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To think most people wouldn’t “stay and work through it” if they weren’t financially trapped?

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YourJadeLion · 21/07/2025 13:09

We praise resilience in relationships that are clearly dysfunctional. Remove the money and see how fast people leave.

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Wordsmithery · 21/07/2025 13:25

I think fear holds people back too - fear of bringing up kids on their own, of being lonely, of being single forever, of being judged. Whatever the money situation, it's got to be pretty bad before you pluck up the courage to leave.
But yes, there are plenty of women in miserable situations who don't have the financial freedom to go it alone.

Lolabolola · 21/07/2025 13:23

I agree. I think that’s why celebrity couples don’t last long. They’ve got options.

ChristOlive · 21/07/2025 13:15

Fully agree.

However, I do think that having to compromise is good for people. If we all lived alone in our own separate homes, doing whatever we wanted and not having to work to maintain social bonds, I don’t think we’d be happier as a society.