Comments about second baby gender

YANBU at all.

I no longer have any qualms about telling anyone who comments on how nice it is that we have one of each, that my second child was actually another boy. He died.

It could be worse. My ex-MIL had only brothers and then had 3 sons, so said she would give 5,000 francs to either my SIL or me, whichever provided her with a granddaughter first…

I’m the same @modgepodge, I even got a congratulations card from a friend congratulating me on having “a kings family”.
Id never heard that before and if im honest it did make me feel a bit meh about her from then on in.
As for your relative throwing the scan photo back op that is disgusting on every level

I had two boys and most people were fine about it, but one person, who I regarded as a friend at the time, carried on pestering me about whether I was going to "try for a girl" until the boys were about 15 and 14. She later turned out to be a rubbish friend for unrelated reasons, so I wish now that I'd told her where to get off. I'd actually always wanted two the same, whether they were boys or girls, just because anecdotal evidence from my friends and their siblings suggested they'd be more likely to get on well.

I think I would be quite outspoken about this - "you may have been hoping we'd have a girl, but it's our baby and we are very happy with what we're getting, so please stop trying to suck the joy out of the situation for us!"

I actually think people make more assumptions based on hair than clothes. Both my son and my nephew have been mistaken for girls despite wearing quite stereotypically boyish clothes, simply because they have slightly long hair. Not long enough for a ponytail, just not cropped close to the head!

Does commercialism make it right ?

I have 3 DS’s and lots of similar comments, I just replied I’m so lucky and that seemed to shut them up. Once each baby was born the comments stopped.
Occasionally as my boys got older I had the odd comment but had a few liners that seemed to work.

One family member threw a scan photo back at us as they were so disappointed! That is disgusting behaviour. I would cut them out of my and my children's lives.

Well, they’re really weird people and I’d have no hesitation in telling them! I have 2 sons, never had any comments like that but my family are normal!

Yeah we had the same with second DD. Everyone convinced my DH would be disappointed.. we found out because we liked finding stuff out throughout the pregnancy and really why not?

YABU to talk about gender. Your children have/will have a sex, gender is made up nonsense.

Once your baby arrives people will love him. Later they will love him, or not, depending on how well you bring him up.

Really? Have you been into Next lately? M&S? Jojo?

The amount of praise I get for having been clever enough to manage one of each is quite ridiculous 😂 as above, it does seem to be the ‘ideal’ for lots of people. Very odd I agree.

my sister has 2 boys and is pregnant again. Almost everyone I’ve told has said ‘oh do you think she’s hoping for a girl?’ I know because she told me before she got pregnant that she actually thinks another boy would be easier!

You think a newborn girl wearing the same clothes her newborn brother wore is an issue? Ok. That’s not something which ever bothered me personally. Different folks and all that.

Or you’re trying to be funny. Sorry 😂😂😂

OP I'm pregnant with my 2nd boy and got exactly the same. I cant understand why people think I'd be disappointed in two boys, I'd also love a third and genuinely couldnt care less what gender they are.

There you go then. You would like to have bought girly clothes and didn’t get the chance to. Hence people felt for you.

I assume you wanted a girl, hence wanting to know the sex. It happens a lot more than people admit.

Clothes are an issue pretty much straight away surely even newborns wear clothes?

Apologies, I thought we'd moved on from girls and boys clothes. Obviously not.

? Buy more clothes ?

YANBU. The ranking of 2dc combinations for a lot of people seems to go as follows.

1. 1 of each
2. 2 girls
3. 2 boys

If no. 2 or 3 is achieved advice should be given to try for a third child in order to achieve no. 1.

(BTW I have 2 ds’s and it’s awesome.)

Congratulations on your second beautiful baby boy.

We’ve got 2 adult sons, I never wanted a daughter, and we got the “never mind” and “are you going to try again for a girl…” as if DS2 was some sort of booby prize, The answer was absolutely not, we were over the moon with what we had been blessed with, still are, and we were done.

I remember one of my best friends finding out she was pregnant with her second boy. She rang me to saying “I know you’ll be pleased for me, because I’m so pissed off with people being disappointed”, I just wish people would be more thoughtful.

Some people get weird about babies

My first born was a girl, my second born was a boy. Both my mum and Nan said…well now you have one each. That’s enough right.

despite the fact my Nan has 5 boys and a girl
my mum has two girls and a boy
my sister has two boys a girl

noooo the fact I have one each is plenty enough

In my experience people tend to ask if you’ve found out just to make conversation. They probably don’t care really but it doesn’t stop people making thoughtless comments.