Europe, I probably wouldn't have bothered. The rental market here is totally dysfunctional in the UK imo, although I concede it may be less so in other regions (I'm in the SE). My DIL is paying £1400 a month for a tiny 2-bed flat, above a shop on a busy main road, and considers herself fortunate that she's been able to stay there for several years.

I listened to a great podcast as bout the rental market in the UK - it was last year I can’t unfortunately remember who it was - but it was about the lack of good social housing which meant millions were forced into private rentals, many of which were absolute shitholes but still cost a fortune.

A big takeaway was that since many many of these people/families were on some level
of housing benefit, the government is essentially lining the pockets of the greedy, immoral landlords. And as I say - a lot of the time for really poor quality housing.

It’s something I think Labour could do to really make a positive change if we did get building more social housing. But there is a lot of nimbyism around it - DS’ first flat is in a development surrounded by social housing and I did get comments from friends and coworkers about him living amongst “council houses” but it’s really improved the area. Lots of waste ground, graffiti, fly tipping, addicts using in the streets etc until the social housing was built. Street lighting, roads, anti social behaviour are all much better now. The housing associations manage the tenants very well and anyone causing repeated bother is out.

LakieLady · 22/07/2025 13:33

WhatNoRaisins · 22/07/2025 07:00

I don't get how they are going to keep paying more and more housing benefit for renters who retire. It's going to become unaffordable when generation rent get to this point.

Social policy bods and economists have been warning about this for years.
Not only are there implications in terms of supporting them to pay their rent, when they need social care, they won't have assets to sell to offset any of the costs of it.

A friend's father has sudden onset dementia and has had to go into a care home. The cheapest place they could find that could take him is £2,200 pw. He's 85, but still incredibly fit for his age, physically, so could live for some years yet.

He has a house and investments, so no cost to the taxpayer yet apart from attendance allowance, but imagine the cost when generation rent get to that stage.

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