Always using the wrong name!

I’ve come across this a fair bit and in my experience the offender is trying to demonstrate that they have a special relationship with the child and it’s their ‘thing’ to have a special little name.

very annoying. If the child doesn’t like it she should be able to say so.

Find out the name of bil's ex and call sil that.

She's being incredibly rude. I'd correct her every single time, even if it meant interrupting her flow of speech. Poor DD is at an age where she'll take it to heart.

Sounds like she had a Hull accent or parents from Hull

Surely her dad needs to deal with this. She’s clearly being a bitch, as you says she’s difficult generally.

Pull her up on it every single time. It’s rude and disrespectful. Better yet, the next time she does it and calls dd by the wrong name say ‘who are talking to’ and look at her blankly. She’ll soon catch on .

Oi SIL. her name is Amelia not Amelie.
Oi SIL her name is Amelia not Amelie

OI SIL are you being rude or just thick?

I’d say “sil dd is wondering why you don’t know her name by now. Could you try to say it properly please”

@AppropriateAdultthat would drive me mad, especially the Soduku thing. I remember when I was a teenager, rehearsing for a performance with my theatre group. It was for Holocaust Memorial Day and one of the girls couldn’t pronounce ‘Soviet’ but instead kept on saying ‘Serviette Union’, even after we took the piss mercilessly corrected her. It was actually quite embarrassing because we were performing to a group of Holocaust survivors and her mispronunciation massively detracted from the seriousness of what she was meant to be saying.

How can you not get worked up about your child’s auntie calling her by the wrong name? At 6?! I’d be fucking fuming, there’s no way she’s not doing it on purpose

Does she do it with anyone else’s name, or just your daughter? My MIL gets lots of people’s names wrong, and I don’t think it’s deliberate in her case - but any name that can be pronounced in two different ways (eg Evelyn, Sophia, Mia), she will always use the wrong one; Isabel will become Isabella and vice versa. She does it with lots of non-name words too, inverting syllables (so Sudoku becomes Soduko), and is totally unaware that she’s getting it wrong.

Get SiL to play schools with your DD and they can practice writing each other's names.

Sister in law so surely it's your OH position to correct his sister?

The second time she did it would be the time for me to say ‘why are you calling her X, her name is Y’, a third time ‘you know that’s not her name, please don’t call her that’, a fourth time? ‘WTF is your problem?’

"First, I'd take her aside and talk to her bluntly. "SIL you keep getting Amelie's name wrong and it's starting to really upset her. Her name is Amelie, not Amelia. Please use the right one."

I would say this. It's clear.

And I'd continue to correct her every single time she says it wrong.
I'd also get your DH, presumably her brother, to have a word with her too.

Have you ever asked her about it? Hey SIL, is there a reason you always get DD's name wrong?

I had this with a colleague at work where I just could not get my head around her name and continually got it wrong, even after she corrected me. It was really bothering me too. I have now made up a rhyme to help me get it right.
I'm dyslexic and I think that's maybe something to do with why I struggle sometimes, I honestly don't hear the difference sometimes in my own head?! Just saying she May not be doing it on purpose.

If she’s not hearing you in the moment I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just have a quiet word?

it doesn’t need to be a big issue just say “DD is starting to notice that you pronounce her name as Amelia, I know you’re not doing it on purpose but could you try to be more conscious please as she’s asking why you keep getting her name wrong”

I mean before resorting to being petty I'd probably do two things to ensure it's not a misunderstanding and she's just shit with names.

First, I'd take her aside and talk to her bluntly. "SIL you keep getting Amelie's name wrong and it's starting to really upset her. Her name is Amelie, not Amelia. Please use the right one."

Second, teach your daughter that it's absolutely ok for her to correct her aunt. It's a good teaching moment for her, there's nothing to be embarrassed about in correcting someone politely when they get your name wrong.

If neither of those work then bring the petty. Start calling her Uncle Dick until she gets the hint.

Id just start calling SIL a different name every single time, when she askes why you can say now she knows how DD feels.

What does she write on her birthday card? Does she get that right?

I am bad with names, its no intentional and I often feel embarrassed by it, but once I have got a name wrong, my brain keeps on saying the wrong name. Its a glitch I have and no way do I do it on purpose.

On the face of it it is rude but I would add that there’s a couple of names I really struggle with and I don’t know why. Your example is one of them. Brendon and Brandon is another. It’s like my brain has a block. It may not be deliberate - or she might be a twat. It says more about her than anything else. Teach dd to correct her - “silly auntie, that’s not my name” type response.