Partner has just retired. Good for them. Through out our relationship, 35 years, I have done the lions share of domestic chores and worked part-time while our kids were young. I ve also cared for elderly relatives, alone (only child) for the last.4.years terminally/chronically ill. Partner has a sibling who does the most caring for their parents , who fortunately live independently. I m not doing everything anymore. I ve explained this, very clearly.and pleasantly. But I ve come up againt resistant almost immediately. I always order the shopping online. I said ,"why don't you do it" and he's gone off in a huff. AIBU