Fiance slept with a prostitute

You've had a narrow escape. The only part of the story you can really believe is that he slept with a sex worker.

There’s only one question you need to ask yourself:

If your fiance told you that she cheated on you with a male prostitute after drinking too much and being encouraged into it by a group of female colleagues at a mate’s hen party (for example), would you forgive her for being honest with you or would you be disgusted and break up with her (and then engage in vindictive behaviour like slagging her off to all your friends and acquaintances)?

I am probably a lot more understanding of people making mistakes (especially when drunk) than most of the people on this thread, but I suspect that you are not so understanding when it comes to women and simply have double standards. The women on this thread don’t hate men, they hate toxic masculine behaviour, they hate the betrayal of trust that comes with cheating and they hate the exploitation of women that is sadly the cornerstone of the sex industry. The fact that you called the prostitute a ‘skank’ in your previous post speaks volumes about your attitude towards women.

You are the one displaying hatred for women.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with women not wanting to be with men who cheat with prostitutes. Stop trying to tell women it's ok and normal and can easily happen and we should commend him for at least being honest.

No women shouldn't be grateful that at least he's honest, and that at least it was just a prostitute and he only got carried away because he was out with colleagues.

I'd imagine the reason that you're single is because of your own attitude towards women. It's just plain weird to be on MN telling women that they're wrong for having normal reactions to bad behaviour.

@BillyBobbins1

The last relationship was just me apologising and paying.

My other half doesn’t have to apologise all the time, because he’s nice to me. As am I to him.

If you’re constantly apologising then maybe you’re not behaving like a great partner in the first place.

Something to think about.

You describe women on this thread as man haters when they’ve criticised this individual man for cheating with a prostitute.

You sound so much angrier with women as a sex class than anyone does on this thread with men as a sex class.

Maybe you could have healthier romantic relationships if you didn’t so obviously hate women and feel that they don’t give you what you think you deserve.

Some counselling could be life changing for you.

So do all women think that all men are an accident waiting to happen?

Dangerously misguided.

If he was up to all sorts, he'd not be crying and confessing after the "nth" time he played away.

Would he? As my father used to say, "The problem with common sense, is that it's uncommon."

I'd be impressed with some of my exes if they lasted 30 seconds. His timing might be accurate but it was probably "post n#t clarity" that made him run!

Wow again to that last post mentality-that's the way to live your life..

His story is a load of bollocks, obviously.

I agree with everyone who’s advising you to go ahead with the wedding and play the game to strengthen your position because if you bin him off now you don’t have much on your side. So start planning now - acquire as much money as you can, strengthen your support network, take legal advice, and do online learning to acquire or enhance your skills. Don’t ever become financially dependent on anyone again.

He clearly wasn't blind drunk seeing as he remembers everything and had no issue getting home, and she did have consent, he said they convinced him.
I think it must be you who is dense considering how you're twisting this.

are you dense? he was blind drunk and woman pulled his pants down and put on condom without consent. if it was the other way around you would be irate.

It isn't SA even if his version of events is accurate, he said himself that they convinced him to do it.

Going along with 'peer pressure' or giving in to a prostitute trying to sell you sex is absolutely nothing like SA.

Lots of people (including myself) have said if his version of events is accurate its a SA

However, personally im dubious. Prostitutes have sex for the money. If they were paid and hed said no, I dont see why they wouldnt keep the money and NOT have sex with him. And if hes was "freaking out" how she managed to get this condom on and start sex with him.

But have said if its true he should report the place and his work friends to the police and his colleagues behavoiur to HR.

Get a good lawyer.

There's been many on here who have posted that they did indeed tell their partners.

If the genders were reversed, she’d stay quiet.

Women don’t confess to infidelity.

30 seconds? That’s too long for him to think no I don’t want to do this. Leave him so he doesn’t do this again.

If the genders were reversed everyone would tell her that she cheated. There is no suggestion that he was too drunk to consent, he said he was paralytic, yet he remembers it very well, he walked into the place, remembers the negotiation, remembers agreeing, had an erection, managed to have sex he also managed to run out of there and make his way home. He clearly wasn't too drunk to consent and any woman who told a similar story would be told she cheated.

this is borderline, I tripped and I accidentally felt dick first onto a naked woman territory. The 30 seconds line… classic watering down, and in any case, 1 second or 1 day; no difference. You don’t get to shag someone a little bit, you do or you don’t.

I have. I’m only here by fluke, following a google search for “best door lock brands”, which led me to the best article from a locksmith on Mumsnet.

l’m an over fifty male, fairly successful and single. Made all the mistakes. My five pence is regarded as “drivel” when I’ve actually been exactly here. The towering hatred of men on this thread is absolutely sickening, All the ladies banging the drum to lose this guy fast. He displayed honesty and incredible immaturity.

Good luck dating the players who aren’t so honest and aren’t willing to “share their feelings”.

I’m out. Perma-out. The last relationship was just me apologising and paying. Men aren’t the enemy, We are the other side of the same coin.

Don't think anyone needs to wake up here apart from the guy with a guilty conscience. It is a very detailed account...not just 'glimpses' ...maybe its you that needs to wake up, unless that is you have walked his exact path...

Yeah, the world’s oldest profession snared another drunk boy.

There was exactly nothing constructive in your comment. Zero.

I was bringing a different view from “Kill the pig”.

stop whining.

Don't you mean EX FIANCE

Do NOT marry this man. Take heed of what many posters on here are saying. The only good thing about this is that you found out before you got married.