Comments about second baby gender

Is this a “girly” thing?

on reflection I suppose DH and I led a more male orientated lifestyle prior to TTC, think rugby club rather than dance club.

When I was pregnant literally every single person said I bet you’re hoping for a boy. Not one suggested our preference could possibly be for a girl.

Anyone who says they’ve found out the sex are going to be asked the obvious question. They are then going to be faced with someone with an opinion.

We found out for our third for bedroom space. The other two were a surprise. Clothes aren’t an issue for years. Were you worried you needed to buy a different colour or style regarding the sex?

Not being unreasonable at all, people are so weird about gender. We’ve just had our second daughter and while I was pregnant we got so many comments from people about trying for a boy next time. I’d had two miscarriages before that pregnancy as well as lots of scares/bleeds throughout so I couldn't have cared less what gender we had, as long as they were healthy.

I didn’t know the sex of mine until birth, but I know how you feel, OP. After 3 mcs I was getting hints about whether I thought baby might be a girl (DC1 is male). I made it clear, politely but firmly, that no child of mine would be a disappointment, and if others were disappointed they wouldn’t be seeing baby.

DH got a very firm ‘discussion’ from me as this came from his parents.

MIL is still convinced that I must share her disappointment at having sons and that I’m
putting a brave face on it.

Why find out and tell people? Sorry but no one cares unless it’s a different sex. Even then no one actually cares.

I had this with our first two boys, now expecting dc3 who is a girl, and I’ve now had so many gushing comments like Oo I bet your over the moon it’s a girl etc.
Obviously we are happy but we would have been happy either way, it feels like it’s inferring that our boys are inferior and we only had a 3rd dc to have a girl; which is obviously not remotely true, we wanted a baby to have another child regardless of sex!

People are clumsy and stupid.

I have 2 DDs. When we found out, My mum said 'oh darling, are you disappointed?' and my dad said 'oh, you'll have to try again for a boy then!'

As the older sister of a younger brother it really rubbed me the wrong way!!!

Anyway, just ignore and be happy for yourself that's all that matters, congratulations on DS2 :)

Incredibly annoying OP - people seem to think everyone is desperate to have one of each gender, forgetting that some of us don’t care!

I have recently announced my second pregnancy and my family mainly want to discuss if they will have red hair, as my first one does, which I am finding very annoying as they made so many moronic remarks about my first’s hair.

I’m not sure why they’re all so shocked by it, as there are plenty of people with red hair on both sides of the family!

Not unreasonable at all.

Weirdly I got a lot of comments from people saying they hoped it was a girl etc when I was pregnant with my second, and when I found out it was a girl, they started telling me how much harder it is with one of each and how they never have the same interests and aren’t as close as adults etc…

It’s bizarre. Congratulations on your baby!